Wen | Gu Ziyu
01.
The bride price, known in ancient times as the dowry, represents the man's sincerity to the woman, is a very important etiquette, of course, the woman must also prepare a dowry to bring to the man's home.
Modern people have always been controversial about the issue of the bride price, and even have a sky-high bride price, and in some places the bride price is set too high, resulting in many marriageable young men who cannot marry their wives.
However, there are also some young people who are not bound to this form, and they marry without a bride price, believing that the bride price is only a form and does not determine the happiness of marriage.
If two people really love each other and can get a happy life by relying on their own hands, if the bride price is more, it will increase the burden of the family and bring pressure to the life of the small family, which is not necessarily a good thing.
But what would happen if the bride price was not required? Is it understandable that the woman is considerate and understanding, and the man should be content, feel that meeting such a girl, how much burden to reduce the burden on the family, and should be better for the girl, because such a girl is really rare now.
Some women's families want a bride price, and the lion opens his mouth widely, just like selling a girl, thinking that he is very valuable, he wants less, afraid that people will say that he is not worth it.
However, some people do not know how to cherish gratitude, their own family can not get the bride price, it is difficult to meet a girl do not want the bride price, but said that people are cheap and have no good goods.
In short, there are all kinds of people and all kinds of ideas, so whether to give a bride price or not depends on what kind of talent you meet, and some people should have to do it.
02.
When Xiaoli and Wang Wei fell in love, they knew that Wang Wei's family conditions were average, and when she got married, she did not ask for a bride price, she felt that she was doing this to understand each other's difficulties, she thought that her in-laws would understand their intentions and would be very good to her in the days to come.
Unexpectedly, the development of things did not go according to Xiao Li's expectations, and in turn, she suffered all her grievances, but she could not say anything.
Her husband regarded her not asking for a bride price as a thing to show off, not to be grateful but to mock and dismiss, and often said in front of her: No money, no good goods.
The words of the mother-in-law are even more thunderous: cheap is not good! It came too fast and went too fast. The implication is that this daughter-in-law will not stay and live a life steadily, and may run away one day.
Although Xiao Li is also very sad, but she feels that she is married, regret is useless, then admit it, she can live a good life, you can block their mouths.
After giving birth, Xiaoli did not go to work, there was no financial resources, if you want to spend money, you have to ask your husband, the husband gives 10 yuan to buy vegetables, and the rest of the change is returned to the husband.
The daily necessities needed at home, buy back to see the invoice, if there is no receipt and other vouchers, it is inevitable to be another humiliation.
The child wants to eat some snacks, Xiaoli will ask her husband for money, and then go to buy it back for the child, for a long time, the child knows that the mother is embarrassed, and does not ask the mother for something.
There is an old saying: Father has a mother is not as good as himself, and the family of two still has to open their mouths!
A woman can not be financially independent, she must rely on the sniffles of others to survive, and if there is no other advantage, she will be disliked by others, and she must be careful and look at people's faces to live.
03.
Xiaoli does not want to be looked down upon by her husband and in-laws, such a day she has really had enough, she would rather go to the market to set up a stall and spend the money she earns, she gets up early and climbs in the middle of the night, hard work, and finally can be financially independent.
But the husband Wang Wei began to moth again, he said that xiaoli earned money, by him to keep, the reason is that he will manage money, money to make money is the last word, once in order to let Xiaoli transfer the 3,000 yuan in the account to him, the two had a big fight.
Xiao Li said that she was very hard every day, getting up early and greedily to earn some money, and sometimes the children could help to lay hands, but her husband was like a grandfather, idle, and he lived too much.
Xiaoli did not want to turn herself into a resentful woman, decided to take her daughter out by herself, at this time her husband panicked, she did not expect that she would be abandoned by her wife and children one day, he realized that he was wrong, it was too late.
When a woman is determined to leave a man, it is not a momentary impulse, that is, having saved enough disappointment, the heart has been broken to pieces, and the seam cannot be sewn up.
Don't pay the bride price, it is not easy to understand you, you are not grateful, but as a joke, you will never know that every time you taunt, is a knife in the heart of the other party.
Write at the end:
I have seen such a passage: Girls must receive dowry money when they get married, because then the in-laws will pay attention to your arrival. Because most people will cherish what they have given, and they will not care about what they get empty-handed, this is human nature.
To put it bluntly, if the other party really cares about you, he is willing to pay for you, he will feel that the bride price represents sincerity, if he does not care about this person, how can he be willing to pay, and he wants to pick up a big bargain.
Therefore, when girls get married, polish their eyes, and the bride price is not given, not necessarily unable to take out the money, but the other party thinks that you are worthless.
Mader said, "Love life in those who like you; see the world in those who don't like you."
For a person who does not love himself, why live like himself, why is it so painful? Everyone only has one life, so why waste your time on someone who doesn't love themselves?
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