There is a story in "The Little Prince":
The little prince had been living on a small planet, and he was the only one on the planet, and one day a rose grew on the planet.
So the little prince took good care of it every day, taking good care of it. At that time, the little prince thought that it was the only rose in the universe, unique.
It wasn't until the little prince left his little planet and came to Earth, where he found a small garden with many identical roses. At this time, he realized that the rose he had taken good care of was also an ordinary rose.
However, although there were countless roses in the little prince's heart, he still remembered his own rose. Still think it's the best.
Just as later, when he met the little fox during his travels, the little prince knew why he was obsessed with his own rose. Because that is the rose that he has worked hard to accompany day and night, the rose that he has given all his care.
Indeed, in the world of the little prince, his roses are unique to him, which is why although there are many roses in this world, only the moment of the little prince himself is the unique existence in his heart, and nothing can replace it.
This is actually the same as our feelings, what is the essence of loving a person, that is, in a long-term relationship, each other has become a unique existence.
I believe that many people have dreamed of the scene of love at first sight, and they will feel that the feelings of love at first sight are particularly beautiful. But when you actually meet the person who makes you fall in love at first sight, it is not the feeling of love at first sight. More often than not, it depends on getting along for a long time.
This is also known as long-term love. It is true that the reason why most people finally decide to be together is because two people have been together for a long time, although there is a "flash marriage", but such feelings are usually not long-lasting.
If you want to continue this relationship for a long time, then you need to have a long-term relationship. In the subsequent contact, the two people should find a suitable mode of getting along with themselves, and let their feelings gradually heat up.
You know, after all, the feeling of love at first sight can only exist for a period of time, and when this feeling is not there, what is needed is the accumulation of feelings.
Of course, this is not to say that love at first sight does not have good results, nor does it mean that as long as men and women get along all the time, they will be able to have a long-term relationship.
It's like in real life, a lot of green plum bamboo horse people, most of them end up not being able to be together. Therefore, whether it is a long-term love or a love at first sight, there is a prerequisite, that is, two people are in love.
If you don't love each other and want to have a long-term relationship, it is very difficult, because in the relationship between men and women, it is not enough to be familiar, and after a long time together, you will definitely be able to get what you want.
The reason why a person becomes a unique existence of another person is not because of a long time spent with this person, but because of the time, energy, and other efforts.
If it is completely not on the same level, the cognition is different, the direction is different, then even if they are together for a long time, they will not have a long-term relationship.
Therefore, the long-term love is the final process of two people who like each other, rather than making each other like themselves or like each other through the long-term love.
It's as if confession should be the end of a relationship, not a stormtrooper of a relationship. This is also the reason why many long-distance couples mostly do not have good results.
They lack time together, and there are many things that they can't understand and do. Because a good relationship needs to be maintained by each other in order to make the relationship more solid. And to do that requires communication, exchange, and getting along.
Just like you fell in love with a person at first sight, but then did not have the opportunity to get along, exchange your ideas, and discover each other's strengths, do you think such love at first sight can last a long time?
Of course, everyone encounters a different situation, but the essence of loving a person is to like the long-term love after that, rather than doing nothing after love at first sight.
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