Boys are under the impression that they are more mischievous and more troublesome to discipline, while girls are quiet and well-behaved and more reassuring. But for families with sons and daughters, in fact, the discipline of daughters should pay more attention, because girls are actually relatively weak parties, and many aspects are very easy to suffer, so the education of daughters actually needs more attention, especially to pay attention to the "three prohibitions" of adopted daughters, and parents must have a clear understanding of this.
Raising her daughter into a "brutal princess", in the end, she graduated without a job and had no friends around her
Chen Yue is 53 years old this year, because of physical reasons only gave birth to a daughter, so the couple of this only daughter in every way pampered, in the surrounding atmosphere of son preference, they did the opposite, giving the daughter absolute attention and love.
Chen Yue and her husband have tried their best to meet any requirements of their daughters since they were young, and they just want their daughters to feel that they are the happiest, and they are not worse than anyone. However, blind doting and indulgence have led to the daughter's extremely willful personality, solipsistic at home, as long as it is slightly out of line with her wishes, it will make a big fuss, but Chen Yue and his wife are still spoiling her, without considering the consequences of their daughter's personality.
After the high school accommodation, the daughter and the classmates in the dormitory could not get along, Chen Yue drove to see her daughter every night, and when she was in college, Chen Yue simply rented a house in the city where her daughter studied, afraid that her daughter would not be able to take care of herself. Because of her brutal and willful nature, her daughter has few friends around her, and after work, she can't stand the control and can't insist on a position, resulting in being able to idle at home after graduation.
Chen Yue only now realized that the original love for her daughter was really too much, let her develop this kind of personality affected her studies and work, and it was also a problem to start a family in the future.
For families with daughters, we must pay attention to the principle of "three prohibitions", otherwise it is very bad for her growth and development path, and do not wait until she has suffered losses to regret it.
"Poor children and rich daughters" is a very popular phrase nowadays, some people say that when the daughter was a child, she gave her enough material life so that she would not be deceived in this regard after she saw all the good things, so parents dressed their daughters as a "little rich woman" from a young age, and any requirements for their daughters were satisfied, and they were given good food and good clothes, so that they could indeed be rich and adopted, but is this really good?
Rich nourishment is not only material life, but also spiritual life, blindly in the material aspect of rich support is easy to let children develop the habit of luxury and comparison, slowly grow up is more likely to become vain and material, so parents should remain rational in this regard.
On the contrary, some parents think that girls should not have vanity, so they often instill in their children the idea of "the family is poor, you can't compare with others, you don't spend money indiscriminately", and the children usually eat and wear too much. Such excessive "poor support" will also make girls gradually become inferior, feel that they are inferior to others in everything, form a non-committal personality, and dare not fight for opportunities after entering the society in the future, even if they work to earn money and spend a little more money, they will be plagued by guilt. This is also a very incorrect educational behavior, parents should not over-interpret the two concepts of poor and rich.
Finally, the situation mentioned in our example text, for girls do not spoil too much, as a parent love children is instinctive and natural, but spoiling should have a limit, not unconditional and bottomless. At home, of course, everyone revolves around her, but she can't be at home all her life, she has to go to school, she has to work, she has to get married and have children, who in these environments has the obligation to unconditionally tolerate and spoil her like her parents? Therefore, once the parents spoil too much and cause the child to form a solipsistic personality, it will be very unfavorable to her later in life.
Spoiling should also have a premise, we often say that ladies are first, but do not feel that they should be superior to others in subjective cognition, and the respect of others comes from the upbringing of others, but the self-righteous psychology is an incorrect three views.
The correct education for daughters should be to cultivate them into people who are not humble, independent, confident and self-loving, so that their personality is more conducive to their growth and survival, and we can also find that all popular girls around them almost have these characteristics, as parents should be a qualified guide on the road to girls' growth.
Educating children is not arbitrary, especially girls, which is contrary to everyone's cognition, in fact, families with boys are more worry-free. Raising a daughter as a parent should first understand this "three prohibitions" principle, do not simply do what she wants to do, but to comprehensively consider the development of the child, and make a reasonable plan for the road she will take in the future!