The wife endured the pain of IVF, but the 32-year-old twin father-to-be was obsessed with the Internet, did not go home for months and even wanted to beat up the child. The crying woman in the picture is named Li Man, who is accusing her husband of being so desperate. After 5 months of pregnancy, the husband suddenly changed his temperament, not only did he no longer have the gentle and considerate he used to have, but he was also addicted to the Internet. After returning home, the husband actually said that he had no feelings for his wife and wanted his wife to beat up the IVF. After hearing her husband's words, Li Man could no longer bear the grievances in his heart and cried on the spot. However, the husband on the side was not at all moved, and even blamed all the responsibility on the wife. What's going on here?
Li Man's husband, Tan Wentao, was born in an ordinary family. When he was a child, because his family was poor, Tan Wentao ran through many places with his father to do business, and his turbulent and displaced life also made him very sensible at a very young age. He has been "someone else's child" since he was a child, not only studying well, but also a class cadre in the class, and friends around him are envious of the Tan family for giving birth to such a good son. After graduating from high school, Tan Wentao couldn't bear to let his father pay himself tuition again, so he gave up the opportunity to go to college and began to help at home. At that time, the Tan family opened a restaurant in Yuetang, and Tang Wentao helped his father do some work in the hotel. As the days passed, the Tan family's business also became better. Later, under the introduction of the matchmaker, Tan Wentao met his current wife Li Man, and after the two got married, their parents helped them buy a house. Now Li Man is five months pregnant, because of the previous miscarriage, Li Man did IVF this time. Enduring great pain, Li Man conceived twins for Tan Wentao. However, what Li Manwan did not expect was that before the child was born, Tan Wentao had a problem first. Faced with her husband's indifference and frequent nightfall, Li Man was angry and wanted a divorce.
In the Tan family's house, Li Man was angrily packing up his things and preparing to go home. At the mention of her husband, her tears couldn't help but flow down. I don't know since when, Li Man often did not see her husband for ten days and half a month, and his son's behavior made Father Tan unable to look down, and he angrily ran to the Internet café to find his son. In the dark Internet café, Tan Wentao was browsing the web in front of a computer, he did not play games, nor did he indulge in anything, but even so, he still did not want to go home. Seeing his son, Tan's father angrily questioned him, but in the face of his father's accusations, Tan Wentao showed great composure and kept saying that he would let his father question his wife. Originally, he did not go home for a long time, but now he has pushed the responsibility to his wife, what is Tan Wentao's heart thinking?
Not long after, Li Man also came to the Internet café. Seeing her husband, Li Man did not make any accusations, but instead went forward to stroke her husband's head first, as if she were a gentle mother. Tears in her eyes
Li Man gently advised Tan Wentao to go home, but Tan Wentao only said to let his wife go back first, and he was not willing to go with his wife. Looking at her indifferent husband, Li Man silently walked out of the Internet café. Thinking of her husband's previous gentleness and thoughtfulness, and looking at her now like a passerby, Li Man was simply grief-stricken.
Li Man said that her husband used to be a particularly gentle and kind person, very concerned about her, and very good at taking care of people. After getting married, her husband commuted her to and from work every day and brought her food at noon, but now everything has changed. Li Man said that when he first finished IVF, his husband once told himself that he was tired and felt that life was very boring, but he did not mention it much after that. But from that point on, the husband seemed to start to change. Tan's father also found that after he bought the house for his son in full, his son was different. Because he was sensible since he was a child, he also suffered with his family. So when Tan's father was rich in middle age, he thought of doing his best to make up for his son. The son's house was bought by Tan's father for 1.4 million yuan with the demolition money, and the child also wanted it after Tan Wentao agreed. But what puzzled him was that when he did everything for his son, his son lost his happiness. Obviously, parents are very obedient to their son's wishes, but why has the son become so rebellious.
Soon after, Tan Wentao finally returned home. Sitting at the dinner table with his family, Tan Wentao was very indifferent to everyone's words. He even said that he was an emotionless zombie, with no feelings for his wife, and even less for the upcoming fetus, and he didn't even want these two children. In the face of her husband's cold-blooded ruthlessness, Li Man was angry and could not say a word. Looking back on her husband's changes, Li Man feels that a large part of the reason why her husband has become what he is now is because of setbacks in life. If you want to buy a house and have no money, you can only rely on your parents' savings; you want to go out to find a job but frequently fail, and eventually you have to live on your parents. Everything made him lose confidence in himself, so he lost interest in life and became closed.
In desperation, the Tan family could only turn to a psychologist. The doctor told Tan's family that Tan Wentao's current situation was actually rooted in his family. Due to the family's obedience, Tan Wentao could not play his own value at all, and in this family, he could not find the meaning of existence, and even felt that he was not needed. His parents did everything for him, but it hurt him. His parents' arrangements were never just love, but also the invisible harm caused to him. Therefore, the doctor suggested that when the wife is a wife, she should encourage her husband more, and if she is a parent, she should let go of more, and the child should bear the pain that he suffers, and this parent will never be able to help. The psychologist also tried to communicate with Tan Wentao, and under the guidance of the doctor, he was also willing to make changes slowly. I believe that Tan Wentao in the future will be able to get better slowly. Bless him.
There is no parent who does not love their children, but too much love can hurt. Suffering is the only way in life, and I hope that every parent can understand this, so that children can grow up healthier. Well, that's it for today's story. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section, here is the life of the pen, we will see you in the next issue.