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Have you ever secretly loved someone? Still in love today?
I believe that of all those who see this problem, there must be a part of them who burst into tears. I know that I love him so passionately, but I have to bury it deep in my heart, but I am afraid that if I say it, even my friends will not be able to do it.
How many people, in the name of friends, silently accompany their loved ones; and how many people, who have been spare tires for countless years, have never become the other party's second choice.
The love of these people hiding in the shadows is heart-wrenching to watch. They have paid so much, although they dare not express it directly, but can the parties really not feel it?
In fact, in my opinion, this is not the case. When a person secretly loves you, treats you well around you, and doesn't mind sharing these things with you, it already shows that he is secretly starting to be ambiguous with you.
Such ambiguity, even women who are no longer sensitive, will actually have feelings. When you read this article and understand these three things, you may wish to recall whether the person next to you has shared it with you.
If it is, then he is already subtly ambiguous with you, at this time, you need to be vigilant, if you also like each other, give the other party a signal, if you don't like it, make it clear as soon as possible, don't hurt this relationship.
01 Get used to using the same straw, drinking the same glass of water, sharing personal belongings
Actor Qin Junjie's "Hu Spicy Soup" incident must be remembered, between good friends, can you drink soup in the same bowl? Or, between good friends, can you use the same straw and drink the same glass of water?
I think the answer is no. The parties to the "Peppery Soup" incident were ridiculed by netizens, believing that the two people had no boundaries and did not understand the sense of scoring.
In addition to this, I think it is also very likely that good friends will not share each other's personal belongings, such as toothbrushes, more intimate clothes, and so on.
Because these all have a common property, they are part of personal privacy. Even the best friends will probably pay great attention to these aspects, especially public figures, even if the relationship is good, they will not share these things in public, otherwise there will be accidents.
But when you find that a friend around you does not mind sharing these things with you at first, when you get along, he will not mind drinking the water you have drunk, when he goes to your house, he will not care about borrowing your underwear to wear, even if you refuse, even if you mind, even if it does not fit, he still shows a big grin that it does not matter, you are good friends, the attitude of iron brothers, then, he is most likely interested in you.
And if at this time you find that when he puts forward these "unreasonable demands", not only are you not disgusted, but you also hand them to him casually, thinking that it does not matter, you must be vigilant, have you already identified with his ambiguity in your heart?
Because through this kind of performance, you can probably determine that you have actually begun to be ambiguous, but you are not aware of it.
02 Used to telling you happy and sad things and sharing secrets
Friends need to chat, especially between friends of the opposite sex, the more in-depth the content of the chat, the more frequent the frequency, the closer the relationship between the two people will be.
But even so, some secrets cannot be shared by two people. But when he is used to telling you his happy and sad things, and is used to sharing the secrets hidden in his heart with you, it means that your position in his heart begins to be different.
Maybe at first he treated you as a normal friend, but from the time he told you about his secret, his heart was already ambiguous with you. And when you find that you are hearing his secrets, not simply echoing, but are also willing to tell him your secrets, and even willing to show a vulnerable side in front of him, laughing and crying, it means that you have acquiesced to the ambiguity between you.
Even if you don't break through this layer of window paper in a short period of time, in the long run, you will gradually get used to each other's existence and feel more and more inseparable from each other.
Until the moment when both people suddenly realized, this relationship had a home.
03 Get used to WeChat you, meet you, share all his private time
A person likes you and wants to be ambiguous with you, and one of the biggest characteristics is "thinking of you". I don't think of you all the time, I read you anytime and anywhere, and when I have a little personal time, I will WeChat you and want to meet you.
Most of his life, except for work, belongs to you. This is a sure sign that he will start to get into an affair with you.
When you also have the same feelings as him, and you are not bored with his frequent visits to you and your behavior, you probably have silently allowed yourself to be ambiguous with him in your heart, otherwise, you who do not like the other party will not give him so much time to undertake his thoughts.
The reason for listing these three "things" is actually based on evidence. One of my friends, Xu Min, has a friend of the opposite sex by her side, and the relationship between the two people is obvious to all of us.
Whenever we ridiculed them and let them be together, Xu Min always swore that it was impossible, they were just good friends and good brothers.
But who could have predicted that Xu Min, who had refuted such a resolute decision, was still married to her good friend, a good buddy.
When Xu Min recalled that the two people were together and looked for evidence that the two people were in love, he found that they had already begun to be ambiguous. From the third year they met, the two of them met and chatted regularly. She will look for him when she is out of love, she will look for him when she is frustrated at work, and she will look for him when she is promoted and raised.
When the two of them went out on a trip, she didn't mind sharing the same room with him to save money, she didn't mind using the same water cup with him, and she didn't mind that he occasionally borrowed her pajamas when he didn't have clothes to change.
Naturally, when she doesn't mind sharing these things with the other person, the other person doesn't mind sharing these things with her. This relationship between them seems to others to be the beginning of ambiguity, but they are aware of it.
Of course, no matter how much they don't admit it, no matter how much they realize it, they can't hide the fact that the two people are ambiguous.
For Xu Min, in fact, he was lucky. The other party likes her, and she also likes the other party, which gives the best home for this ambiguity. But for some people, it may be cruel. After all, sometimes the ambiguity you think is not worth mentioning to others, and even feels that it is troublesome and cumbersome, and always wants to stay away from you. At this time, you are destined to be hurt by feelings.
For the matter of ambiguity, the mutual ambiguity between the two parties is the beginning of true love, but if you are willing to be ruthless, or he intends that you are ruthless, it is bound to cause harm to each other.
Therefore, when you find that you have signs of ambiguity, if you like, be decisive, if you don't like, please make it clear as soon as possible, don't wait for the ambiguity to ferment, before you know how to refuse.
Happiness is not far from us, and harm is not so close to us, as long as we can be more careful, a little more serious, and see through this thorny "ambiguity" in advance.
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