Husbands and wives respect each other as guests, and joint education is the best education for children

A 13-year-old teenager in Jiangsu Jumped from a balcony in January 2018 while his parents were arguing. Parents quarrel for children every minute is a torment, in the family "war"" grow up in the child, some people inferior and sensitive, some timid and cowardly, some depressed autism, some social fear, some anxious and violent, some paranoid and indifferent... A disharmonious family is destined to create a discordant life for children.

Therefore, remember: we must try to avoid quarrels in front of children, in case of a momentary gaffe, do not forget to remedy. For example, learn from Yang Lan's experience at the "Fifth New Oriental Family Education Summit Forum":

Kneel on one leg and say to the child at a completely level-up angle:

Mom and Dad just did something very wrong, we quarreled in front of you like that, and used very indecent language.

We want to tell you that adults sometimes do stupid things, such as what we just did is very stupid, and we both sincerely apologize to you.

- Please forgive us. First, Mom and Dad still love each other; Second, we don't want you to be frightened or hurt in any way.

This clip of Yang Lan and his wife in family education is very classic, and their children are very excellent in both personality and academics, and the university has become alumni with their mother.

If a child can deeply appreciate the love of his parents and the love for himself, we do not need to explain to him too much what fraternity and goodwill are. The warm emotions in the family flow into the hearts of children, and they can correctly understand and deal with the various relationships in their lives.

The father is the main body of "principle and seriousness" in family education, and the mother, as a woman, is naturally caused by nature, and the grasp of "principle and seriousness" is often not in place. Therefore, if the father does not play his role well in the family, the child is prone to some lack of rules and cultivation. In many of our current families, the responsibility for raising children is mostly borne by women, and men often do not do well in this regard, and this kind of family education is unbalanced.

In a sense, the family is the whole world of the child, so parents must pay attention to teaching by example and create a warm and powerful environment for their children to grow up. You know, maybe it is a word from the parents, and the child's life may change.