A mouthful of spit, a nail.
This sentence is to tell us that if you say it, you must be responsible for your own words, do not easily make promises when you can't do it, when you tell a lie, you must use 100 sentences to circle, and most importantly, it will hurt each other's affection.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > a car to facilitate 2 marriages, triggering conflicts between 3 families</h1>
Li Jianguo and Wang Ying are two older sons, raising two sons under their knees, the eldest son is called Li Pengcheng, the younger son is called Li Wanli, in 2018, the mother Wang Ying proposed the idea of adding a car to the family, this suggestion was strongly supported by the two sons.
The mother and son discussed and decided that the car should be placed under the name of their mother Wang Ying, everyone can drive, and the two sons also said that they would work hard to help the family repay the loan and reduce the pressure, so on March 28, the family happily picked up a new car.
It is also strange to say that since buying this car, soon the two brothers found a daughter-in-law and married, that is, at this time, the contradictions of the three families came out, not only were not resolved, but became more and more intense.
Eldest daughter-in-law Hua Qiuping said very aggrieved: My husband Li Pengcheng and I are graduate students, we work in a well-known company in Zhengzhou, we will go back to see our parents and grandparents on the weekend, but just half a year ago, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was tense, resulting in a contradiction between me and my husband, every time my husband and mother-in-law communicated, she had to break off the mother-child relationship with my husband, our family is now like a backyard, every time I come back, my mother-in-law will not let me in.
Saying that Hua Qiuping shed tears, she went on to say, before marriage, I bought clothes for my mother-in-law, after marriage I gave my mother-in-law money, all kinds of good for my mother-in-law, but all this felt right in the eyes of my mother-in-law, and I didn't know gratitude, my husband and I were highly educated, just thinking that the old man had to respect her no matter what he did, but the mother-in-law trampled on our bottom line without a bottom line, almost trampling our dignity on the ground and kneading.
In this regard, Li Pengcheng also said that my mother's approach really made me very cold, in order to break off the relationship between mother and son to threaten me, and my mother also said that she would return all the money that gave birth to me and raised me.
It is also a little unbelievable to say that, since the daughter-in-law Hua Qiuping is so reasonable and reasonable, and tries every means to please the mother-in-law, then why does the mother-in-law do such an irrational thing?
Then Li Pengcheng returned home with his wife and wanted to resolve the contradiction with his mother, but when Wang Ying saw his son return, it was quite repulsive, directly locked himself in the home, resolutely did not open the door for his son, and roared in his mouth, I have nothing to say with my son, even if I die later, it has nothing to do with him.
This has a contradiction to be solved is not, the old so pinched when is a head, after the patient persuasion of the crowd, Wang Yingcai changed his attitude, expressed his willingness to have a good chat with his son, she said, half a year ago my son called to say that he wanted to use the car, I did not say not to let him use, just say open on the opening, but I don't know why the son was angry, the car not only did not open, but also asked me to ask for a loan before more than 30,000 yuan to buy a car, this practice really made me heartbroken, so I said in a rage that I broke off relations with my son.
Son Pengcheng explained: At that time, we were decorating the house in Zhengzhou, and there was really no money in our hands, so we thought of the problem of the car at home, and what I originally described was that since this car did not let me drive, I did not want to dip it, you gave me my car loan money on the line, that is, let me fill in the decoration money at home first, and as a result, my mother would not understand the reason to break off relations with me.
Hearing her son's words, Wang Ying was even more angry, she took out her mobile phone and turned out her son's chat records, which said that you had treated me as a mother, the contradiction who made who knows, you first gave birth to me in October, you gave birth to you until you got married, all the money used to give me, I will pay you back the car loan money, we can hire a lawyer, break the mother-son relationship.
It seems that Wang Ying took out this record and said something in her words, and then she accused her son and daughter-in-law: Do you regard me as a mother? I didn't come back for half a year, I didn't contact me, I didn't go home for the New Year, and when I came back at his grandparents' house, I met my daughter-in-law and asked her: Are you on vacation? As a result, the daughter-in-law did not look up and said a word.
Wang Ying is more and more angry, she continued to vent her inner dissatisfaction, before my son got married, our family was happy and harmonious, and my son would often send money to us, but what I did not expect was that my son had just finished getting married, and asked me for car loan money.
This money was given to me by my son before marriage, he got married we spent four or five hundred thousand for him, there is no money in hand, the son should give us some money, but he has to say that this money is car loan money, why does he have to ask me for money in this way? Son can say that we are renovating now, Mom, can you borrow some for me? Doesn't this statement make people feel comfortable?
Wang Ying believes that before the son got married, the relationship between mother and son was very harmonious, and the money given to her by the son was also willing, but since the eldest daughter-in-law married into this family, the relationship between the family has completely changed, and now the reason why she has fallen out with her son for money must be the eldest daughter-in-law instigating in the middle.
She said that since the eldest daughter-in-law got married, she stared at this car every day, and there was a conflict between the two ends of the car for three days, this is my car, I said that anyone can drive, and I did not say that I would not let her drive, but she was always angry about the car.
At this time, the eldest daughter-in-law Hua Qiuping on the side said the reason for the contradiction, she said, at that time my girlfriend had a conflict with the family, she came to my house to hide, and the next day we had to go back to work, I asked my mother-in-law for the car keys, thinking that I was driving my girlfriend back to Zhengzhou's home, and also took my mother-in-law to help take care of the child for two days, after all, my girlfriend quarreled with the family, and I definitely wanted to send her back.
But the mother-in-law looked around and couldn't find the car keys, so I asked her to look for it again, but the mother-in-law was very reluctant, although she also went to look for it, but in the end she did not find it. My husband said that if he couldn't find it, he wouldn't drive, let my mother-in-law not go to Zhengzhou, and let my girlfriend help with the children in our house.
My idea is to take my mother-in-law to take care of the child for two days, because the girlfriend's time is uncertain, and then why do people want to bring us children, my husband said that the time is uncertain, and it is enough to tell her in advance.
Originally, my mother-in-law did not find the key I was very angry, my husband not only did not comfort it, but also said such a thing, I asked my husband why he was so lenient to your family, so harsh on me, because of this, the two of us also quarreled.
When my mother-in-law heard it, she also came in the door and quarreled with me, and she yelled at me loudly: Did I say that I wouldn't let you drive? I said you didn't say you wouldn't let me drive, but your behavior was that you didn't want me to use the car, and then I was very aggrieved, I paid off the car loan myself, and now I can't use the car.
However, Wang Ying heard her daughter-in-law's remarks and was very disapproving, she scolded her daughter-in-law, do you pay back this car loan? You hadn't entered the house yet? Originally, you two quarreled, I as an old man did not want to intervene, but I heard you tell my son that I would not let you drive, how can I bear it, when I will not let you drive this car, you have not driven.
Li Jianguo, the father-in-law on the side, also spoke, he said that the daughter-in-law because of this matter, at that time, the two or three months of children were left here, I called her to pick up the child, she was divorcing my son, and then called the son's uncle to drive the child over, and then they came back and did not enter our house, just go to his grandmother's yard, Wang Ying's personality is also stubborn, the daughter-in-law does not come to this hospital, she will not go to that hospital, over time it will become this situation.
In the end, Wang Ying really did not say that he would not let his daughter-in-law Hua Qiuping drive this car, and all this was only Hua Qiuping's guess according to his own feelings. At this time, Hua Qiuping talked about her mother-in-law's eccentricity and was always better for her brother Li Wanli's family.
Wang Ying was very angry when she heard this sentence, she said that the palms of her hands and the backs of her hands are all meat, I spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on your marriage, how can I be eccentric, you don't believe in people at all.
Perhaps Hua Qiuping also realized that what he said was not quite right, and immediately apologized to his mother-in-law: Well, Mom, I was wrong just now, it was my wrong mother, sorry.
It's just that Wang Ying didn't pay attention to his daughter-in-law's apology, but suddenly sat on the ground and cried, shouting in his mouth that he was very aggrieved, and the crowd persuaded for a while, and Wang Yingcai's mood eased up a lot.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > thought that the eldest daughter-in-law was very powerful, but did not think that the second daughter-in-law was the king</h1>
After calming down, Li Pengcheng asked his parents, and one of the things he wanted to find out was whether the money was given as a living expense for his son or a car loan money to repay, because the money that his mother said was for her money, not for repaying the car loan.
In this regard, Li Jianguo, as a father, said that at that time, the three of them bought a car under the name of their wife Wang Ying, the two children repaid the loan, the car bought on March 28, the car began to pay off on April 28, the eldest son also played money, the younger son sometimes gave some money, as for how much I don't know, in November, they did not pay back this contradiction, most of them were returned.
Li Pengcheng quickly explained that he had repaid 33,000 car loans in six or seven months, because there was a special bank card for repaying the car loans, and every time he arrived, he would be automatically transferred away.
At this time, the second daughter-in-law Yang Yang also heard the news rushed over, she also wanted to find out the ownership of this car, Yang Yang said, when they got married, the in-laws promised to give me this car, if there is no car as the premise, I will not agree to this marriage, the car is in the name of the mother-in-law, I have not let her change to my name, but these two years, the car has always been me driving, did not expect that after marriage, the eldest brother and sister-in-law every time they come back to fight with me for this car, I am also very annoyed.
But father-in-law Li Jianguo said that the second daughter-in-law only married a year after buying this car, and at that time, because of this car, the marriage collapsed. Halfway through the conversation, Yang Yang asked his father-in-law with some impatience, did you say last time that this car was mine, did you admit it?
Li Jianguo said that last time I did not say. Seeing her father-in-law's denial, Yang Yang was angry, and she angrily rebuked her father-in-law: How can you not admit it? Point face in the middle of the middle of the middle.
The daughter-in-law's cold words also made the father-in-law confused, and after reacting for three seconds, he quarreled, how did your parents educate you, so talk to the elders? Yangyang is not willing to be inferior, my parents taught me that there is nothing wrong with me, who let you find trouble.
At this time, Yang Yang's mother also came, the daughter was wronged, the mother's family would let go, immediately quarreled with the relatives, and soon the father-in-law also lost, as a mother-in-law, Wang Ying, sitting on the side from beginning to end, did not say a word.
After the two groups of people were separated, everyone's mood eased down, in order to find out whether the in-laws promised Yangyang to give her this car, they also dialed the matchmaker's phone number at the time to verify, the matchmaker said that when it was said that this family was together, this car was indeed the premise of Yangyang's marriage, promised to Yangyang.
Hearing this, father-in-law Li Jianguo said, at that time I did not promise, may be promised by the matchmaker, no matter whether the matchmaker promised not to promise, as long as the matchmaker said, I now admit it, I also told the second son Li Wanli at that time, this car is for you to drive, your eldest brother also has money, your brother has not driven, he does not lose.
The second son also said, the brother is more lossy, do a good job in the future, in the future to give the brother some compensation, I also called the eldest son later, it is also said that the two sons are my heart meat, I also want a bowl of water to be flat, but I am now old, there is no more ability to help the two sons, now things have happened to this point, I am also very helpless.
In the end, the eldest son heard his father's words and understood his father, and he said his heart to his father: From today on, the previous things have been written off, my truest feeling is to take care of the big family, which is also the humility of the brother, even if this matter is solved, as for the car loan money, admit it, don't let me pay for it.
In this way, because of a car, two marriages have been achieved, and the contradictions of the three families have also been brought about, which is even more laughable, but after the words are spoken, everyone is relieved, and the family gets along together, in communication, rather than using one lie to round another lie.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > children are married, as parents, they have to divide the children into small families</h1>
Now many girls are reluctant to marry a family with two brothers, saying that they are afraid that their parents will be partial to a certain child, coupled with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and concubine, the probability of contradictions will be greatly increased. So as parents, you must understand that even if you have two sons, after they get married, you should no longer treat them as a big family, but transform this big family into three small families.
For Li Jianguo and Wang Ying, they just regard their children as a big family, and they always feel that their sons will still think about the family as they did before they got married, but they don't know that they already have two more daughters-in-law at this time. They also want to level a bowl of water, but it is easy to talk about a bowl of water, and more or less there will be some deviations.
When they knew that the eldest son, Li Chengpeng, had suffered a little loss compared to the younger son Li Wanli in marriage, but when they wanted to make up for it, they remembered that they were older, and they couldn't make up for the eldest son.
Their mistake is also that they did not explain clearly to the eldest son Li Pengcheng when the car was given to the second daughter-in-law, which led to the Li Pengcheng family feeling that they had repaid the car loan, and the use of the car was also reasonable, and the Li Wanli family felt that this car was mine, it was love to use it for you, and it was the duty not to use it for you, so that there would also be a psychological imbalance between the concubines, and finally the contradictions were all counted on the in-laws.
Children will have their own small family after marriage, but also have their own interests, as parents should separate this interest, when it comes to interests, but also to make it clear, I believe that at that time, if parents and sons explain the car clearly, sons will also understand the parents' good intentions, and ultimately parents will not be difficult for this.
Finally, as a child, do not take the parents' efforts as a matter of course, but also be grateful for the parents' efforts, and should never scold the parents.
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