After a parent in Guiyang had a conflict of ideas with the teacher because he opposed the homeroom teacher's excessive written homework, he was jointly "petitioned" by 37 other parents in the same class to ask his 7-year-old child to transfer schools. After the incident was reported, it triggered heated discussion among netizens.
A few days ago, the parents concerned posted one after another on social media, telling their own mental journey and showing their own educational concepts. He said, "I have never identified with the so-called happiness education, learning requires effort and hardship, which is common sense, I just hope that this effort and hardship will remain within the scope of health, within the scope of national policies and education guidelines." ”
She said, "In a group of such distortions, anyone can go on to be the next girl." ”
Jiupai News learned that you have transferred to a private primary school 27 kilometers away from home and is currently in the third grade. When he was in the first and second grades, he attended the Guiyang Affiliated Primary School of Beijing Normal University, and the "petition" occurred during the child's second grade.
Her mother told Nine Pai News that the petition was written on November 6 last year, but she only learned about it in March this year, "At that time, I was shocked and angry. The parents committee set up a separate group behind my back, and then signed a petition to ask my daughter to transfer schools, and the class teacher, Teacher Zhai, was not only in the group, but also the group leader. ”
She also said that Ms. Zhai often reinforced her teaching philosophy through the parents' committee and excluded her, which in turn caused the other children in the class to isolate her.
Subsequently, she submitted her report materials to the relevant departments. She told Jiupai News that she mainly reported that Teacher Zhai instigated and instructed the Parents Committee to set up a separate group, isolated students, accepted gifts at the same time, violated the teaching of the program, and violated the ranking.
According to an Opinion on the Reprocessing of Petition Matters issued by the Guanshanhu District Education Bureau, "The WeChat group was created by members of the Parents' Committee on November 4 last year, after which the creator transferred the group owner to Teacher Zhai, and some of the class matters were still notified through the original class WeChat group." However, Teacher Zhai, as the class teacher, did not stop and acquiesce in the existence of the newly established WeChat group in time, and at the same time issued some notices about class matters in the group, and discussed issues related to the youyi family with other parents in the group. ”
In addition, with regard to the "issue of Teacher Zhai instigating the Parents Committee to submit a petition to force the Girl to transfer to another school" raised by the mother," the opinion also stated that the petition was written and signed by the parents committee itself, and the parents signed it voluntarily, and the investigation did not find that Teacher Zhai instigated the parent committee or the parents. However, Teacher Zhai did not find out the content of the petition in time and stop the behavior, and there was indeed an impropriety in the behavior.
On August 2, the Guiyang Municipal Education Bureau notified three typical cases of violations of the Ten Guidelines for the Professional Conduct of Primary and Secondary School Teachers, including "Zhai Mou, a teacher of the Guiyang Affiliated Primary School of Beijing Normal University, violating the teacher's morality and teaching style".
The notice said, "Zhai accepted gifts from the Parents' Committee during Teachers' Day, announced the ranking of results, omitted questions before the exam, and acquiesced in and participated in the PTA's exclusion of individual parents from forming groups. ”
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[1] The child has changed to a new environment, and his state is much better
Nine Faction News: How is the current state of the girl?
Youyi Mama: Youniu is now in the third grade, studying in a private primary school 27 kilometers away from home, and it will take two hours to travel back and forth every day, which consumes a lot of energy and is very hard for her.
After the incident happened in March this year, I put down my job, accompanied her all the time, told her that it was not her fault, and then changed a school, changed an environment, made new friends, and her state slowly improved a lot.
Before, she was in the first and second grades of guiyang affiliated primary school of Beijing Normal University, this school's sign is very loud, very famous, my community counterpart school is this primary school. We only moved here when we were in elementary school, and the kindergarten was not on this side, so I almost never had contact with the parents in the class.
Nine School News: When did you know that parents jointly asked their children to withdraw from school?
Mother: I didn't know about it for a long time after they signed it, and it was all done behind my back.
On March 15 this year, I turned over the school door to pick up the children, and the school issued an "investigation note", and there was an attachment in the "description" showing that the parents had signed a petition, and I learned that they had jointly "expelled" my child, and 37 of the 39 classmates in the class signed the name.
I learned later through other parents that the petition had been signed as early as November 6 last year, and I was shocked and angry.
Nine Factions News: Why did they jointly sign this petition?
Mother: The class teacher and the parent committee think I am a thorn in the head, so they want my children to transfer schools. I learned through other parents that the PTA avoided us as early as November 4 last year to set up a separate group, and the class teacher Zhai was also in the group, and later turned into the group owner, it was in this new group that the PTA called on parents to sign the petition, and then, they completed the signature offline.
Nine Factions News: What happened before the petition was signed?
Mother: I had an argument with the class teacher, Teacher Zhai. Teacher Zhai is also the child's Language Teacher, on November 3, because the Chinese homework of the first day of the girl was not finished, Teacher Zhai asked her to go to the office to punish, but when the girl arrived at the office, Teacher Zhai herself went out, and for a whole class, the girl was left alone in the office. Originally, during that time, we told the teacher that the child's health was not good, the homework could not be written, the body was important, and we did not want to "chicken baby".
When I came back at noon, the child's asthma was committed, we were very angry, the child went to school well, I had to do this, and then I called Teacher Zhai, there was an argument, she also put the mobile phone voice out in front of the children in the class, and said to the children, "Everyone testify to Teacher Zhai." ”
Subsequently, the parents committee organized a group alone and signed a petition.
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Nine Schools News: Have you asked other parents why they signed this?
Youma: Later, a parent said to me, let me not mind, he said that in that situation at that time, no one dared not sign, and those who did not sign would be treated as an outlier, in fact, I could fully understand that the child's class was originally like this, controlled by several family committees, and most of the parents were wrapped up by them.
Nine Schools News: What role does the PTA play in it?
Mother: In fact, if there is no parent committee in the middle, this matter is a small matter, at most, it is a disagreement between me and the teacher on the concept of education, and things will not develop to this point. Many times, the disputes I had with Teacher Zhai would be sent to the PTA group in the blink of an eye, and the parents of the PTA would put pressure on me in order to "show loyalty", and eventually evolved into exclusion and isolation.
Nine Faction News: In addition to this time, have you also clashed with the class teacher?
Mother: There was only one quarrel on the surface, but I could feel that she had been looking at us unfavorably because we didn't agree with some of her teaching ideas.
In October last year, when she was in the second grade, the previous class teacher was transferred away, and the new teacher Zhai took over the class. At first, we were all still kind, and I even posted a lot of affirmations about the teacher's work in the group.
At that time, Teacher Zhai assigned a lot of homework, not only the girl, but most of the children in the class would achieve eleven or twelve o'clock. I let the child's father help write his homework, but after Teacher Zhai knew, he scolded you, and you asked your father to write your homework for you, so don't come to school. The girl came back crying, but we didn't have much to say, so we didn't do it.
In fact, in the first grade, we also helped the child write homework, the school assigned a lot of homework, the child's writing is slow, we feel that there is no need to be so much pressure, just help her write. The first-grade homeroom teacher knew that he still handled it better, and he said that parents did not need to help the parents to do as much as the children could do.
Nine Factions News: What happened later?
Youyi Mom: Later, when you developed asthma, we submitted a leave slip to the school, asking for the afternoon class to not go first, and to take the child for treatment, and the school agreed.
At noon on October 16 last year, Teacher Zhai said in the group that not all A was left to rewrite, and when to write and when to leave.
That day was the girl's father to pick her up, left and right, the child still did not come out, that afternoon was also going to go to the treatment, so the child's father was a little anxious, to the class teacher a few phone calls did not answer, just went in to pick up the girl out. Teacher Zhai may have felt that my husband had challenged her authority, so he took a photo of the child's father entering the classroom and posted it to the class group.
The next day, a member of the PTA came to my house to persuade us how to get along with the teacher and so on, and we felt inexplicable. In fact, we have always held an attitude, we respect your educational concepts, you do yours, do not interfere with us. As a result, within half a month, they secretly signed a petition asking my child to withdraw from school.
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Nine Schools News: Why did you take the initiative to withdraw from school later?
Youniu Mom: I obviously feel that the child is being excluded, and the English teacher arranges for you to be the representative of the English class, but the class teacher does not agree.
The child once wrote an essay, the topic is called my teacher, written by Teacher Zhai Your language class is very uninteresting, I don't like it, the result is that Teacher Zhai not only publicly criticized in the class, but also sent to the parent committee group, saying that my children have no upbringing, do not understand politeness, I still listen to the parents of the next class, but at that time I just felt that the child's words were unscrupulous, the teacher was very inappropriate, and did not care much.
Later, during the winter vacation, the girl brought back her self-portrait in the class, which had traces of pencil punctures, and there were children writing next to it, "Good or bad she" and "is a mother", I was very sad after reading it, and I began to understand the exclusion of the girl in the class.
Nine Faction News: What kind of character is a girl?
Youyi Mama: She is actually a very popular child, the popularity is very good, and the children around my house like her very much.
Youyi Mother: After the winter vacation, you were not happy for two days at the beginning of the school, and there was a situation of boredom. During that time, we found that the child became more and more dull, very unhappy, appeared to be mentally weak, and for a while she always had nightmares at night and could not sleep repeatedly.
We communicate with the child, the child continues to talk, saying that the classmates said that her grades are not good, saying that she is a poor student, we are very strange, the child's grades are very good, ah, last semester she scored 99 points in mathematics, 99 points in English, 93 points in the Chinese test.
She said that her classmates said that her Chinese scores were not good, because at that time everyone could only know the Language scores, and the other two subject teachers were in strict accordance with the regulations to tell each parent the results separately, others did not know, only Teacher Zhai sent all the results of all the people in the group.
Later, we gradually learned about the exclusion of some children in the class, and gradually developed to the point that children did not want to go to school.
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Nine Schools News: And then what?
Youma: Until March 12, the child came back and told me again that she didn't want to go to school, she was emotionally excited, and then I cried for half a day, and I specifically asked her if some of her classmates had bullied her, and she said that she would go, or that the children said that her grades were very poor, and the kind of atmosphere created by the teacher made her feel isolated.
I was very dissatisfied, so I sent a WeChat message to the class teacher, and the words were very fierce. She should have sent it to the parent committee, and then many parents in the parent group began to target me.
On March 15th, you were still very resistant and didn't want to go to school, so I told him that my mother would pick you up early at noon, and then talk to the teacher.
At that time, I really wanted to talk to the teacher, but when I got to the school gate, the security guard did not let me in, I asked the security guard to notify Teacher Zhai, but after the security notice, I still said that I would not let in, I saw that other parents were in, why didn't I let in, and I was worried that the child would have an accident inside, so I went over the telescopic door to pick up the child.
Nine Factions News: Did you do anything radical at that time?
You: At that time, I was very calm, very calm and turned over, and the security guard was actually very calm, watching me turn over.
Later, I went in to take the child and said hello to Teacher Zhai. The next day, I told the school about the child being forced to drop out of school, reflecting the problem of the child being excluded.
Then the school issued an "investigation report", and I saw that the parents had jointly asked my child to withdraw from school. Later, I collected some materials through other parents and submitted to the Education Bureau the issues of Teacher Zhai's violation of teacher morality, and the Education Bureau also made a determination.
Nine School News: What do other parents think of your report?
Youniu Mama: In August this year, the Guiyang Municipal Education Bureau issued a circular reporting three typical cases of violations of the Ten Guidelines for Teachers' Professional Conduct, including Ms. Zhai, the class teacher of Niuyou.
After the release of the circular, many PTA members and parents "cried foul" for Teacher Zhai, and some parents even described the people who privately provided me with the new group chat information as "internal ghosts" and said that they were "handing knives".
Wuhan Morning News reporter Chen Wei