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Even in today's society, people still have a certain prejudice against older unmarried women, and in their view, a woman who is not married after the age of 30 is a mistake and negates all her own advantages.
On the contrary, people have great understanding for unmarried men of the same age, especially in the marriage market, which is more inclusive.
A common phenomenon is that people think that the reason why older unmarried men are not married is because they focus on their careers, not because they can't marry their wives, which is also what the older generation calls "starting a business first and then starting a family".
However, people treat older unmarried women differently, whether women are excellent or not, people have the same attitude, thinking that they can't marry.
Even, there is something even more ugly to say, an older woman marries who is not married, and what qualifications are there to pick? No one will ask for it again.
It seems that in the eyes of many people, older unmarried women are really cheap, and they must marry people, right? Sometimes I think, what logic is this? It's also too unfair to women.
Just like my neighbor Hui Min, 37 years old, graduated from graduate school, a very enthusiastic girl, very good looks, strong ability, very popular in the company.
After graduation, she worked for a company in the South, and in just five years, she went from a new employee to a manager of a business unit.
In the eyes of her colleagues, she is a particularly capable strong woman, ranking ahead of others in her performance every year, and being rated as excellent by the company every year.
It is such an excellent woman, but she is not married, and she is said to be an older leftover woman who no one marries in her hometown.
In fact, this is society's shackles on older unmarried women.
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Hui Min and I have been neighbors for a year, we know each other very well, she is very polite in life, and her professionalism is very high. If it wasn't for her volunteering to say her age, I really wouldn't see her as 37 years old.
However, although she was not married, she lived a life with more taste than anyone else. I have always felt that she is not unable to marry out, but that she is really too good, a man with average conditions and abilities, in the face of such a woman, can not afford to marry at all.
Although she has been so good, she still works hard, has a very clear plan for life, and has a very high quality pursuit of life.
When I visited her house, she often said to me: "If the man I want to marry will lower my standard of living, then I would rather not get married, and I will not reduce my quality of life in order to get married." ”
For her, marriage is not a woman's life-saving straw, but should be the icing on the cake of life. At the end of the day, she doesn't think a woman has to rely on a man to feed herself, on the contrary, she has enough ability to live a high quality of life.
She will not marry for the sake of getting married, and she is not a "woman who can't marry out" in the eyes of others, she will not marry, nor will she treat marriage as a must in life.
She often sends a circle of friends, with beautiful photos of traveling abroad, with the text: "A person, the same life is dashing." ”
Indeed, she really lived a very dashing and fulfilling life alone. She is glamorous and sought after in the workplace, so how can such a good woman get married?
I remember once, she also told me about her love experience, she once had a boyfriend, after a year of love and broke up. The reason for the breakup is that the boyfriend thinks she's too aggressive and feels inferior.
Hui Min said that probably the boyfriend also thinks that he is not worthy of her, although he is also a workplace elite, but compared with her, he obviously feels pressured.
So, she agreed to her boyfriend's request to break up, and the two separated very kindly without any entanglement.
Over the years, she has experienced ups and downs in the workplace, coupled with rich social experience, and has a strong ability to read people. Whether a man really loves her or not, whether they are compatible with each other or not, she can quickly tell.
In this regard, I very much agree that a wise and mature woman like her, a young girl can not compare.
It is only because people's inherent prejudice against older unmarried women has not subsided, so that she cannot talk about marriage normally.
In reality, many people think that her age is the reason why she can't get married, but in fact, she has not been married, and in the end, there is still no man who can match her.
Nowadays, many people still think that the value of women is to get married and have children, that is, to wash and cook and do housework.
Men, in particular, are almost blind to the excellence of women. Those factors that originally seemed important to women, such as education, ability, looks, independence, social experience, etc., are difficult to be recognized by men.
I have to say that some people look at women from a narrow perspective, and their thinking has reached the point of self-sufficiency. Moreover, such a mindset also weakens the status of women to a certain extent, making the overall value of women lower.
In fact, in today's era, there are more and more independent women, and they will not marry because of age restrictions.
In their concept, the value of a woman is no longer to get married and have children, and whether to get married or not is completely their own personal choice.
Age should not be a yardstick to measure women's value, let alone the reason why they can't marry.
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After spending a year with Hui Min, I really found that the more excellent women, the stronger their independence, and their thoughts and horizons are broader, which is incomparable to young girls.
The famous dancer Venus once said:
Why many men dare not marry older quality leftover women, because they feel that they cannot match, even if they can match, it is not a sweet word or two that can be coaxed.
Men can't disguise themselves in front of excellent women, because the other party can recognize you at a glance. Excellent women have strong insight, and her vision and height of looking at people are different from yours.
Therefore, many older unmarried women, it is really not that they can't marry out, but that they are too good.
Just like the neighbor Huimin, it is not that there are no men to marry her, but that ordinary men cannot marry her.
Marriage, for her, is not dependent on the shackles of men, but should be the icing on the cake of love.
She is not married, still lives exquisitely and charmingly, she will not become a vassal of anyone, she is the pride of an independent woman.
Remember Ma Yili once said in a show:
This may be somewhat absolute, but it is not unreasonable, and it is indeed a fact that there are more and more excellent and independent women now, which cannot be ignored.
While women are constantly improving, changing themselves, and becoming better, there are fewer men who can maintain the same rhythm as them.
In addition, coupled with the situation that there are more men and fewer women, it is difficult for men and women to choose a mate to further distance themselves and make it difficult to match.
In the current marriage and love market, it is very difficult for men to find a partner, which is not a phenomenon caused by women's low eyesight, blindly pushing the responsibility to women, it may not necessarily change.
Moreover, women are not married, nor are they married, but they cannot lower their level until they find someone with the same frequency resonance, and they will get married.
So, don't have those inherent prejudices against women over 30 years old.
Marriage is no longer a necessity for a woman to live, and a woman who has the ability and a strong heart is not unable to marry, but that ordinary people cannot afford to marry.
That's where it comes in.
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