Wen/Ge Lord
Original Emotional Beauty Series
Regarding "whether there is a pure friendship between the opposite sex", it has always been an undecided topic.
Just as the so-called opposite sex attracts, the opposite sex has been together for a long time, and it is easy to break through the boundaries of friends.
Perhaps in each other's hearts, they all feel that the relationship is just staying at the level of friends, and repeatedly tell themselves not to have other ideas about him, but feelings are always unreasonable, and once the emotions burn up, it is difficult to control.
Psychological studies have shown that two friends of the opposite sex will have an "exposure effect" in the process of continuous contact. Coupled with the fact that the two are friends with each other and have a certain emotional basis, it is easy to produce ambiguity or good feelings.
It is no wonder that there are always people who say that the so-called pure friendship between men and women is most likely just one party secretly having a crush.
Either one party is too stupid and too simple, or one party only knows his own ideas, does not know the attitude of the other party, and chooses to pretend to be stupid.
It is not difficult to judge whether it is friendship or ambiguity, and it can be observed from some details.
Usually, friends of the opposite sex who often share these three things are actually ambiguous with each other.
Share personal items
The beginning of ambiguity between the opposite sex often starts from a little bit of life, such as sharing a headset, a water cup, a drink, etc...
Two people drinking a glass of water, a drink, and listening to a pair of headphones together will appear particularly intimate, and in the eyes of outsiders, these are the things that couples will do together. Let people misunderstand not to say, but also easy to bring bad influence to each other.
Some people may say that these are normal and there is no substantial transgression, but for most people, sharing personal belongings is unacceptable and incomprehensible.
You know, most lovers are established by friends, so maintaining a clear and clear relationship with friends of the opposite sex is a basic etiquette that every adult should have. Even in this era of emotional "openness", there are still some clear boundaries between men and women.
If two people don't mind this, it means that in each other's hearts, they have regarded each other as their other half.
Share time alone with each other
If you like a person, you will instinctively want to get closer, even if you don't see her for a day, you will miss her very much, just like when you go to school, the first glance of the class will always look at her position.
If two people like to stay together, share interesting things, play games together, go shopping, play and make trouble, and are inseparable as soon as they have time, it means that they have regarded each other as their own.
Even if both parties insist that they are just ordinary friends, but the details of getting along will not lie, two people can often stay together, that means that each other does not reject each other.
Just as the so-called long-term love, two people together not only do not reject, but feel particularly comfortable, it is easy to produce a different kind of affection, which is what we often call "ambiguity".
I like the saying that falling in love is always wanting to be together. Two people can share their time alone with each other, and presumably the relationship has long since deteriorated.
Share each other's secrets
Everyone has some secrets in their hearts to a greater or lesser extent, it may be a problem that cannot be solved, or it may be some wrong things, and they dare not tell people about it, so they have to suffer in silence.
There is a saying in the movie "The Secret That Cannot Be Said": "Once the secret is told to others, be prepared to disclose it to the world." ”
Therefore, most of the time, we will choose to keep our secrets, because one more person knows, and one more harm may be done.
We all understand the reason, but when the relationship between two people reaches a certain level, they will have a sense of trust with each other, and under the right timing and atmosphere, it will be easy to help but tell the secret to each other.
Listening to each other, telling each other, becoming the trash can of each other's emotions, and then generating a sense of dependence, sharing each other's troubles and happiness, to the point of not being lovers, but being better than lovers.
Therefore, two people who have shared secrets with each other, it is difficult to have a pure relationship.
Friends of the opposite sex will not reach the ambiguous stage for no reason, and it must be one of the parties who has made an act that surpasses the friend.
Like secrets, time, and some personal items. When the sense of boundaries disappears, it means that the relationship has deteriorated.
Friends of the opposite sex have shared these three things, and the relationship is no longer pure, especially the second one.