Picture: Heap sugar (invasion and deletion) Text: Little Dream
【Night Dream Talk, Little Dream Listening】: The whole network has the same name, welcome to pay attention, reprint please authorize, plagiarism must be investigated! Looking forward to your story.
I don't know when it started, even if I met with friends, there wasn't so much to say.
Even on the once noisy and crowded buses, you can only see the lit screens and hear the announcements of one stop after another.
People seem to include themselves in thick clothes, along with the wrapping, and our hearts and desires to talk.
1. They are all on a lonely planet
When I first watched "The Little Prince", everyone was paying attention to all the dynamics of the little prince, his departure, his encounter, his everything.
And have you ever noticed that in fact, on all the asteroids he has been to, there is only one strange human being, and the little prince is the line segment that connects them.
Whether it is his arrogant And His Majesty the King, or the accountant who is constantly counting, they are all one person, and from beginning to end, they are immersed in their own world.
After the little prince has gone through their lives and heard their complaints, they are still the same person they were, and they will not make any changes just because the little prince has come.
Those people are on a lonely planet. Like you and me who are now connected to the Internet. Obviously, I have a lot of things to say, but when I get to my mouth, I can't say anything.
Occasionally, we envy the balloons in other people's hands, right? At the very least, they can fly, and even if someone decides their direction, they will always find a way to regain their freedom.
And what about our freedom? As if only to see a picture of the starry sky left by other balloons, we silently nodded a thumbs up in the circle of friends.
2. Why do you lose your desire to share
In "Allow Yourself to Waste Time," it says that I slowly began to understand why I was unhappy because I was always expecting a result.
After reading a book, I hope I can become profound; eat a healthy meal, I hope it can make me slim;
Sending a tweet, I felt that I should be replied to 'Be good to others, and I hope I can reap the same rewards.'
But how is that possible? No one pays attention to the actions of others all the time, they have their own lives, but because of this, we are becoming more and more reticent.
Once read a sentence, the father walked into the daughter's room, she just looked back at the father, and then continued to do her own thing, the father was silent for a while and said: "You are not as lively as before." ”
In fact, it's not that we're not lively anymore, but most of the time, I can still talk to my friends and gossip with my colleagues, but that's not happy.
The happiness of childhood, if it is enough to say that a lollipop is enough, now the happiness may need a candy store to satisfy.
Man becomes lonely because he wants more, and it just so happens that he knows that he doesn't get what he wants.
3. You have to be friends with yourself
Sartre said: "When you feel lonely alone, you have to understand that it is because you are not good friends with yourself. ”
In fact, the vast majority of life destinies will have some lonely components to a greater or lesser extent. Because people can't always be with anyone.
Even if you are a partner in school, you will take a different path. You will have your own family and life, not just each other.
So reconcile with yourself and be friends with yourself. Since we can't beat loneliness, we can try to enjoy it.
Make a list of all the things you once wanted to do but didn't dare to do, and then go and complete them one by one when you have time, this is your game and your own.
The reason why people feel overwhelmed when they are lonely is because they are accustomed to amplifying the sadness in loneliness and reducing happiness.
Sometimes, being alone alone is better than a group of people's physical binge. Because, the last thing left for them is the loneliness after the party.
4. If you can't fight, just enjoy
"We are all planets that look at each other but are not in reach, moving in different orbits, and we are alone."
Life, the lonely years occupy the vast majority of years, those times, try to hug yourself. Even if it was a dark night.
Light will always come through the gaps in the curtains, illuminating your next day, and your life will go on, whether you like it or not.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.