The excessive attention and concern of the elders for long-term childless couples, the infertility advertisements that can be seen everywhere on the street, and the scientific effectiveness of IVF in the hearts of ordinary people for a long time will gradually lead the mother to the test tube. But the sisters who really succeeded in becoming mothers through test tubes knew the unknown hardships in the middle.
Many times doing test tubes is not how painful the body is, but the inner torment. The extremely fortunate part, a single implant can be successful, it is indeed more difficult than natural pregnancy, but those sisters who implant again and again, and even multiple eggs are exhausted.
I don't know if it's because the sisters who can succeed once don't need to go to the hospital frequently, but most of the sisters I met in the corridor of the reproductive hospital that time were sisters who had failed once or more times. That time I went with a good sister, she had already made an appointment, but my husband was temporarily on a business trip, so I was arrested.
I was there listening to them chatting with those who were waiting for the surgery, and the waiting area wasn't noisy at all, and everyone wasn't in the mood to keep talking, and even if they were chatting, they would lower their voices. I don't know if it was for this reason that when I walked out of the hospital, I felt inexplicably depressed. I remember that at that time, I was still complaining about the good sisters, and the doctors said that you could be conservatively treated, and you were just anxious to come to the test tube and suffer more sins.
What I think in my heart is that spending money is not necessarily successful, you really have money to do, look at it, look at your current discomfort. After all, there are indeed sisters who cannot bear it physically and mentally after repeated failures, and finally give up the test tube road.
Although the implant surgery is the easiest small operation in the whole process, but after the body is not so comfortable, so I stayed with my good sister, even if I can't do anything for her, at least someone can accompany her can think less, the doctor said that maintaining a good mood helps to get pregnant.
So naturally, we talked about her experience of doing test tubes in the past two years.
This time, she was implanting for the fourth time and had used up all the eggs retrieved during the egg retrieval process. The egg retrieval process was probably the most traumatic stage, but because she didn't feel any pressure at the beginning, she just felt that her child was a little closer to her.
However, every day to take injections and take a variety of medicines, non-stop running to the hospital to monitor the changes in physical indicators, in order to be able to successfully retrieve eggs, or affected her work, she was rearranged to a more leisurely position, at that time she only wanted to have a child, and accepted the company's arrangement.
When we talked about this, we naturally thought about the information on the frozen eggs on the Internet, and it is said that the longer the eggs are released, the smaller the chance of successful fertilization. My sister took out fourteen mature eggs at that time, and only eight of them successfully developed into embryos.
Injections and medicines are not as easy as it sounds, in order to finally successfully retrieve eggs, you have to queue up to check the bed to check the doctor, the doctor is to see more has become a daily routine, but the first time to take off half of the pants in front of the doctors and nurses and patients to check really need some psychological construction.
I have not experienced ivory tubes, I am also said to remember that before the birth of the baby, the doctor checked your vagina many times, and the doctor's performance was natural and his heart was still embarrassed for a long time.
Since it comes to egg retrieval, this reminds me of sperm retrieval, and the husbands who have no physical problems have experienced in the sperm extraction room, we don't know, but the men who need surgery to extract sperm are not good enough to come out of the funny gait - of course, even if I am not concerned about myself, the outsiders who want to laugh at the time are also smiling seriously.
Of course, the sisters after the egg retrieval came out of bed, and at least there was a psychological comfort when someone was unwell. There are also some who may not really take the egg retrieval as a big thing to go to the hospital alone, and when the anesthetic is over, they are awake, and the back of a person leaving is really a little painful.
When the retrieved eggs are successfully fertilized, you yourself have to listen to the doctor's words and cooperate with the treatment, and the physical conditions are suitable for implantation surgery. But there will really be some sisters who have obviously arrived at the hospital, and the doctor will tell her all kinds of precautions and the effects of various drugs, but she just can't strictly abide by the doctor's instructions. Among them, in order to successfully conceive, in addition to the hospital medicine home but also try a variety of drugs on their own physical remedies are the most common. This group of patients ended up unsuccessful and did not know whether to blame the doctor's technology and the ivory of ivory.
If you fail to conceive successfully, the doctor first looks for the cause from the body, and if after various necessary examinations, it is really found that there is something wrong with the body that affects the pregnancy, then of course another round of treatment will begin. But even after treatment, the doctor said that your body can undergo a new implant surgery, and it is still unsuccessful.
I don't know about these professional things, but from a life perspective, the mood really affects the success of pregnancy. My good sister always called me before going to the hospital for implantation a few times before, saying that she was particularly nervous and hoped that her little baby could choose her, and that she would definitely be a good mother and so on. It is also possible to be nervous all night and not be able to sleep. Before this operation, she was not so nervous, perhaps she had experienced more times and had adapted.
When I was with her that day, I really took care of her as a patient as much as possible, and when I was cooking for her, she suddenly ran up to me in surprise and told me the good news that a mother in the patient group had successfully become pregnant. I was forced by her to look at those chat records, get rid of people who have used all the fertilized eggs, finally gave up the IVF or even had plans to adopt or not have children, and finally unconsciously natural pregnancy okay?
Besides, if someone else has a happy event, how can she be so happy as if she has successfully conceived? Probably because I haven't experienced the process of anticipation, disappointment, expectation, and disappointment, I really can't understand her feelings so much.
To do test tubes, whether it is a problem with the technology, the family and the economy will have a great impact on success or failure. It is easy for the family to expect more children, giving too much pressure to the expectant mother, but always failing.
In the hospital, I have seen a person who cried after the implant surgery, she has been implanted for the third time, because the family is not very good, has almost spent the family's savings, if this time can not be conceived, she is likely to face the end of divorce. At that time, nurses and patients comforted her, but how effective could it be?
I've also seen Dink choose Dink when I was younger, and then I wanted to have a child when I was older, and I chose to do a test tube. I still remember the eldest sister said that when she was young, it was Mr. Dink who insisted on Dink, but now that I see that the children of my friends around me are so good, I gradually have the idea of having a child. The eldest sister herself did not want to have a child, after all, she was already an advanced maternal age at this age, and she regretted that she did not have a child when she was young.
Back to my sister, every time she went to the implant surgery, she was nervous. I said she was mentally unqualified. After the operation, of course, the family will take care of her, but intentionally or unintentionally will mention how much money has been spent, the cute child born of other people's natural pregnancy, I don't know if IVF is really no different from the naturally conceived child. These trivial topics will make my sister, whose psychological quality is not too hard, even more nervous.
Therefore, from the perspective of life, she has failed to implant many times, not necessarily without the psychological pressure brought to her by these trivial things in life.
In life, it is often heard that female infertility leads to the breakdown of marriage, but it is rare to hear of any woman who divorced her husband because of infertility.
Whether it is a natural pregnancy or through an auxiliary means such as a test tube, it seems that women must complete the process of conception. Obviously, the process of doing test tubes will go through more hardships, and some families will not only not give more care to test tube women, but also because of the greater economy and time and more invisible efforts borne by the family in the test tube process, it will be more harsh on test tube women.
That time, I accompanied my good sisters for three days, and I talked more about the years when we were young. Perhaps it was those warm feelings that gave her strength, and this time she finally managed to get pregnant.
I was really relieved when she announced the good news to me, for I had been brewing for many days before that, and this time if she didn't succeed I was going to persuade her to give up. Maybe it turned out that the two of us were going to have a fight.
Before choosing a test tube, really think about whether you are the only way to go. I think my good sister can obviously be conservative, but it is very irrational to choose a test tube in order to get pregnant quickly. She endured both physical and psychological suffering, but she was not able to conceive the child as soon as she thought, and blocked her mother-in-law's mouth.
IVF can certainly help many families realize their dreams, but as a woman, you must evaluate whether you really need to bear both physical and psychological pressure. Later, I learned that because of the huge cost, I finally gave up the ivy tube and finally got pregnant naturally, not the one I was in the good sisters group that day.
Test tubes are an option we can choose, but be sure to treat them with caution. Even a test tube does not guarantee a 100% successful conception. Hospitals that can qualify for IVF are concentrated in large cities, and if you live in small cities, going to the hospital often will cause more unnecessary trouble for life.
My sister lives in a city where there is a hospital where she can do test tubes, and finally she chose to quit her job because of frequent hospital runs and delays. And because she was unsuccessful many times and finally gave up her job in order to have a child, she is not alone.
So before doing test tubes, we must first consider the attitude of the family, infertility is a disease, and it is not so difficult to talk about the disease, the family will not be harsh on you. Secondly, considering their family's financial situation, the one-time success of IVF is indeed not very expensive, most families can afford it, but more often it takes many times to succeed?
Again, making a test tube is not as simple as imagined, nor is it a universal guarantee, nor is it a shortcut, and the sisters who seek children must choose carefully.