After reading this book, my mood could not be calmed for a long time.
Nadasha's love for Alyosha sometimes makes me confused and angry. Alyosha was a selfish, frivolous, pitiful, two-boat playboy, for whom Nadasha loved him to death and live. What kind of love is this?
In the real world, Nadasha's love is bound to suffer from people's incomprehension, and we may ask: Is it worth it for a scumbag? However, we have to return to the problem that the person in love is a fool, even if the other party cheats on her, she is willing to go to the soup.
Nadasha knew that the two would not have any results, knowing that her father and Alyosha's father were in a lawsuit, that her father had suffered slander and insults from Alyosha's father, that the lawsuit was going to be lost and that she had lost her property, she was willing to give up everything for Alyosha and was determined to elope with him. Even if she breaks her parents' hearts and will suffer from her father's curse, she will do the same.
In addition, she knew that Alyosha often looked for flowers and asked willows, and his position was not firm, but as long as he confessed in front of her and confessed his mistake, she would forgive him, and she was still thinking about him, not wanting to hurt his heart because of this kind of thing. Alyosha's cheating has long hinted at Nadasha that he will eventually abandon her and fall in love with someone else.
Nadasha wasn't stupid either, she knew it would happen, but she chose to forgive him anyway. Even if he finally fell in love with the fiancée his father had arranged for him, and told him that he was in love with the person, when he wanted to leave her, she still chose to accept, obey and forgive, and even to be able to push her heart and soul with her lover, hoping that the enemy would bring happiness to Alyosha.
I believe that everyone who has read this book and seen the story of Nadasha will think that Alyosha is not worthy of her humble love. However, it is precisely such a point that conflicts with our ideas that makes us pity Nadasha, while angry with Nadasha, we have to look down, to pay attention to her ultimate fate, and to think about the question: What is love? Does true love mean obedience, tolerance, and forgiveness of all the shortcomings of the other person? And do not hesitate to suffer their own pain, just so that the loved one can be happy?
I think that everyone will have their own answer to this question in their own hearts. The author Dostoevsky is using Nadasha's story to expose the meanness, selfishness, cunning and conspiracy of the elite, while also expressing the selflessness, purity and forgiveness of true love, but this love is nothing more than an idealism. In real society, it is difficult to have love like Nadasha, because everyone in love may weigh certain pros and cons to a greater or lesser extent. Of course, there are many people like Nadasha, who love without hesitation, and even scarred.
However, the ending of the story is fortunately not a tragic ending. Although Nadasha was eventually abandoned and lonely, her father decided to forgive Nadasha after a series of psychological struggles and listening to Nelly's tragic story, and Nadasha finally reconciled with her parents and returned to their embrace.
However, there is another line in the story: for Alyosha's father, such a cunning schemer who specializes in deceiving women, Nelly's mother will never forgive him until after her death! Because after he used trickery to win the favor of Nelly's mother and cheated his grandfather's money, he abandoned her mother, leaving her and her mother alone and starving, and also caused Neri's maternal grandfather to ruin his family and suffer in his old age. And my grandfather did not forgive Nelly until her mother died of illness.
Nelly's story line is suspenseful and tragic and a little warm, making people tear up.
So, for love and forgiveness, I would like to say:
For those good families who have been insulted and damaged, we should learn to forgive and let love dissolve everything.
And for those who do all kinds of bad things, insult and harm others, we will never forgive, never lose the minimum of self-esteem.
So, in love, our forgiveness and giving should not be bottomless, we promote pure, selfless, inclusive true love, but if the person we love is not of good character, should we be sober and self-loving in time? Otherwise, the tragedy will happen to us, hurting not only ourselves, but also affecting others.
Love is emotional, but it should also not lose its mind.
And reading, reading good books, and reading classics can make us learn how to be rational and how to better survive and love in this complex and changeable world.