This year, the revised Population and Family Planning Law stipulates that the state advocates marriage and childbearing of appropriate age, eugenics, and a couple can have three children. Not long after the second child, the three-child policy was also liberalized.
My wife and I are both two-child families, and I have a younger sister who has a younger brother. Now that we have a 7-year-old son, we've recently started to have ideas about whether to have a second child again.
Family members are hospitalized and need to be cared for
In the first half of this year, my dad was hospitalized for surgery.
When doing surgery, you need to go back and forth to the hospital frequently for formalities, you need to look at patients, you need to go out to buy medicine, you need to prepare meals to deliver meals, you need to make decisions about surgery, and so on.
After the treatment, my wife and I looked back and thought, these tedious things, fortunately I have a sister, can discuss problems with me, take care of dad together, chat together to reduce the psychological burden. If I were alone, I could not imagine the various physical and psychological heavy burdens that needed to be borne.
In the second half of the year, Grandma was not in good health, could not walk, needed to use a wheelchair, and the family had to start to devote energy to taking care of the elderly. At the end of this year, there were two sudden changes, and everyone was very busy.
Therefore, it is inevitable that the family will get sick, or when there is a similar big thing, the big family with more family members will also take a hand when solving the problem, and at the same time relieve the psychological pressure together.
The first child is the son, and the second child is afraid to be a son
My wife and I have a very practical problem from the experience of getting married and brothers and sisters, if the second child is still a son, the financial pressure may be greater, and the house and marriage problems are always difficult. The wife also said that her son would have a bowl of water to be flat, and being the mother-in-law of the two daughters-in-law was also a little afraid to think about it.
Seezon's view:
Regarding the multiple choice question of whether to have a second child, I think it can be summed up in one sentence:
Can you accept that your love and money are split in two, and divide the results equally, which you can accept?
Think of child-rearing capital as a balance, where love and money go hand in hand, divided equally between left and right. Love includes caring for children, taking care of living, patient education, etc., and money includes milk powder money, tuition, interest classes, toys, etc. With the birth of the second child, balance should be maintained at both ends of the scale.
Every pair of parents will have an expectation for parenting, to what extent they can accept the child's growth, and there will be an imaginary value for the growth results obtained by their own conditions. If you divide the balance well, you can accept the imaginary results you get, and you can naturally have a second child. If the imagined results do not meet your expectations, you still need to think about it.
Today's Interaction:
Friends who are still only children, what do you think about having a second child and a third child? Welcome to leave a message and share the discussion.
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