Text / Whatever you want
There has always been a popular saying on the Internet: "I have heard a lot of truths, but I still can't live this life well." “
"Brilliant Life", once released in 2003, it has been crowded with people, won numerous awards, and to this day, the Douban score is still as high as 9.4 points, and it took six hours to expound this topic that has plagued us for a lifetime.
The sooner these three truths of life are understood, the better.
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Accept yourself as an ordinary person
Rome, Italy, an ordinary and ordinary family of six.
The handsome Matteo, with excellent grades from an early age, has won awards in his high school papers, and has always been the pride in the eyes of his parents.
Mateo, who had always had high hopes, failed the list on the university entrance exam. Unable to accept this result, he turned to the army.
Matteo, who was in the army, did not realize his life ambitions, so he chose to join the police force. The work of the Force also hits a wall everywhere.
The depressed Matteo, in his mother's house, saw that the wall was full of report cards full of A's when he was a child, and he couldn't help but feel sad. He couldn't accept that he had been so good, and now he had achieved nothing, and the huge psychological gap crushed him.
I once read a passage: "The world is not all for you, you have to accept that there are some things that even if you try your best, you will not get the desired results." 」 ”
I believe that everyone has this experience when they are young, and when someone asks us what kind of person we want to be, we always say that we want to be scientists, we want to be monopoly, we want to be a great hero.
Only no one will say, I just want to be a normal person.
When we were young, we always thought that we were the only ones who could achieve a big career.
The reality is that many of us, trying our best, have lived to that age, but have not lived to that height, and cannot become the person we want to be.
Since this is the case, it is better to let go of yourself and accept that you are an ordinary person, and why is ordinary life not another kind of happiness?
If your character determines your destiny, then your choices determine how you live this life.
A photo of former rock superstar Dou Wei sitting on the subway has sparked heated discussion online.
In the eyes of the world, bright clothing, in and out of the car transfer, front and back hugs, should be Dou Wei's standard as a star.
The world cannot accept that the once popular dancing teenager and musical talent have now become a sloppy middle-aged uncle.
Dou Wei has always looked at it very lightly, and he once said, "I just want to live a very ordinary life." ”
Although he has no star aura, he does not have to carry the shackles of public figures, and his casual life is the most dashing.
Yu Qiuyu once said: "Being an ordinary person with a normal attitude is the most delicious life." ”
The most rare thing for people is to recognize themselves, know what they want, don't care about other people's opinions, and choose a way of life that suits them.
Only by being at ease with the encounter, looking down on gains and losses, and letting go of fame and fortune can we live this life in peace and contentment.
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Be brave enough to love and be loved
Regarding the movie "Brilliant Life", some netizens have left a message: "This movie made me learn how to love, because some people, missing is a lifetime, some feelings, lost can not be restarted." ”
Therefore, when you have a very good relationship, you must know how to cherish, so that people have more "I can" calm, less "I could have" helplessness.
Just like the sensitive and withdrawn Madeo in the film, in addition to being closer to his brother Nicolas, he is always resistant to the concern from his sister and parents.
He saw his parents arguing over family trivia, felt that marriage was a chicken feather, and decided that he would not marry in the future, nor did he want to have a family.
In the bookstore, Matteo reunites with his beloved girl, Milela, but does not dare to associate with her in his true identity, and when Milea comes to the door, he angrily says that he will never see her again.
Late at night, the calmed Madio repeatedly dialed Milea's phone, but no one answered.
Deeply aware of the frustration of life, he jumped down from the balcony and ended his life, leaving endless sorrow to his loved ones.
Fans' comments floated on the barrage: "Madio's inner fear of love and longing for love are doomed to his tragic life." ”
Yes, most of the frustration in life begins with missing a person and a relationship, and the sadness in intimate relationships lies in facing the person you like, but you do not have the courage to say the word "love".
Sometimes we are afraid of love, but only the fear of eventually losing it.
It's just that you don't dare to try to love, so how can you expect to have it for a long time.
There is a line in "Big Fish and Begonias": "This short life, we will eventually lose, you may as well be bold, love a person, climb a mountain, chase a dream." ”
If you are lucky enough to meet the right person, you may wish to be bold, put aside your scruples, and be brave to love.
This can't help but remind people of the love between the writer Sanmao and Jose.
When Sanmao first met Jose, he developed a crush on this handsome Spanish boy, but because he was eight years older than Jose, she always regarded Jose as a younger brother.
Jose made a six-year promise to her very seriously: "Wait for me to wait for six years, four years to go to college, and two years of military service, and then we can get married." ”
Sanmao rejected Jose, believing that six years was a long time, and the eighteen-year-old Jose and herself could not wait that long. Who knows, sanmao, who returned to Spain six years later, met Jose again.
This time, in the face of Jose's marriage proposal, Sanmao bravely accepted. Since then, the Sahara Desert has left behind the legend of their love.
In fact, a person's life is a life of love, calmly enjoying love, giving love naturally, letting love integrate into life, and transforming into courage to face life.
Mencius once said, "He who loves others loves him." ”
The interaction between people is inseparable from a word of love, learn to take the initiative to love the people around you, and will definitely harvest the corresponding love.
How you love the world, the world will love you.
No one is an island, only emotion is the source of strength that nourishes our lives.
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You change, the world changes
There was a question and answer on Zhihu: "Change yourself or change the world, which realm is higher?" ”
There is an answer that goes like this: "To change yourself with the goal of changing the world, you may be able to have both, even if the world can't change, you can become what you want." ”
I agree.
In the film, Nikolai, a medical student, discovers that his brother Madeo's patient, Georgia, has been treated with a forbidden electric shock, and after Mateo takes Georgia out of the hospital without permission, the two brothers decide to escort Georgia home.
However, Georgia's father did not want to accept her because of family reasons, and only wanted to send her back to the hospital as soon as possible, and finally Georgia, who did not have an ID card, was interrogated by the police and taken away.
After this incident, Nikolai realized that he was powerless to change the situation of patients like Georgia, and resolutely chose to study psychiatry and became an excellent psychiatrist.
Later, during a surprise inspection of a psychiatric hospital, he found Georgia, who was getting more and more seriously ill, and re-treated her, making up for the regrets left many years ago, and also saving more patients like Georgia, helping them reintegrate into society and live a normal life.
I have seen a saying: "Those who want to help others first help themselves, and those who want to save others first save themselves." ”
When you are powerless to change the status quo, the only thing you can do is to enrich yourself and make yourself strong.
Only when you are strong, can you realize your ideals and ambitions, have the life you want, and have the ability and opportunity to help more people.
Wang Yangming, a master of psychology during the Ming Dynasty, after a feud with the eunuch clique, was demoted to Longchang, Guizhou, and served as an ordinary eunuch.
After coming to Longchang, Wang Yangming did not give up on himself, but lived in a cave, immersed himself in the study of the Four Books and Five Classics, and finally realized the psychological theory of "the unity of knowledge and action".
Three years in the Dragon Farm is the beginning of Wang Yangming's inner fullness and strength, and it is also the beginning of his chaotic and legendary life.
There is a famous epitaph in Westminster Abbey in England:
"When I was younger, my imagination was never limited and I dreamed of changing the world.
"When I matured, I found that I could not change the world, and I shortened my gaze and decided to change only my country.
"When I entered my twilight years, I found that I was not able to change my country, and my last wish was only to change my family. However, this is also not possible.
"As I lay in bed and was about to die, I suddenly realized that if I had only changed myself at first, and then as an example, I might have changed my family; with the help and encouragement of my family, I might have done something for the country.
"And then, who knows? I might even change the world. ”
When people live a lifetime, there is always a time when they are in adversity, when you are powerless to do anything about the environment you are in, you can only calm down, precipitate and enrich your strength, change your cognition, start from small things, and slowly accumulate your own energy.
When the opportunity comes, and you are strong enough, you will be able to take advantage of the situation and affect the people and things around you. You change, the world changes.
Life is like a reverse journey, you and I are pedestrians.
Learn to love and be loved, have a lifetime of family, friendship and love, even if it is a lifetime, we can only be ordinary people.
In the world of ordinary people, there are also expectations, and there are also life goals that are worth striving for.
As Nietzsche said, "Every day that does not dance is a disgrace to life." ”
Do a good job in front of you, cherish the people around you, and live every day conscientiously, and the world will change from an ordinary day.
We must believe that the world is always beautiful, there is a road ahead, there is light in the future, see the truth of life, but still follow the past and love life. Thousands of rivers meet the sea, gather sand into towers, and create their own brilliant life in every ordinary day.
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