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Memories are usually solid, and when you're young and time is still standing on your head, you don't have to be afraid to forget. You can accurately name a very early lover.
But forgetting teaches us what love is.
Imagine that until one day, your memories start to fade, and you have to throw away the memories you have accumulated with all your life in the same way.
What's the last thing you want to forget? What are you probably remembering in the end? Who are the names and people you have to keep no matter what?
This extreme situation is what Alzheimer's patients are experiencing. After the onset of the disease, they will suddenly begin to lose their speech and memory. Most of life's precious memories are gone: the joy of further education, the turnaround of a career, the name of a child.
But there are some things that stubbornly remain in the memory. These memories have something in common: they are often about those important people in life—lovers, loved ones, partners.
The following stories illustrate that forgetting is a powerful force, and so is remembering.
Forget everything and still remember to love you
"Hello, where is Wanda Cloud?"
@ Zheng Shoutian 80 years old Hefei
Zheng Shoutian is an Alzheimer's patient. In recent months, he has appeared in the hospital almost every day, politely looking for his lover Wanda Yun from the nurses.
He had long forgotten that she had been discharged from the hospital in April this year and had been dead for half a year.
His memory has since stopped before his lover has left. He just thought she wasn't home, and he was so worried.
The nurses in the department were afraid that he would be sad, and when he was not busy, he helped him find Wanda Yun. Take him to the department where she used to live, or take a walk in the garden.
When he talks to the nurse, he will say that he is very worried about her condition and is very worried about her. After that, I left on my own, and my mood was always calm.
One day his brother met him in the hospital and reminded him that Wanda Yun had passed away. He was silent for a long time.
But the next day, he forgot about it again and showed up in the hospital on time. "Hello, where is Wanda Cloud?"
The nurse said that as long as he came, they would accompany him to perform.
"Xuehua, don't you want me anymore?"
@Lao Xia 94 years old Taiwan
Lao Xia is a northeasterner who settled in Taiwan. Having Alzheimer's disease for more than ten years, the name of his lover Cui'e, is what he remembers most clearly after he fell ill. The granddaughter said that Chang'e ran to the moon, and his first reaction was cui'e running to the moon.
Her nickname was "Xuehua", and he called it five or six hundred times a day. She went out to buy cakes, and he couldn't help but shed tears of worry at home, "But she's going to go as far as two or three red lights!" When she went to the toilet, he would also be aggrieved, "Xuehua, don't you want me anymore?" ”
Later, he began to remember her name. Until one day, she suddenly tried to shout "Xuehua", causing her to rush from the living room to the bedroom: "You are so good, so good... Do you finally remember me? ”
In July this year, Lao Xia passed away. Many people remembered two sentences he said.
"In this life, she married me, I begged her, and I was very happy." "Chen Cui'e Xia Wei, the two will never be separated."
Grandma took out a dozen boiled eggs from her arms, all of which stinked
@Alarm clock
During surgery in the field, my mother brought my grandmother to see me. I didn't know she was sick at the time.
When she saw that I was uncomfortable, she took out a small bag from her arms, which contained a dozen peeled boiled eggs, all of which stinked. I was particularly impatient, but she still stubbornly took one and put it to my mouth, saying, eat, eat it will not hurt.
Later, I learned that she had already experienced senile dementia, heard that I was sick, and immediately went to buy my favorite eggs, and after cooking, she knew that I was not at home. Pestering her mother to bring her, her mother was too annoyed to agree, but she did not expect that she was still carrying eggs that had been boiled a week ago.
Before going home, Grandma saw the egg next to the bed and said, "Don't you eat it?"
Later, my grandmother died of cerebral hemorrhage. I didn't cry at the funeral, but I remembered that my grandmother was disappointed and worried before she left, and said, "Don't you eat?" I cried.
All he had was a letter and a cremation certificate
@ Zhang Liansheng 90 years old Dalian
In September, 90-year-old Zhang Liansheng stood dazed on the streets of Dalian, forgetting his name and where his home was.
When the police arrived, they found that he only had a letter to his lover and a cremation certificate for his lover's death.
The letter was written 40 years ago, and the payment is "sheng", the beginning is "dear Xin", and the title inside is "you".
"Mom and Dad are fine, the sewing machine is also bought, I may not be able to go back around May 10th, you don't have to worry..."
"I'm very busy working here, but everything is fine, don't worry about it at all, I went to the pharmacy to buy you a box of warm palace pills, the rest of the medicine can't be bought, I managed to go to the hospital to prescribe ..."
"Everything is fine, don't worry about it, take good care of your body."
His lover has been dead for 17 years. This crumpled letter was what he wanted to remember the most.
Even if you forget everything, you haven't forgotten to love you.
"Mom!" "Your mother is in heaven, can't hear it"
@Fufeng into the pine Beijing
In the infusion room, I met them for two days in a row. The 82-year-old uncle accompanies the 85-year-old aunt, who is diabetic, blind in both eyes, Alzheimer's disease, and has intelligence close to the level of children. When she was infused, she would just say: Mom! My ass hurts... mother! Hurry up... mother! Where have you been......
When she calls "Mom" in her mouth, she is not shy, sincere, natural, persistent, full of emotions, close to the child's original state. The closer you get to the primitive, the more you reveal your instincts.
Uncle is physically tough, talking about various situations of the aunt next to him, laughing and hehe, and he can't see the complaint. He said that the big mother was demented, and he would only call the mother in his mouth, and the others would not, and he would have to be coaxed in all kinds. The nanny came to take care of it, and the aunt didn't buy it, so she had to hear the uncle's voice.
"Mom!" Uncle pointed to the ceiling, "Don't bark, your mother is in heaven, you can't hear it." ”
"Mom!" "Okay, here I am." Uncle was just about to get up, and The aunt shouted and quickly sat back down next to him.
Whether I was at home or not, she remembered to call me for dinner
@Qing Shallow
My little name is Wanhui, Grandma's. She is a teacher, and she hopes that I will study well and do ten thousand problems.
I was a single parent and had lived with her since I was a child. Her spirit has always been very bad, and she often suspects that someone in the rice bowl has poisoned her and talks to herself. Later, I got Alzheimer's disease and forgot more things. But what made me cry the most was that whether I was at home or not, she remembered calling me to eat every day.
Someone heard it and asked, "Do you still miss your granddaughter?" ”
She said: "I can't make her hungry, she can't help but be hungry when she was young. ”
The habit of licking bowls at meals has not changed until now
@Jc
Grandpa is 86 years old, and in the photo he and my three-year-old son are pictured. Grandpa was holding him, but he didn't know who the child was.
In "White Deer Plain", Tian Xiao'e and her father will lick the bowl after eating, and so will her grandfather, and she has not changed since she fell ill.
Later, I learned that in the past, the bandits had robbed the family, and the grandfather's family fled to Shaanxi, he was the eldest of the family, and there were four younger brothers and sisters below, and he earned money alone to support a large family.
In the era when there was no food to eat, they ate chaff every day and ate bran that pigs don't eat now. Grandpa always said that he was not hungry, ate less, the old man, the woman and the child finished eating, he licked the bowl, the habit has been left until now.
Now he seemed to be separated by a huge glass cover, getting quieter and quieter. But even if he didn't know me, I wanted this old man to live a hundred years.
"Why are you running?" "Oops, looking for my wife"
@Cui Xingli 80 years old in Wuhan
Choi has been married to her lover for 54 years. After suffering from Alzheimer's disease, if someone asks him about his age, he will say that he is 8 years old, in the fourth grade, and often lost.
Once, when his lover was not at home, he sneaked out and the whole family searched for six hours. When he found him, he was still looking around and asked him why he was running, and he said hey, he was looking for my wife.
The lover later opened a live broadcast and wanted to help him exercise and recover, and he obediently cooperated on the side. Grandma said "Mo Mo Da", and he followed suit.
When the reporter went to the interview, he asked him if he knew the lover next to him, and he said that this was his wife.
"What do you like about her the most?"
"Smile."
"When you're well, I'll take you to the hot springs"
@Yang Xiangyong Taiwan
Yang Xiangyong is a heavy locomotive crew member, when he was young, he taught his wife to ride horses, ride motorcycles, and travel around the island, and the load was more than fifty years.
But this once cool girl has slowly lost her ability to take care of herself. Sometimes he would get up in the middle of the night and find her all over the floor, unpacked everywhere.
Take her to the supermarket, and if you don't pay attention, she will run away. When she was taken to the hospital, she would pull out the drops and run away. He said that her brain seemed to have been wiped off by a rag, and after taking care of her for all these years, he would sometimes collapse and want to kill himself, but when he thought about it, he still felt that he could not leave her.
Later, he would worship the landlord every day, expecting a miracle to happen. "Hurry up, I can take you to the hot springs and take you out to play..."
And every time she saw him, whether she remembered who he was or not, she smiled very happily.
"My greatest wish is to die behind her"
@Oyama Yoshiyo 81 years old Japan
Doraemon is voiced by 81-year-old Oyama Kenshiro. Sometimes when arguing with her husband Keisuke, she will also unconsciously change her voice, arguing with her husband and laughing, "Hey, why do you argue with me again with the voice of Doraemon!" ”
But she can't recognize her husband's face now, or the robot cat she's been with for 26 years. Her husband, who had urethral cancer, began to take care of her as a daughter, vowing to live longer and not be relieved if he died one step ahead of her.
"I'm sure there will be new drugs for Alzheimer's that will restore her memories and remember bits and pieces of both of us." For that day, I also want to try my best to live, and I want to put a happy end to the life I have walked with her. “
But in July of this year, Sagawa died one step ahead of her.
"My wife only remembers my name. Even the female assistant who had followed her for many years shouted Keisuke... She must have had a lot to say to me..."
"I'm sorry, she'll just ask you..."
She was talking to herself, cursing and grinning, and he was the only one who understood it
@Twin Starling
In Zhongguancun taxi, the driver suddenly sent a message, saying that he had been with his wife for many years and asked me if I would mind. I said it was okay.
Getting into the car, the driver in his fifties had been apologizing. The wife was very well dressed, sitting in the co-pilot talking to herself, cursing and grinning. He said she had Alzheimer's and was talking to the mirror in the car. He didn't trust her to be at home by herself, so he took her out of the car every day.
The old lady looked at herself in the mirror angry and aggrieved, but she couldn't say anything clearly. He responded on the side, yes, then don't, let's change one, or obedient, not in a hurry.
If I can't understand it at all, he can understand it. As long as the old lady looked at him, her mood would become a little better. He was afraid that she was sunburning, and he specially installed a sunscreen curtain on her side.
I can't imagine how much love they had before, so that a person would do their best to protect her, even if they no longer knew themselves. When the driver patiently responded with her every word, I sat in the back row and was really about to cry.
Love is too short, forgetting is too long.
In fact, as long as the oblivion is not over, love will not end. Alzheimer's disease causes the most extreme forgetting, like an eraser, constantly depriving us of precious memories. But there really was something that stubbornly stayed.
After the memories are washed away, the love is still there. I forgot myself and still remember you.
After reading, think:
What stories of forgetting are around you?