The fun of middle age is to know life quite well, to know yourself, so as to do what you can do and enjoy the life you can enjoy.
----- Liang Shiqiu
Wen | Cool Mom
Two days ago, I met a friend I hadn't seen for a long time, and in the chat I learned that I was a full-time mom, and said with a disdainful tone: Oh... You don't go to work anymore, and the job that everyone envies is now a full-time mom... It's ridiculous!
Listening to her words, I smiled and left.
Today another friend told me that she said a lot of bad things about me in front of a lot of people, and I was unusually calm after listening to them.
Qian Zhongshu said: There is no need to find those who are not confused and say something that is not painful or itchy.
The child resigned around the age of 3, worked as a full-time mother for many years, watched others work every day to make money, felt a little regretful, and then also anxious.
There are also jobs in the middle, it seems that there is no suitable time, and I can't stick to it for a few days.
After work, the time is very tight, there is no rest on the weekend, the child can only be at home alone, in the afternoon after school to report a small dinner table to pick up, at night home are very late, pick up the child to go home to wash and sleep.
The original feeling of sufficient time is not enough in an instant, all the habits and rhythms of life have been disrupted, there is no reading time every day, no morning running time, no time to play with children... It became another regret.
Because of their busyness, it seems that the child's life is also chaotic, but they have begun to be anxious again, no time to accompany the child, no time to accompany the child to read... Can I make up for the money I earn?
I often hear many parents say: Children who learn well come to avenge, and poor learning is to repay favors.
I don't think so.
Parents can be so relieved, and if the purpose of parents raising their children is to let their children come to such a "reward", I will not accept and agree with them no matter what.
Because in my opinion, this chicken soup is too selfish and too bitter, not so much as a child to repay the favor, but rather to make excuses for their own incompetence and lack of responsibility!
For me, I would rather work harder and more tired to grasp the present moment, and I dare not do nothing, and then say what "go with the flow" and "the years are quiet" to bet on how the children will be in the future.
Looking up at the starry sky, the earth is the gift of the universe to mankind; looking down, a flower and a leaf, is a gift from nature to the world; children are a gift to parents.
So I will cherish this gift, the best gift for me.
The child is 8 years old this year, full-time in the past few years the child followed me to go to bed early and get up early, not obsessed with electronic products, there is time for us to read together, but also our happiest time.
During the 3 years of kindergarten, I read a lot of picture books with my children, and I will have 20-30 minutes of time every day to listen to stories.
In elementary school, children can read independently and can read questions independently.
We can still stick to the habit of reading, listening to stories, going downstairs every night, and we will insist on talking with our children every night before going to bed about what happened at school or what we learned today.
In addition to learning programming and calligraphy on weekends, we arrange homework and play time, and we will discuss well in the middle of the week, and if we have time, we will go somewhere to play or go to the library.
During the holidays we will arrange a trip, or go to grandma's house or grandma's house, because it is all in the countryside, so the children are very excited, because they can learn a lot of things, the child's favorite is to take a shovel to weed in the yard, find dandelions, run in the field...
Because it coincides with the husband's educational philosophy, the husband will accompany the child to read and play when he has time, and the child likes to be with the father very much, saying that he can take risks.
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Wang Xuexi said: There are some things that you think you can do, you must insist, and if you persist, I think you will be able to achieve the purpose you expect.
I also don't know if what I do is very low, maybe as a housewife, many people think that I am not self-motivated, no job and do not make money, may be very incomprehensible in the eyes of some people.
I am not Buddhist, nor is I a perfectionist, nor an enterprising woman, but I am now happily married, my husband approves, I can take care of the family while taking care of the children, of course, I hope that the children are better, so I will not think wildly now.
As a full-time person, I can also live a wonderful life, get up early every day to make breakfast for my children and husband to send my children to school, come back to tidy up the housework and go to the gym, read books after returning home, practice words, take care of skin care, write articles...
I also live a wonderful life, may not have the beauty of women in the workplace, but I love life, love life......... This is happiness.
Mr. Zhou Guoping said: Happiness is not to live like others, but to be able to listen to your own inner life.