Shen Congwen said: "Between the green mountains and green waters, I want to hold your hand, walk across this bridge, the bridge is green leaves and red flowers, under the bridge is the flowing water people's home, the end of the bridge is green silk, this end of the bridge is white hair", the original expectation of love is so intoxicating, Qian Zhongshu also said: "Marriage is like a bird with golden paint, the bird outside the cage wants to live in, the bird inside the cage wants to fly out", and the end of the marriage seems to have no end.
If love and marriage cannot coexist harmoniously, then isn't the ultimate purpose of love a rogue?
Shen Congwen chased Zhang Zhaohe for 4 years, with stubborn love, and finally the toad won the heart of the swan, Shen Congwen was born in a small town in Fenghuang County, Xiangxi Province, never called himself a "countryman", with a mediocre appearance and temperament, and Zhang Zhaohe was a famous rich woman in Hefei at that time, who had learned from people, beautiful appearance, many suitors, Shen Congwen used his only handy literary talent to write hundreds of love poems to Zhang Zhaohe in 4 years, and finally embraced the beauty, in today's words is the combination of "poor silk and goddess", After marriage, Zhang Zhaohe changed into Chinese clothes to live for Shen Congwen's family, and the original story should have been that Shen Congwen was grateful to Zhang Zhaohe for his dedication, and he loved Zhang Zhaohe a hundred times more and a thousand times, and spent the rest of his life caring for Zhang Zhaohe.
But there are always so many scumbags, he said: "Ten fingers do not stick to the spring water of the big lady, began to cook with a face full of smoke, gorgeous silk began to be stained with milk stains", he once said "In my life, I have walked the road in many places, walked the bridges in many places, seen many times of clouds, drank many kinds of wine, but only loved a person of the right age", it turned out that she loved only Zhang Zhaohe's style and elegance, and he pursued the goddess for 4 years and fell off the altar in 4 months after marriage. He used the same affection used on Zhang Zhaohe in the past to Gao Qingzi, a teacher at Southwest United University, wrote him and her novel "Looking at the Red Record" for her, and later lived with him for 8 years, Zhang Zhaohe's life seemed to be unwilling to forgive Shen Congwen, and because Shen Congwen seemed to be in pain all his life, Shen Congwen said to Zhang Zhaohe until his death: "Sansan, I am sorry for you", how can a word of apology resolve the pain of a lifetime, Zhang Zhaohe did not seem to even know Shen Congwen's appearance until his old age, she once said: You love me, It's not so much that you love my people as you love to write to me."
What does Shen Congwen really love, love literati calligraphy and painting, love antiques, love beautiful women? Maybe he really just loves these, he doesn't understand marriage, he doesn't understand family, he is keen on poetry and far away, throwing a chicken feather life to his wife, selfish and happy with his lover, since ancient literati are affectionate, but it should not be a fig leaf for cheating, Shen Congwen in his later years turned from depression to mental illness, and finally ended his life by suicide, his suicide is nothing more than a kind of love can be desperate.
As long as you are together, drinking boiled water is also happy, marriage, need is more important than love, how much he needs you, will become more disciplined for you, married because of mutual needs, no divorce is because it has always been needed, Zhang Zhao and dignified and beautiful before marriage, is Shen Congwen's need for poetry inspiration, after marriage is not in demand, marriage is also a choice, not in the many people to choose you, but no matter how long it takes to still choose you.
Shen Congwen is not scum in the end? It is simply scummy chic, no responsibility, no responsibility, no morality, selfishness, harm to yourself, but also harm Zhang Zhaohe's life.
It is said that it is a poignant love, but in fact there is no love between them. Shen Congwen is not the only scumbag in the literary world, Guo Moruo, Lao She, Xu Zhimo are all talented people in the literary world, writing words full of love, doing bad things everywhere, cheating on the harm to the partner is like a needle, pulling out will splash a body of blood, not pulling out will always be faint pain, cheating is not a good man or a bad man, see a love is the nature of man, just the struggle between spirit and flesh, responsibility and morality to adhere to or not.
Women must always live for themselves, live themselves empty and noble, do not stop improving themselves at any time, if you love me, I can take off the gorgeous cheongsam to wash and cook for you, if you do not love, I can also turn around gracefully and forget you, if you are not worthy of being forgiven, I will never forgive, Zhang Zhaohe's nobility comes from the elegance of the soul, is the inner self-discipline and purity, the woman who stands on the soul always replaces the scream with silence, she lives out the courage that modern women should have.