Happy marriages are all similar, unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes.
A good start doesn't necessarily have a happy ending, or who wants to divorce and remarry?
What is the secret to a happy marriage?
Perhaps everyone's answer is different, but what is the same is the mutual understanding and responsibility of the two people.
Compared with ordinary people, celebrity marriages have more variables, so celebrity marriages are more likely to attract people's attention and discussion.
Mr. Zhang Xuejin, a master of Peking Opera, had three marriages in his lifetime, of which the third wife was married to him during his illness until his death, and this relationship was deeply moving.
Although the days of the two were short, it made Zhang Xuejin's life in his later years reassuring and happy.
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Zhang Xuejin is the son of the famous Peking Opera master Zhang Junqiu, influenced by his father, he has a strong interest in drama since he was a child, and will hum a few words with adults, so the family asked a teacher to teach him to practice, and he once learned doll sounds from Chen Xiguang as a teacher.
At the age of seven, he officially entered the Beijing Opera School to study, up to ten years of hard training, he laid a solid foundation, after graduation he became a Peking Opera actor, into the Xun Huisheng Peking Opera Troupe, two years later was transferred to the Beijing Municipal Xiqu School Experimental Peking Opera Troupe.
In the troupe, he met his first wife, Huang Ruping.
At that time, Huang Ruping was a Qingyi of the Beijing Opera House, and when he was young, Huang Ruping exuded a sense of elegance and beauty in his bones.
Even with her thick stage makeup, she can't hide her handsomeness.
Zhang Xuejin fell in love with her at first sight, and soon began a passionate pursuit, and soon after, he touched the heart of the goddess, and the two only spent a while together, and then they married in a hurry.
Both are people active on the stage, Lang Cai female appearance, their combination, I don't know how many people envy it, but the shoes do not fit, only they themselves know, what is the reason for the divorce later, Zhang Xuejin did not mention in his autobiography "Life is just in time".
It is said that when Zhang Chuchu was three years old, once a guest came to the house, but the little girl ran over to let her father hug her.
In the 1980s, Zhang Xuejin met his second wife, who was middle-aged at that time, and Song Jia was in a beautiful moment of youth.
Song Jia
When the two of them met, Song Jia was only 21 years old, and Zhang Xuejin was exactly 21 years older than him.
At the beginning of the reform and opening up in the 80s, their marriage was discussed by many people, and when the two walked together, they were speculated that Song Jia was because of Zhang Xuejin's fame, but they themselves claimed to the outside world that they came together because they really loved each other.
It is said that this marriage was recognized by Zhang Xuejin's parents at that time, and his father Zhang Junqiu liked Song Jia very much, and when he first saw Song Jia, he felt that his son had picked up the treasure, so the two married lightning only three months after they met.
A few years later, the two gave birth to a daughter, Zhang Chuchu, and it should be said that the marriage was very happy.
Even Song Jia said that she had a bad temper, but Zhang Xuejin was very tolerant of her.
But who would have thought that after a seemingly happy marriage lasted for ten years, the two also parted ways, because Zhang Xuejin suffered from liver disease.
Accidentally stumbled on the hot water bottle, the hot water bottle did not burn Zhang Chuchu, but Zhang Xuejin's foot was scalded.
Zhang Xuejin spent most of his life on the stage career, for the performance after a week, in order to make the injury on the foot better, Zhang Xuejin listened to the doctor's advice: if you want to be good and fast, you need a blood transfusion.
Who expected that he had been injected with a package of blood with liver disease virus, so Zhang Xuejin suffered from hepatitis C, which was also the cause of Zhang Xuejin's later liver cancer.
And this matter directly affected their husband and wife relationship.
Since the hepatitis C virus is transmitted through the bloodstream.
When a family lives together, they must always worry about not having a broken mouth, and mouth ulcers are not enough.
There are many obstacles to living together in this way, the daughter is still young, and Song Jia is worried that her daughter is also infected, so the couple has frequent conflicts.
Later, when Zhang Chuchu was five years old, Zhang Xuejin and Song Jia divorced.
In this way, public opinion even accused Song Jia, saying that she left when her husband was ill and was ruthless and unjust.
After the divorce, Zhang Chuchu was sentenced to Song Jia, who raised her daughter alone.
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When he divorced Song Jia, Zhang Xuejin was already in his fifties, and the failure of two consecutive marriages had already poured out his confidence in his feelings, and for the next twenty years he lived alone, did not look for a new partner, and devoted himself to his artistic career with enthusiasm.
During this period, Zhang Xuejin had a great development in his career, and began to accept apprentices, becoming an artist respected and loved by everyone.
For many years, he lived alone, often turned on the TV very loudly, the apprentices thought that his ears were not good, in fact, he lived alone for many years, on the stage he was an artist who attracted attention, noisy and prosperous, behind closed doors he was a lonely old man in his old age, and many years of living alone made him more reticent.
Originally, he also thought that his life would end up alone, but the appearance of a person made the last time of his life have a different vivid color.
Speaking of his fate with Zhang Limin, Zhang Xuejin had a dramatic explanation, and once joked with the people around him: My father (Zhang Junqiu) stood on the cloud head, holding a broom, and pointed at her (Zhang Limin), and I, the student, belonged to you.
Indeed, if it were not for the connection between opera and the fact that Zhang Limin was a disciple of Zhang Junqiu, Zhang Xuejin would have found it difficult to find an elderly wife in the vast sea of people.
Once Zhang Xuejin and Zhang Limin went to a box office event together, when passing through a revolving door, Zhang Xuejin accidentally tripped up and almost fell, Zhang Limin immediately helped him, and heard Zhang Xuejin himself underestimate a sentence: People are old, and their hands and feet are not flexible...
Zhang Limin was very distressed, and felt in her heart that such an artist should not live such a lonely and helpless life.
Zhang Xuejin naturally can feel Zhang Limin's love, since he and Zhang Limin are acquainted, every time he arrives at the box office event, he is excited to call Zhang Limin to ask her to go with her, even Zhang Xuejin's disciples and friends feel that this great artist seems to be a few years younger and full of vitality.
After the Beijing Bird's Nest and the Water Cube Gymnasium were built, Zhang Limin said that she wanted to go to see, Zhang Xuejin immediately accompanied her, and on the way the two walked, Zhang Xuejin confided his heart to Zhang Limin, he said:
"You see other people are going out for a walk in pairs, and it's good to have a companion in old age!"
Zhang Limin replied, "Why envy others, you can also find one." ”
Zhang Xuejin said, "I have found it. ”
Zhang Limin asked, "Who?" ”
Zhang Xuejin immediately said, "You." ”
Zhang Limin did not immediately agree, but said: "You allow me to think about it." ”
At this time, Zhang Limin, who had also lived alone for many years, knew that Zhang Xuejin had always had a good feeling for her, but she had silently hidden in her heart for ten years, and she muttered to herself: How not to say it earlier, waiting for ten years...
In the blink of an eye, it was time for Zhang Xuejin to go to the hospital to check his body, since he was ill, he regularly had to go to the hospital for review, this time he smiled and said to Zhang Limin: "If the test results are good, will you marry me?" ”
Looking at Zhang Xuejin's confident and expectant look, Zhang Limin nodded and smiled.
But this time, The Heavenly Father was not beautiful.
The two people waited for the test results to come out, and they were dumbfounded at first glance, and the reported result was: malignant tumor of the liver.
For Zhang Xuejin is really a sunny thunderbolt, originally thought that the good days of old age are about to begin, but it was hit hard, Zhang Limin is also very heavy, she has been looking forward to Zhang Xuejin can spend his old age quietly, at this moment in the face of this heavy blow, she did not know how to open her mouth to comfort him.
On that day, the two of them supported each other, and they did not know how to walk back home, and along the way, the tears blurred their eyes and made it impossible to see the road ahead.
After calming down, Zhang Limin took Zhang Xuejin to her home and received a marriage license with Zhang Xuejin, she took on the responsibility of taking care of an elderly patient in her 70s, and it was love that gave her this courage.
Being with zhang Xuejin in his later years is not only a comfort, but also an injection of vitality into his final life.
Even the disciples felt that the master seemed to have changed into a person.
Actor Zhu Qiang said: In the past, we were all afraid of Master, but after having Master, we and Master were like a family, and we could get together to make Master happy.
Master Niang is particularly kind to Master, she is willing to accompany Master wherever she goes, Master's mental state is much better, it is Master Niang who gathers us disciples to Master's side.
The little apprentice Mu Yu said: Master Niang said to Master's kindness, just moved into a new home, Master sat on a solid wooden sofa, said "hard", Master Niang did not say a word, the next day all changed the leather sofa.
Zhang Limin and Zhang Xuejin live together, never dislike him as a liver disease patient, hepatitis C is mainly transmitted through blood, usually eat together is not contagious, but the general situation is still a meal system.
But this is not in line with the Chinese's dining habits, Zhang Limin in order not to let Zhang Xuejin feel angry, in the dinner with the apprentices are to break the meal sharing system, the apprentices are also willing to eat with the master forever, with actions to melt the ice in Zhang Xuejin's heart, let him feel the warmth of the big family.
Zhang Xuejin himself sighed: I was able to live for another five more years, all because of Li Min and my apprentices.
On August 28, 2012, Zhang Xuejin's limit was approaching, and when he was still conscious, he began to explain the property problem.
Although Zhang Xuejin wanted Zhang Limin to inherit all his property, according to the law, his wife was also the first person eligible to inherit the property, but Zhang Limin did not accept, she took the initiative to transfer more than 600,000 yuan of deposits and a house under Zhang Xuejin's name to his daughter Zhang Chuchu, and did legal justice.
After a period of time, his condition deteriorated, and in the last few months, Zhang Limin and his apprentices spent with him.
In December 2012, Zhang Xuejin was critically ill, from the early morning Zhang Limin felt that his condition was not good, the indexes were not normal, he wanted to speak but could not speak, Zhang Limin held his hand tightly, tears rained down, looking at his slightly open mouth, Zhang Limin understood his meaning, understood that he wanted to see his daughter again before leaving, Zhang Limin immediately called his daughter Zhang Chuchu.
Knowing that his father was critically ill, Zhang Chuchu rushed to Beijing in a hurry, but by the time Zhang Chuchu hurried from Shanghai to Beijing, Zhang Xuejin had already closed his eyes.
Because of the incident when she was three years old, Zhang Chuchu had a psychological shadow in her later life, and she always believed that she had harmed her father, and it was also her own parents who divorced.
Unfortunately, in the last moment, she could not see her father's last look, nor could she listen to his last comfort.
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The family and apprentices took care of Zhang Xuejin's affairs.
The cemetery and tombstones were arranged very early, right next to his father, Zhang Junqiu, the Huaxia Cemetery in Changping.
Zhang Limin took the design drawings of the environment and inscriptions to Zhang Xuejin very early, and he looked at it for a long time, saying that he did not want to leave anything, did not need a cemetery, and did not want to keep the manuscript materials.
Zhang Limin knew that he was afraid of being alone, so she comforted him and said that the large and small connected stones on the design drawings were engraved with Zhang Xuejin's name on the high, and the short one was left to herself, and she would be with Zhang Xuejin after a hundred years.
Zhang Xuejin did not speak again, obviously acquiescing.
It is said that in order to find the stone on the design drawing, Zhang Limin ran all over the stone field on the outskirts of Beijing, but did not find the right one, she still did not die, continued to look, and finally saw a strange stone in Fangshan, which was connected to the same size stone as the design drawing, with a beautiful shape, really God's favor.
She excitedly photographed the stone and showed it to all of Zhang Xuejin's apprentices, everyone said yes, Zhang Limin spent a lot of money to buy the stone, and also asked friends in the cultural circles to inscribe the words "The remaining disciples will be passed on" and "the first person after the horse", which won everyone's appreciation.
These two inscriptions are in line with objective facts, Zhang Xuejin was 21 years old when he was under the guidance of Ma Lianliang, the founder of the "Ma Pai" of Peking Opera, and later became the excellent heir of the Ma Pai, and the role of the spread of the Ma Pai cannot be underestimated.
Before he died, he instructed his disciples, saying, "Your master and mother have not enjoyed the blessings of following me, and you have suffered so much that you will give her a birthday when she has a birthday."
On the day of giving Zhang Xuejin the spirit guard, the disciples celebrated the birthday of the master together, this birthday is probably the most unforgettable and saddest birthday of Zhang Limin's life, the disciples silently accompanied her, did not say much, only crying and swollen eyes.
Such an artist has completed his life, a life of ups and downs, fortunately in the last days of his life, he actually met a beloved wife, so that the last time of his life was full of sunshine, so that he left the world with peace.
In this way, Zhang Xuejin's third marriage was lucky, meeting a virtuous, strong, and assertive confidant.
Marriage and love are not the same, marriage than simple love requires more responsibility and persistence, can end the marriage, there are no more than two reasons, one is to maintain the appreciation of each other, the other is to tolerate each other.
In fact, getting along between husband and wife is not so complicated, but it is just that if you are good to me, I will be better to you.