Text | Thirteenth sister
Three married women who have graduated from Peking University for 10 years have been labeled as "Peking University girls" and talk about "feminism" with Professor Chizuko Ueno, a Japanese sociologist at the top level.
After watching their dialogue videos, I felt three things:
1. Education does not represent a person's insight and pattern.
2. I agree with netizens using "desperate illiteracy" to describe these three "Peking University girls", but I think the evaluation of "three wombs talking to one brain" is a bit vicious. In fact, these three may represent the majority of China, which is nothing more than the brain that has been wrapped up in the traditional social framework, but they are also brains. Just because the level is limited, people can't be described as reproductive organs.
3. Don't button the hat of all the girls in Peking University, just remind the colleges and universities to advise students: "In the future, go out and lose people's eyes, don't say that it is the apprentice of the teacher."
I summed up their conversation as not so much four women talking about "feminism" as it was a "chicken and duck talk of one feminist and three masculine".
That's right, these three women who graduated from Peking University are afraid that they do not realize that they are serious masculists. Why you say that, just read it and find out.
Let's start with who Chizuko Ueno is. Let's just talk about a few keywords, "domestic violence", "sexual harassment", and "unpaid labor" (generally used for full-time housewives) were popularized in Japan and became phenomenal sociological terms through the promotion of Chizuko Ueno.
To talk to such a character, you must first do some homework, right? But I don't know where these three "Peking University girls" come from, and the questions asked are the same as those from the wholesale stalls, one is cheaper and more embarrassing than the other.
Asked why Chizuko Ueno decided not to get married in her early 20s:
"Why are you not interested in marriage in your early 20s, because you have been hurt by men?" Or the influence of the family of origin?"
Good guys, women who speak as if they have not been hurt by men and do not have problems with their native family cannot choose not to get married.
This is caused by masculine determinism in the mind - women's behavior is determined by men or the social environment dominated by men, and not marrying is either hurt by men, or the father of the original family is not good for the mother...
It's quite offensive, I start to have a toothache when I see it.
"Is it completely impossible for you to get married, or does the other party not meet certain conditions?"
Good, another wasted opportunity to ask questions effectively.
An interview on a feminist topic has to be entangled in the topic of whether or not to get married, why not get married, I don't know if they want to appear cute or naïve...
"Does Ueno-sensei have a moment of love brain?"
I really can't ask any in-depth questions, does Ueno-sensei have a love brain, does it have a guiding and leading role for everyone?
What strikes me the most is that this lady uses two "logics" when talking about "her reasons for getting married". The first logic is:
Oh? I began to wonder if she really had logic.
Her parents' marriage is not good, but she thinks that the marriage will be happy with her own ability, and the reason is only because she has "watched a lot of film and television works"...
Since you advertise the identity of "Peking University", read a few decent books or in-depth tutorials to understand marriage, society and human nature. Here is recommended to see Karan Horney's female psychology first, if you like oriental women, I recommend watching some of Ito Hiromei's works, Ueno sensei may still know her.
In short, go out in the future, don't say that you have found the confidence of marriage with film and television dramas.
A woman who can bravely come out of her unhappy native family and confidently manage her marriage suddenly expresses fear of the pressure of gossip from relatives back home when she is 30 years old.
I only admire the blogger's dividends of stepping on traffic, presenting himself as a good wife and mother who bravely accepts marriage, and at the same time presenting himself as a victim of society's narrow requirements for women.
Anyway, it is reasonable, self-consistent, brave and sober to get married and have children; If someone else does not get married, they have either been hurt by a man or have problems with their original family...
The latter question is even more ridiculous!
"Do women who don't marry have a higher status? Do you always think that we are engaged in a kind of stupid happiness when you observe people like us who are married?"
Being able to ask such a question shows that I haven't learned anything about feminism.
The origin of feminism is "free choice", you can choose not to marry, you can choose to be married, you can choose to have children, you can choose Dink, but either choice, you must follow your own wishes, this is called feminism.
What kind of contempt chain did this lady come up to? No one feels like you're doing a stupid happiness, we just think you're doing a stupid thing.
A woman who does not want children has had children again after four years on the sole reason that "my husband has been recognized after 4 years of observation, so I agreed to have children." Oh my God, is having children a reward for your husband or a recognition of marriage, or is it a bargaining chip to keep the heart of a husband who "wants children"?
Is having a baby a "flawed feminism"? What kind of logic is this?
Another "Peking University girl" said:
Straightforwardness does not equal seniority, this statement seems to be just covering up cowardice, and many things that cannot be done by oneself are done through marriage (or the men in marriage). Why, the unmarried Professor Ueno's visa, taxes, and inheritance can't be processed?
Although marriage has its function, since marriage is necessarily premised on feelings. Talking about feelings is not a feminist? Believe that the feelings in marriage are not an independent, rational new age woman?
"After learning feminism, will it never hurt again?"
Alas, I really don't know how many men have been injured by this man, from beginning to end, he is a grievance, and even the purpose of learning a school of thought is to avoid further injury.
People think of "feminism" as a lifelong study, but you use it as a tool, and you want this tool to play a role in achieving yourself. What about your vision, what about your rationality, what about your pattern, Peking University does not teach?
Professor Ueno said several times from the beginning that he was "not interested in marriage", but these three superiority ladies asked endlessly about the sparse things about marriage and having a baby.
Such a good opportunity, such a high-level topic, is it worthwhile to ask something? You can talk about the social system, women's growth, learning and the workplace, freedom and the rule of law, and so on. This is a rare opportunity for dialogue with big coffee, not the tongue-chewing meeting of the seven aunts and eight aunts in your village.
I really want to laugh the more I look at it, the more I look at it, the more I look at it, the more I am, it is also a cross-border exchange, although I am in my 30s and still advertise that "Peking University girls" itself is a little too superior, but the level is in place. But a woman does not collide with the spark of her own knowledge, conversation, insight and thought, hanging the once brilliant signboard all day long, talking about some small family what love brain, scumbag and other topics, this is very sad, unfortunately, disappointed.
They really don't even know what feminism is!
The essence of feminist research is only the relationship between women's self and others and the world, but these three women are trapped in marriage and family in the social solidification status quo full of masculinity, pondering "how to let women take advantage and not suffer losses".
Professor Ueno said: Feminism is freedom, not defined, with options.
So we should study feminism and watch more such professional players, instead of listening to the nonsense of those who brush the pastoral feminist traffic. Only an absolutely thorough understanding of culture, philosophy, society, the environment, and even men qualifies one to neutrally call yourself a feminist.
Marriage is not a constraint on a woman's choice of her own values and outlook on life, nor should it be a factor influencing our choices. These three girls who graduated from Peking University, under the banner of "elite education", can influence some girls who are not very enlightened, and may also help pastoral feminists to gain traffic more self-righteously, fanning the flames for the battle with men, but they cannot fundamentally solve the dilemma in women's hearts.
The choice of where to get the wisdom of life should not be based on what school the person graduated from ten or twenty years ago, but on what he said and did now.
At least talk to the elders and scholars, don't wear pajamas, and sit with a sitting appearance. Peking University has not been taught, and the elders in the family have not taught it. The 75-year-old professor opposite was wearing formal clothes and light makeup to turn on the camera. Independent women do not mean that they can do whatever they want, and there is no etiquette to treat seniors and teachers, which is not called having independence and personality, which is called uncultured.