I remember that the Supreme Treasure in "Journey to the West" said such a sentence: "There was once a sincere feeling placed in front of me, I did not cherish it, and I regretted it after losing it, and the most painful thing in the world is this." ”
When I first saw this sentence, I couldn't actually understand the true meaning of this sentence. But as we get older and experience more things, we realize how true this sentence is.
It's always easy to miss the things that have passed and those who have been lost along the way. But it is also very strange that it is always not cherished when you get it, and then regret it after losing it.
Maybe I was too young to think I could start all over again. I just didn't think that once some things were missed, it would be difficult to start over. But sometimes people stubbornly stick to their principles, and the end is two principles:
First, I'm not wrong, I'm all right.
Second, if I am wrong, please refer to the first article.
Thinking about it carefully, it is true that many of us are like this in our feelings, and we do not feel that what we have done is wrong, even if we say it at the time, but we do not admit that we are wrong in our hearts.
It's as if some people always say " I'm sorry after losing , Blaming myself for not cherishing it and not listening to you well." "But what is the point of having lost feelings at this time?"
No one's life can be repeated.
It's like a rose in The Little Prince. The Little Prince is the only inhabitant of the asteroid B612. The place where he lives is small. It was so small that there was only a house that could keep him living.
One day, out of nowhere, a seed of a rose blew in and sprouted and grew on the asteroid he lived on. On a certain day the roses bloomed.
Looking at the blooming roses, the little prince couldn't help but say, "She is really too beautiful, too moving." It was from that day that the little prince fell in love with the rose.
But roses are proud. After the bloom, she did not accept the little prince's love, but gave the little prince a lot of tests. In order to prove her importance in the heart of the little prince, or to attract the little prince.
So she began to call out to the little prince to water her. He began to dislike the little prince's planet too cold, and asked the little prince to put a windshield on himself.
So that later, as long as the little prince did not do well and made her unhappy, she began to blame the little prince. At first I thought, because the little prince loves roses.
Therefore, no matter what roses do to the little prince, he is willing to accept it, because this is the little prince himself willingly. Until one day, the little prince was just torturing himself, which hurt himself deeply. So the little prince decided to leave the planet and go to the outside world to have a look.
And on the day when the little prince and Rose said goodbye, Rose did not make any reservations, but said: "You have not understood my love, it is my fault." ”
In fact, it is not that the little prince does not understand rose's love, but that rose herself thinks things too complicated. It is also because the little prince does not know how to express his love.
As the little prince said at the end when he experienced something: "Unfortunately I didn't know anything before, and I should have watched her actions instead of listening to her language!" I should have seen the tenderness behind those little tricks. ”
In our feelings, we always habitually take many things for granted, but we forget that the other party could not have done it, but only because of liking or because of love, they are willing to accept our requests.
But feelings are a matter of two people, and since it is a matter of two people, it is necessary for two people to pay together. This is not to say that the gains and losses in the feelings must be clearly divided. It's just right to say that fifty percent love is just right, because two fifty people who love fifty percent together are one hundred percent love.
It's just that we who are in the middle of our feelings will always forget these truths that we all understand. Always stubbornly thinking that what you are doing is right, this is the expression of love. But ignore the other party's feelings.
So the problem of two people arises, my lord, that's it. Don't cherish it when you get it. After losing it, I regret it. It is only at this time that I think of saying "I'm sorry, I didn't cherish it before". But what is the point of talking about it at this time.
Therefore, we must remember that in the relationship, when we have it, we must cherish it, and do not wait until after the loss before we think of saying sorry.
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