Zhu Ziqing, a famous modern Chinese essayist and poet, the most widely known work "Back Shadow" is told by thousands of households and transmitted, but he does not know that after this "back shadow", there is such a complex and entangled father-son relationship.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > I haven't seen my father for more than two years</h1>
"I haven't seen my father for more than two years, and the last thing I can forget is his back. That winter, my grandmother died, and my father's messenger was handed over, and it was a day of misfortune. ”
In 1928, the collection of essays sent by the Enlightened Bookstore, "Back Shadow", went through several twists and turns, and finally reached the hands of Zhu Ziqing's father--- Mr. Zhu Hongjun. Just after reading the beginning, the old man couldn't help but choke up. At this time, it has been 5 years since the last time father and son met.
"Back Shadow" concludes by writing, "He just thinks about me, about his son." "When I was a child, whenever I read it, I always felt that there was something in the author's words. Only later did he understand that the discord between father and son, Zhu Ziqing did not talk about it in detail. However, the father and son are not as harmonious as imagined. Once upon a time, father and son would always be dissatisfied with each other and cut off contact. Without this article to unblock and tie ties to each other, we would not dare to wonder whether they would resent each other until the end of their lives.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > spend his son's salary, which is a matter of course</h1>
Zhu Ziqing's father was named Zhu Hongjun, who had served as an official in many places and had served as a beautiful messenger in charge of oil and salt. The Zhu family has been a scholar since ancient times, and Zhu Ziqing, as the eldest child in the family, his father has done his best for it. Under the condition of ensuring material conditions to the greatest extent, Zhu Ziqing will also be given great supervision in terms of learning. Under the strict teaching of such a father, Zhu Ziqing's literary skills laid a good foundation in this way.
Zhu Ziqing has an essay "Winter", in which he wrote about the scene of eating boiled tofu with his father when he was young. Every word in the article is filled with warmth and happiness, and the feeling of fatherly love jumps on the paper under Zhu Ziqing's pen, but Zhu Hongjun is imprisoned by feudal ethics and uses the extremely conventional father-son relationship as a way to deal with the emotions with his son. Love and rigidity, solemn and intimate, make Zhu Ziqing's relationship with his father seem intricate.
In the summer of 1916, Zhu Ziqing was admitted to the preparatory department of Peking University. The following year, my father left home, and a family instantly became resilient and heavily indebted. In order to help his family in advance, Zhu Ziqing applied for the Philosophy Department of Peking University in advance, and quickly returned to Yangzhou after graduation. During his work, his father relied on his relationship with the principal to silently withdraw Zhu Ziqing's salary for the month. This incident became the fuse of the contradiction between father and son.
Fathers feel that it is only right to spend their children's money, even if there is something inappropriate, they do not have to worry about it. What Zhu Ziqing could not accept was that his father never regarded him as a person as an equal, but was firmly imprisoned by ethical and moral relations. Zhu Ziqing was very angry and led his wife and children away from this home full of "three from four virtues".
The contradiction between Zhu Ziqing and his father, which seems to be an ordinary father-son contradiction, is actually the result of the fierce collision of new ideas and old concepts in the old era, which is the biggest difference in the concepts of parents and children in the vast majority of Chinese families in the early 20th century.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > is not far away</h1>
Although the father is old, although he does not care about his son in the eyes of outsiders, he is still worried about his eldest son in his heart, but he has no steps down and cannot admit his mistakes. Later, he could only exchange letters with Zhu Ziqing in the name of remembering his grandson. In 1925, when Zhu Ziqing was working at Peking University, he received a family letter thousands of miles away, and the payment was his stubborn father, who wrote: "I am in good health, but my arms are in severe pain, I hold up a pen, there are many inconveniences, and the period of about the great departure is not far away." ”
The affection between father and son made him sad, recalling the parting scene when he left his hometown to study, and his father sent him to the railway station, he wrote the well-known "Back Shadow" with his pen. When the father read the article and understood his son's heart, another 3 years passed. In 1928, the father finally read this essay, and the contradiction with his son eased and disappeared, shaking hands and making peace.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > I will follow your back and walk into the grave</h1>
The love of parents is deep, delicate, and blood thicker than water, and it will be gradually alienated or diluted by us in the long river of time, but you can never deny that it has always been in place, quietly guarding your every minute and second, until the last moment of their lives. Some people say that parents are a wall between children and death, and in the absence of parents, children are not far from death.
Three years after his father's death, Zhu Ziqing died in Beiping due to gastric perforation at the age of 50.