I know a parent who has a 10-year-old son. She often complained to me that her children did not pay attention to the lectures in class, and sometimes they went under the desk when they went to class. She suspects her son has "ADHD." Another parent said that although her daughter was not attentive in class, she could sit still for an hour while watching TV. The common problem they reflect is that once the child learns, he or she does not pay attention.
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Parents are likely to be ruining
Focus
Let's first look at the scientific definition of "attention." There are five factors of human intelligence: attention, memory, observation, imagination, and thinking. Attention is a prerequisite for the other four intellectual factors to function. That is to say, attention is the basis of memory, observation, imagination, and thinking, and the four intellectual factors are the result of attention. With attention, people can concentrate on clearly perceiving things and thinking deeply about problems without being disturbed by other things. Therefore, it is very important to cultivate your child's attention.
The problem of inattention in children is widespread. A survey of 660 large and medium-sized cities in china showed that 75% of children in china have attention problems, of which 42% do not concentrate well during class, and 60% of children cannot persist in listening to lectures for more than 35 minutes. Inattention becomes the primary factor in children's learning disabilities.
Why do children generally have learning attention problems? There are many reasons for this. If your child is not interested in what they are doing, the surrounding environment is disturbed, or there are too many tasks or homework, these will make it impossible for you to concentrate. Another important reason is the improper way parents are educated.
Many parents like to accompany their children to learn, and remind their children from time to time in the process of companionship not to do so and not to do that, but this is a kind of interference for children, but it distracts children's attention. At the same time, companionship and supervision will make children dependent on their parents: I don't need to worry, my parents will arrange it for me.
As one education expert put it: "Some children learn to procrastinate precisely because their parents pay too much attention to their homework or even do ghostwriting." Yes, if the child is studying, the home is especially quiet, there is no one next to point out, is it easier for the child to concentrate? If parents have a good habit of focusing on reading and learning, it is even better, and it is easier for children to concentrate.
Therefore, a child's learning focus is sometimes ruined by the parents.
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"Schult Square" game
Consolidate and improve concentration
So, how do you re-cultivate a child's already ruined attention?
There is a simple and effective method called "Schult Square". Draw 25 squares on a piece of paper and fill in the 25 Arabic numerals of 1 25 at will. Then, have your child point out the position of the numbers with their fingers in order of 1 to 25, while mom and dad record the time it takes for the child to count the 25 numbers. The shorter the duration, the higher the level of attention. In the 7 10-year-old age group, for example, those who can complete within 26 seconds are excellent.
In training, in order to find the target number accurately and quickly, the child needs to pay a high degree of concentration. Doing this exercise regularly can consolidate and improve your child's concentration. It is recommended that parents play this game with their children and record the time at a time, which can increase competitiveness and fun, so that children are more willing to actively participate in training.
In addition to training, what other aspects do parents need to pay attention to?
Give your child a clean, tidy, and distraction-free environment
Children's desks should be simple, only books and school supplies, not toys and food; children like brightly colored, beautifully patterned, and versatile stationery, but this will interfere with their attention. Therefore, stationery should not be too fancy, a little simpler, so as not to let children play with them as toys; children's study should also be clean and clean, and unwanted things should be put away as much as possible.
Do not while your child is studying or playing
Disturb him for any reason (other than security concerns)
Some parents especially like to cut an apple for their children when they are writing homework, and send him a glass of water or milk for a while, thinking that they are caring for their children, but they are actually disturbing him. In addition, parents try not to play cards, rub mahjong, and watch TV at home, which will affect the child's attention and make the child upset.
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Give your child encouragement and boost your child's self-confidence
If your child is able to concentrate on his homework, parents can give him some praise, hugs, kisses, etc., and give him a break of 5 10 minutes. Then complete the rest of the study in the same way. If the child does a good job, you can extend the time for the one-time concentrated work, and ask the child to check out the requirements and conditions of the topic with a pen in the process of reviewing the question, so as to prevent the mind from making mistakes. These can enhance a child's self-confidence and make him feel that "I can consciously concentrate on doing one thing well."
Let your child read aloud
Unconsciously exercise concentration
To improve their children's concentration, parents also have a way: let their children learn to read aloud.
Cao Wenxuan, a professor at Peking University and winner of the Hans Christian Andersen Literature Prize, has been asked countless times: "Is there any way to make children fall in love with reading?" Cao Wenxuan would tell them every time: "Reading aloud - through reading aloud, they will transition from the world of sound to the world of words." ”
When a child is unwilling to read, is it useless for you to tell him the meaning of reading? However, when a teacher or host or actor with excellent reading ability reads a gripping wonderful clip of a novel with great emotion, the child will be deeply attracted unconsciously. After the reading, he must have been thinking about the novel, even eager to see the novel, and when he finally saw it and entered the world of words, he never wanted to give up. At this point, we can have a good reason to hope for our children's reading and even growth.
The important thing is that when you become a reader, your child will also have the following magical changes -
1 develop the right brain
Because the essence of reading aloud is that the reader appreciates his own voice, over time, it is conducive to the self-cultivation of children's image thinking ability.
2 Change personality
Introverts often have a small voice, and if children can insist on reading high-quality works and books aloud, their personalities can easily become cheerful. When children read aloud, they can feel the rhythmic beauty of language, feel the author's emotions through the rhythm, sublimate the beautiful vision of the world from emotions, experience the life of Baiwei with a vision on the way to growth, and then recall the words that have left a mark in their minds in the experience of life.
3 Cultivate concentration
Reading aloud is a process of converting silent written language into spoken language, and is a creative reading activity in which the eyes, mouth, ears, and brain work together. Only when children are seriously focused can they read the texts well, otherwise, they will be absent-minded and will be wrong when they read. Therefore, arrange a period of time every day (10 20 minutes), let the child read aloud their favorite articles, because the concentration needs to be mouthed, eye-to-eye, brain-to-brain, heart-to-heart, children want to not read wrong, do not read lost, do not read off, these things must cooperate with each other, unconsciously, concentration has been exercised.
This article is excerpted from "Children are the homework of parents' lives" and has been authorized