What to do if you find yourself an "outlier"?

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Life Case——

Something sudden happened recently that made me feel very painful. I don't know when suddenly angry start the habit of grinding my teeth hard, and curse people viciously. No matter what I am doing, there will be a separation of two kinds of thoughts in the mind, obviously there is no relationship, for example, a friend occasionally said a joke, I actually did not accept to become fragile and suspicious, the heart collapsed at once, immediately began to sink: finished, finished, will she not treat me as a friend? This will go in the worst direction. This is a very ordinary thing in daily life, I thought at first that I was too pretentious and could get better soon, but because of a small thing, I suddenly exploded my own mentality, and immediately extended to the hope that everyone would die well, such an antisocial idea. I sensed something was wrong, but just as I was furious, I could feel a momentary change in my psyche. Suddenly relaxed and indifferent, suddenly compassionate, merciful Virgin, I was thinking in my heart at that time how can this be? No, no, I'm dead.

I used to be a very gentle and inferior person, depressed for several years, complicated but really didn't make me feel as hopeless as I do now. Those anti-social, demonic psychology is like a swarming fountain, and it cannot be blocked with your hands. It was disgusting, it was disgusting, and it was as if I couldn't bear it at the slightest thing. I don't know who to talk to, I'm afraid my friends will think I'm an outlier and think I'm a neurotic. But those two extremes were too much for me to bear, and I accepted like a blank space listening to their quarrels, the wrath of the devil and the compassion of the Virgin. But the problem is that whenever I mention these points of my pain, I am so rational that I feel terrible, like an outsider, and can still analyze myself. But when I talk to people, I almost forget what to say, even what I mention, forget what I just said, and look at my friends for a while and only remember their names. Every time I come to this point, I feel like an outlier, and do I really start to become a divisive lunatic?

Spiegel analysis...

When the emotional point is detonated, it also means that it is usually suppressed too much. Just like people who are often called "good children" suddenly "rebel" one day, no one listens to anyone's words, and insists on going their own way. This is a result that needs a process to get, it is also a staged process, the problem is that if this state affects their daily work and life, they need to be adjusted, and the slower the better, because of inertia, it is impossible to change at once, just like the sharp brake, always have to glide a distance.

Then, when stopping, there is no need to rush to act, that is, the so-called adjustment of direction, first to see where you are, where you want to go, and then act, it will be more efficient. For example, first figure out what kind of person you are, what you are interested in, what behavior you hate, what you say about what people do or what you say is comfortable or uncomfortable... When you make yourself understand this point, and then start to act, at least you can take fewer detours, less circles, the direct performance is that the emotional feeling is much more stable, the mind cognition is much clearer, the logical thinking is much more agile, therefore, the whole person's psychological state will be stable, the life state will be regular, the life state will be smooth, and the interpersonal relationship will naturally be repaired, and this time is the maturity period.

Summary, when they are "not accustomed" to "not accepting", there will be all kinds of troubles, there will be a variety of entanglements and contradictions, and finally it is related to their own values, sticking to what they believe, that is, belief, at the same time, respecting and accepting the other party is different from themselves, and aware of whether they want to change that, do or not for what they benefit from, what they lose, after weighing the pros and cons, you can do it, use practice to verify whether what you think is reasonable, and then refine and summarize, In the end, it is integrated into a set of self-awareness models called experiential things.