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In marriage, the most ideal state is to have love and sex, only love and sex to achieve a perfect integration, men and women can achieve double satisfaction of body and mind, only when these two aspects are harmonious, there will be a possibility of happiness.
However, in real life, not every marriage can reach this state, and some marriages are destined to start and end in tragedy. The women in Zhang Ailing's works often experience sexual and loveless marriages, such as Cao Qiqiao in "The Golden Lock", Gu Manzhen in "Half Life", Ge Weilong in "The First Burning Incense" and so on.
How long can a sexless marriage last? There is no unified answer to this question, and the key is to analyze it on a case-by-case basis.
How far this deformed marriage can go, mainly depends on the needs of both men and women, if they are willing to go on forever, they can also persist for a lifetime, but if someone changes their minds in the middle and wants to end, then this marriage will instantly become a thing of the past.
The marriage of Georgie and Viron in "The First Incense" belongs to the type of sex and lovelessness. Perhaps, some people will stand up and retort that Ge Weilong obviously loves Georgie very much, otherwise, he would not be willing to become a social flower in order to marry him, how can there be no love in this marriage?
As the saying goes, there are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand people's eyes, and you think that Ge Weilong is married to love, but I think she is only married to vanity and greed, and Georgie is just an excuse for her to find herself to be self-depraved.
If you watch "The First Incense" a few times, it is not difficult to find that the marriage between Georgie and Ge Weilong is a transaction that takes what they need, Ge Qi wants Ge Weilong to make money for himself, and Ge Weilong wants to stay in high society, but he does not want to admit that he has fallen, so he disguises his depravity as the appearance of love and deceives himself.
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So, how long can The sexless marriage between Georgie and Veron last? The answer is already given in the book.
Georgie is a debauched male brother, he can be associated with countless women, but he has never taken any responsibility, it can be said that "a thousand flowers have been in the bush, and the leaves do not stick". Moreover, he had no requirements for women, down to servants, up to married women, even his aunt, a half-old Woman, who did not let go.
At the beginning of his acquaintance with Ge Weilong, Ge Qiqi showed amazing plucking skills, and he used a Portuguese to confess, showing his poetic side, so that Ge Weilong looked at him differently.
Later, he asked Ge Weilong to come out to play, and he used his hands and feet, and Ge Weilong, who had no love experience, could withstand such a prodding and quickly and completely fell.
Georgie is a clever hunter, he saw that Ge Weilong was moved, he quickly cleared the relationship, reminding the other party over and over again that he would not get married, let alone say "I love you". The night after Ge Weilong took the initiative to hand over her body, Georgie turned her eyes to Ni Er again, and from this point of view, Georgie had no love for her at all.
Therefore, Georgie was naturally reluctant to marry Ge Weilong. However, after all, Ge Weilong is different from Ni Er's generation, she is also a woman from a family of scholars, if she really wants to make a fuss, Qiao Qi is reasonable, and there may be a prison disaster.
Georgie is not favored, his father will certainly not help him, and will cut off his living expenses, this price, Georgie can not bear. In addition, there is another reason why Ge Qi married Ge Weilong, that is, Ge Weilong can make money for him.
Therefore, under the coercion and temptation of her aunt, Georgie proposed to Ge Weilong. It is also ironic that the money for Ge Weilong and Ge Qi's marriage was all sponsored by the uncle Situ Association. If there is really love between two people, it will definitely not be so unbearable. Both people have hands and feet, and they can support their families by doing whatever they want.
In the original work, when the aunt persuaded Qiao Qi to marry Ge Weilong, there was a description like this: "In another seven or eight years, Wei Long's income will be greatly reduced, and when she can't earn money to support the family, you can mention divorce." In British law, divorce is quite difficult, the only legal reason is adultery, you want to catch evidence of her adultery, it is not easy? ”
It was this statement that completely persuaded Georgie to marry Viron. It can be predicted that the marriage will not last long, but only seven or eight years. When Ge Weilong was disgusted by the big money lords and could no longer meet Georgie's materialistic needs, she would also reach the moment of abandonment.
Marriage with sex and lovelessness is already deformed, the marriage of Georgie and Viron, from the beginning, is full of calculations, Georgie has won The earning power of Viron, and Viron is the identity of Mrs. Joe, and the marriage of mutual calculation is doomed not to last.
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