Love is beautiful, but love can sometimes be painful, especially when two people break up because of some contradictions.
Some people will silently cry after the breakup, some people will continue to pestering each other after the breakup, and some people even do things to hurt themselves in order to break up.
In fact, if you want to save love, what you have to do should be how to attract each other again, rather than continue to pour salt on each other's wounds, which will only make the feelings between you completely come to an end.
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Xiaoyan is a friend I met online, and when she talks to me about her last relationship, although it has been two years, she still can't help but cry.
She said that until now, she still can't forget her ex-boyfriend, her heart still loves him deeply, and if she hadn't been wrong, her ex-boyfriend wouldn't have really left her.
At that time, they were very in love, and her ex-boyfriend was also very considerate of her, but because she was too willful, her ex-boyfriend did not come to see her when he was busy at work, and she made a small sex with the other party.
Later, after arguing with her ex-boyfriend, in order to punish her ex-boyfriend, she started a cold war with her ex-boyfriend and ignored him for a week.
What she didn't expect was that a week later, her ex-boyfriend sent her a text message saying that he had thought a lot about it lately, and if two people were unhappy together, it was better to break up.
Seeing this text message, she was crazy, and immediately called her ex-boyfriend and found that he had turned off the phone. For a week after that, the ex-boyfriend didn't come looking for him, and she couldn't find out where the ex-boyfriend was.
She sent countless text messages to her ex-boyfriend, the ex-boyfriend did not reply, in a moment of urgency, she called the ex-boyfriend's best friend and asked him to tell the other party that if the ex-boyfriend did not appear tonight, she would commit suicide to show him.
At the appointed time in the evening, she still did not see her ex-boyfriend coming to her, and she really cut her wrist on a whim.
When she woke up, she found herself lying in a hospital bed with her ex-boyfriend at the bedside. Seeing her ex-boyfriend, she burst into tears and felt a little relieved, because her ex-boyfriend still had her in his heart.
She thought the two could finally go back to the past, but after she was discharged from the hospital, her ex-boyfriend officially broke up with her, saying that he could not afford such a tired love.
After the breakup, the ex-boyfriend left the city and went to live out of town, knowing that she really lost him this time and could never get him back.
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In fact, no matter what the reason for breaking up, if you still want to save each other, you must choose a suitable way to deal with the aftermath to help you get out of the predicament.
And if your relationship is in a frozen period, like When Xiaoyan and her ex-boyfriend just said to break up, but didn't really break up, don't do something wrong.
Next, let's take a look at the 3 mistakes you can't make when you want to save the other party after a breakup, and see if you have also been recruited.
First, self-abandonment and even doing all kinds of things to hurt themselves.
There are many girls who are particularly stupid after the breakup, thinking that if they do something to hurt themselves, the other party can change their minds, so they use cutting their wrists and taking sleeping pills to blackmail each other.
The result of this, in addition to making the other party feel sad, will also make the other party completely disappointed in you, feeling that you really loved the wrong person.
No one wants to live with a person who is doing things too extremely, and even if you don't do anything to hurt yourself, after the breakup, all you show is self-abandonment, and complaining is all negative energy, so how can you attract him back?
Second, a moment of anger said a lot of bad things about the other party.
Generally speaking, the person who was broken up must be very angry in his heart, and was inexplicably dumped by the other party, so that no one could swallow this breath.
But even if you get angry again, don't spread his bad words everywhere in order to retaliate, and keep pouring out his bad things in front of friends, colleagues and relatives.
Because you say that the other person's bad things, one day to the other person's ears, he will definitely be more certain that he broke up with you in the first place was a wise decision, then it will be difficult for you to try to save the other party.
After the breakup, if you still want to reconcile with each other, then don't say anything, meditate through the freezing period, and then it is possible to create a second chance of attraction.
Third, as soon as you break up, you will immediately delete all the information of the other party.
Breaking up is really painful, but it doesn't mean deleting everything about the other person right away. Even if you don't think that the two of you still have the possibility of redemption, the love that was once there is worth keeping in our hearts, after all, we have loved each other vigorously.
If you still want to save, then don't give up easily after the breakup, the bits and pieces of your being together can arouse your memories, and it can also remind him of the sweetness of the past.
Therefore, there is no need to draw a line with the other party immediately after the breakup and delete all his information, which will make the other party think that you are too desperate and very detrimental to saving your feelings.
Love is to withstand all kinds of tests in order to go to consummation, breaking up is painful, but it also makes people grow.
After the breakup, if you can come together again, it means that you have learned how to manage love well, and at that time, you can talk about marriage with confidence.