Reading "Dear Andrei" is the feeling of education

First, let's do a brief introduction to Dear Andrea

"Dear Andrei" is a collection of letters exchanged between contemporary writer Long Yingtai and his son Andrei for three years, in which Long Yingtai and his son exchanged a wide range of content, including music, film, democracy, rights, the German education system, the collision of Eastern and Western cultures, etc. Andrei "has three points of cynicism, two points of black humor, and five points of seriousness"; Long Yingtai "has eight points of seriousness, and two points of intellectual doubt". Andrei "laughed at Long Yingtai"; Long Yingtai "studied it carefully." --- intercept Baidu Encyclopedia

The first time I read Long Yingtai's book was when I first worked, it should have been eight years ago, I would have read "Dear Andrei", only to see it as a fun article, did not deeply understand its background, the deep things in the letters, ignorant of green, only slightly understood the fur. Maybe it was about the same age as Andre in the letter, and many ideas were closer to Andrei, thinking that the mother in the book and his own mother were really very different. Reading as I grew older, especially after becoming a mother, after reading "Dear Andrei" again, I found a lot of content that I had not found before.

"I also ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your achievements with others, but because I hope that you will have the right to choose in the future, choose time, meaningful work, rather than being forced to make a living" This is a passage written by Long Yingtai to Andrei, which is really well written. At present, many parents have entered a family education model that seems to be democratic, but is actually kidnapped. They want their children to be excellent, not to consider what the children need, but to consider more whether their ideals can be realized in the children, and whether their face can be reflected through the children's achievements. During this time, a TV series "Little Joy" was particularly popular, in which Song Qian's view of education was personally considered to be a kind of moral kidnapping. Using a monitoring education method to monitor the child's every move, the child is breathless, resulting in a decline in mid-term test scores, not considering the child's preferences, just blindly pursuing Tsinghua and other universities. In the past few days, there is a news that the college entrance examination is 160 points, and the parents hold a grand promotion banquet, which has attracted the spit of the onlookers. Indeed, for the college entrance examination 160 points, is a very low score, placed in the vast majority of families, many parents will feel humiliated, will never hold a promotion banquet, and will not be a large operation. On the other hand, the parents of this child not only held a promotion banquet, but also a very large-scale one. Netizens say everything, but is there a kind of netizen who thinks so: the promotion banquet is to celebrate the child from an ignorant age to a mature age, in order to tell everyone that my family has a female (child) who has just grown up, and although my child's score is not high, it represents the past, the future, we will still be very good. As Fang Yifan said: Mom and Dad, I am not a bad child, I am just a child who does not learn well. You can't judge a child's good or bad because of the good grades.

"Dear Andrei" mothers are more concerned about whether their children's physical and mental health and whether interpersonal relationships are harmonious, which relatively weakens the requirements for grades. This is difficult for the vast majority of our parents to do. So I would like to say that children, as a person, cannot blindly pursue achievements and ignore the bits and pieces that appear in the process of growing up. Educating people first cultivates materials and then cultivates talents. Character education is more important than grade education. Just like the Hong Kong riots during this period, most of the young people who rushed ahead were young people with knowledge, and knowledge was there, but morality, the legal system, and the concept of the state seemed to be a little less.

Moral education comes first.