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Aya once talked to Yang Di about his girlfriend of more than ten years in an interview:
Yang Di said that there were some choices in their relationship, and this gap appeared after they got busy. Aya asked him, "Do you feel that she is the one you want to keep going?" and Yang Di replied with certainty: Yes. I can't imagine how I would be doing without her in my life?
"Then what else do you have to hesitate, you should quickly take out your actions."
Since they have already said that they can't live without her, why not get married quickly? Does marriage have to be considered for that long?
Aya said very sincerely: "Action, there is nothing that can be solved by action, trust sister." ”
Yang Di: But because of the busier work, there are fewer and fewer opportunities to meet.
Aya: "So if you don't take action and still separate the two places like this, you're just using time to let her go." ”
In the long-distance running of love, many boys are like this, when their girlfriends urge marriage, they look nervous, swallow and say that they are not ready, and find all kinds of excuses and excuses to make their girlfriends wait. The girlfriend waited and waited, and when she was finally disappointed, she could only take the initiative to leave.
He does not agree to get married, and does not take the initiative to break up, isn't he using "cold violence" to force you to break up?
Two people have been together for so long, what problems can not be calmly faced, say a thousand ways and ten thousand is you yourself tired of, and you are embarrassed to say it, because you are afraid that if you take the initiative to say it, you will be buttoned up with the word "scumbag". "Breaking up" may have been thinking for a long time, but I have been thinking about how to divide in a way that can minimize the damage to your interests.
Did Yang Di collapse?
It is also blamed that he played too much affection on the show before, which also made many viewers think that he was an affectionate and good man. But in the end? The show said "I can't live without her" so many times, but they still parted ways. He broke up this matter, really defeated, and it was mainly done by himself.
He and his girlfriend were together in their sophomore year.
At that time, Yang Di was nameless, a poor student, coupled with his poor appearance, it was already quite good to have a girl fancy him. Yang Di once chatted with his good friend Dazuo, he recalled traveling to New York with his girlfriend, who bought a luxury stud earring, Yang Di sat at the door and waited, and almost fainted after seeing the card swipe information.
As for?
Even if it is a luxury stud earring, how much can it cost?
It can be seen from this detail that Yang Di is really too picky.
That price is completely affordable for Yang Di, but he doesn't accompany his girlfriend in life or death, because after he goes in, he will "die" in pain.
Yang Di's view of consumption, how much do you think your girlfriend can spend him?
When asked about the advantages of his girlfriend, Yang Di said that her girlfriend can do housework, cook and wipe the table, and take care of his life. I would like to ask Yang Di, did you find a nanny? Haven't you noticed the other advantages of your girlfriend? It is really a variety artist living in modern society, which is still so traditional in his bones, and the definition of women is still "doing housework".
After being together for so many years, of course, Yang Di's card cannot be handed over to his girlfriend, and he has never been married may be more or less due to this aspect. Yang Di also did not give his girlfriend a special card for consumption, and it is estimated that he opened an "intimate payment", and what money his girlfriend spent had to go through his account, and he would know. This is just my personal guess, because two people together, more or less will spend each other's money, since they do not give cards, in what way and through what means?
Think of Yang Di's girlfriend, who is also pitiful, young and ignorant at an age to identify a boy, accompany him from downfall to prosperity, more than ten years have passed, from early twenties to almost forty years old, and then there is still no result. Yang Di has become famous, and with his current identity, he can still find someone in his early twenties; But what about her? How should she deal with herself?
Why can you talk about 17 years of love and not get married?
Maybe I thought about getting married from the beginning, but when I was in love for a longer time, and I became richer and more famous, I would start to dislike the people around me for being a little unable to take it. He will feel that he can deserve better, how can the old man compare to the new person? But because of his own identity, he can't let people say that he is scum, so in the end, the breakup is still mentioned by the woman. To say that they broke up peacefully is just thinking that they have given their money.
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If Yang Di doesn't explain, I think it's nothing, but the more he explains, the more problematic it is.
He sent two Weibo posts in a row to explain his breakup, especially the second Weibo made me gaggy to watch. In response to some netizens saying that he delayed the childbearing age of the girl, Yang Di said that the two of them reached a consensus at the beginning that they did not want children. The subtext is that I didn't delay her childbearing age, and she herself agreed not to give birth.
He also said that there are no victims in their relationship, and that breaking up peacefully with his girlfriend is a peaceful and light wind, saying that even if they break up, the relationship with his girlfriend is already the same as that of relatives, and he will take care of his girlfriend's life within a reasonable range in the future.
Don't talk so early, try it when you have a current one, see if she can tolerate you having an ex like a relative.
He is ashamed to say that he has never owed his ex, and it is a debt to drag on and not get married for so many years! Don't die duck mouth hard to say how innocent you are, have you ever considered the woman's feelings, what relatives and friends around her who have not married for so many years think of her. You're busy with work and you don't have time, but have you ever thought about how many white eyes she suffered?
Every New Year, I have to be urged by my family, when do I get married?
But how to answer? The man she loved kept pushing back, looking for all kinds of reasons, that is, not to mention "marriage".
If you don't get married and explain it early, you can make it clear, otherwise you won't delay the girl for so many years. 17 years of youth was so lost in vain, I don't feel sorry for such girls, because they are love first; But they did get hurt, and I can't get used to the man who hurt them saying that he has no responsibility and has never owed anything.
This irresponsible attitude is too uncomfortable!
As for "although there is no marriage style, but there is a marriage reality", it is even more speechless, Yang Di has taken advantage of the benefits in the past 17 years, got cheap and sold well. Treat girls so much, do not get married when there are conditions, do not give a wedding ceremony, since nothing is given, and I have not done it, so I mean to marry others?
It's too downheaded!
This is the most uncomfortable breakup word I've ever heard.
It's not as good as Ji Lingchen's "You like the sea, I loved you", which is more scum.
In order to get rid of himself not being a scumbag, Yang Di also posted the chat record with his girlfriend, and he was using "actions" to prove to everyone, "Look, let's break up peacefully, she doesn't blame me." His move did not prove that he was a good man, but showed the generosity of his predecessor.
Yang Di, do you know that your ex is a really good woman, and you are not worthy of her.
If she wants to ruin you, a small essay is enough, but after watching it for so many years, you even brought your own mother to variety shows, have people come out to rub your traffic? Maybe she really loves Yang Di too much, loves without complaint, even if the ending is not good, she still does not complain at all.
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Is it important to get married?
Significant.
You are married to him, the relationship between the two of you is legally recognized, his income after marriage is half of yours, and he has a legal responsibility and obligation to you; But the two of you do not have this certificate, so many years of your efforts can only be said to be your wishful thinking, he has no responsibilities and obligations to you, if you don't want it, you can force you to leave by dragging, and how many points you give after breaking up depends on his meaning and his alms.
In the final analysis, it is not love, talking for so long in love and not getting married, not too busy, but not wanting to tie the knot.
I want to take this opportunity to warn some girls: the most important thing in love is yourself, when you have been in love with a boy for more than three years, they have reached the marriageable age, he still finds all kinds of excuses not to get married, just break up with him. There is no point in talking any further.
Falling in love is like running a marathon, you think you will definitely reach the end without breaking up, but what if: the other party never thought of going to the end with you? You invested more and more, but as for him, he never regarded you as his only.
Aya has long said the truth that Yang Di broke up with his girlfriend of 17 years.
Yang Di just used time to let her go.
Today's topic: Do you have a real case of a long-distance run in love and then breaking up? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; The original creator of emotions, writing about the warm emotional things of this world.