When I watch "Female Psychologist" on the video platform, I usually open the bullet screen and read the audience's comments at the same time, feeling as if I am chasing the drama with many people.
Of course, the biggest purpose of opening the bullet screen to watch the drama is that it can give me more real feedback.
Every time a new case appears in the play, some netizens will lament that they (or people around them) are like this, such as the daughter who is planned for life by the mother, the second-born mother who is depressed after childbirth, etc., which has aroused the resonance of many people.
But the most touching thing is that when Li Wei was encroached upon and tangled, the reaction of netizens:
Li Wei is a salesman of the company, and she believes that opportunities need to be fought for by herself, so she is never willing to let go of any opportunity to climb up.
Most of her female colleagues are well-behaved women who have not been beaten by society in her eyes, and there are no ripples in their step-by-step life.
And she, with the ambition for promotion, the desire to climb up. Since pulling business can not avoid socializing, she also pays great attention to her own image.
This became the reason why others attacked her.
While she was applying lipstick, the male colleague put his hand on her shoulder to express ambiguous words, which she gently refused by holding her hand.
But at the same time, it also fell into the reputation of "frivolity".
Obviously, the male colleague was frivolous, but the sin was placed on her head.
So there were whispers around her: I heard that she was in a hurry to climb up as soon as she entered the company; I heard that this woman had great means; I heard that...
All the gossip that had been heard eventually turned into a stone tied to Li Wei's body, pulling her into the abyss.
So when she was really violated, she didn't dare to speak out at all:
At a liquor store, the customer drunk Li Wei in the name of talking about business, and then sneaked in to violently assault Li Wei when she went to the bathroom.
It was just a bathroom cubicle, and pushing the door might be able to escape, and shouting loudly could be rescued, but her brain was blank, paralyzed, and she had no ability to resist.
Afterwards, the customer also said that she was "pretending" rather dismissively, and even said that she seemed to enjoy it, so stop pretending to be pure.
Li Wei felt very sick and desperately took a bath to get rid of the dirty traces, but could not get any relief.
Repeatedly condemning yourself, not daring to call the police or dare not mention it to anyone.
She felt like she deserved it.
In desperation, Li Wei found the psychologist Horton (Yang Zi) and tearfully confided in her encounter.
"I can obviously resist... It's all my fault! ”
Under Horton's analysis and comfort, Li Wei felt slightly stable, but she could not forgive herself because of a detail.
She said: Is it possible that I did not resist because my body did not resist?
After asking such a question, Li Wei fell back into self-condemnation: if you don't resist, even if you don't resist, why did my body betray me at the most critical time?
Li Wei was ashamed and embarrassed to slap herself several times, blaming herself for "it's all my fault" and "why is it so faceless".
Horton explains this as "sometimes our subjective will, there is no way to control our own physical reactions."
"There are many people, when they are violated, the body will react, and even their reaction will be more intense, but this does not mean that the victim is willing."
So after being violated, you can feel sorry for it, but don't blame yourself, it's not your fault.
Netizens commented on the bullet screen that "Female Psychologist" is too dare to shoot... Not only does this kind of thing come out, but it also dissects the psychological details that are difficult for the victim to say.
Including this small science, we usually do not know, and therefore we can better appreciate the victim's painful and tangled mentality.
It turns out that many victims have problems that cannot control the body's reaction, which comes from the body's self-protection. But this reaction will make the victim more ashamed and embarrassed, and fall into painful psychological torture.
"I really want to hug her", "Pay attention to women's mental health", "Those who say that they don't love themselves and don't respect themselves, can only show that you are shallow and ignorant and like to fall into the well"... Seeing the reaction of netizens to this plot, Mo Jun really felt very warm. No one laughed at her and ridiculed her.
When more people pay attention to the psychological state of the victim, will they be able to get more courage to let the shameless abuser have nothing to hide?
Of course, it's not just the women who suffer need love, there are also the men who are victims licking their wounds alone in more intimate corners. They are even more unspeakable, which leads to a series of psychological problems.
Li Wei believes that she is not a well-behaved woman who has caused bad luck, and the drama assumes the process of Li Wei becoming a well-behaved woman to go to the liquor bureau with the camera, and it turns out that in the eyes of the abuser, the other party cannot change his mind no matter what type.
You refuse, I can coerce and induce, you are conservative, I can also get inching forward, at the wine table, regardless of the other party's wishes to pour alcohol on women, it will not be simply want to talk to her about business. Especially young and beautiful women.
As a victim, Li Wei is indeed not perfect, she likes to express herself too much, too eager to make quick profits, and the relationship with her colleagues is not harmonious.
Could it be that ambition, desire, and imperfection are the reasons why others attack them after they have been victimized?
Horton's words, I hope everyone understands: there is only one reason for the QJ case, that is, there are QJ criminals.
After the real case, it is not uncommon to accuse women of being too revealingly dressed, why they go out at night, why they go to the liquor store, and so on.
Some people will pay attention to "what did you wear that day", and the subtext is: you are so revealing, you must be trying to seduce others!
Look, the man who violated Li Wei in the play is like this.
Take a look at the costumes of victims displayed by a non-profit organization. The theme was called: "what were you wearing", what were you wearing at the time?
These were the clothes worn by the eighteen women who had been violated that day.
If wearing a T-shirt and sweatshirt can also be violated, do you think that this is the victim's imperfection?
"Female Psychologist" excavates the psychological problems in the real crowd from all angles, to see the big in the small, the pattern is not high, the most valuable thing is that the audience will be healed in the process of watching the play.
We hope that everyone who is hurt can encounter such a beam of light, less tragedy like Fang Siqi.
Most of the netizens who are very happy to watch the drama have expressed sympathy and understanding for Li Wei's suffering, and when she came out of the haze, the XX people on the screen supported you... It was so heartwarming.
The more of these lights, the braver we become.
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