The trend of comparison has been dazzling to the primary school student group, how should parents guide their children correctly!

With the continuous development of the mainland economy, the quality of life of more and more families has improved, and their economic strength is gradually increasing. Many parents believe that if they really care about their children, they should invest a lot of money in their children's education and life.

Therefore, many rich families will invest a lot of property like children, hoping that through the generous material conditions they provide for their children and the generous treatment in life beyond ordinary people, so that children can feel their love, so as to be more confident in contact and communication with friends.

But this phenomenon often causes a comparison between students, because their parents are doing their best to provide them with some material conditions, which will inadvertently trigger their money worship, and they will be proud of their family wealth and feel that they should enjoy such rights, and they will also use this as a way to compare with others, and feel complacent because their family is superior to ordinary people.

In fact, this phenomenon deserves our vigilance, because our family situation may bring us certain congenital conditions, but we cannot let it become a cage that binds our development. The children of those rich families often lose their ideals and beliefs in struggle because their family environment is too favorable, and this kind of behavior is worthy of our vigilance.

Regardless of our own economic situation, we should not lose this spirit of constant effort. And now the students are also very precocious, their understanding of money is more advanced than the original primary school students, many students they wear clothes and shoes are brand-name, these clothes and shoes are often valuable, so it can be said that the comparison between primary school students is still very serious.

First, the new type of comparison has appeared widely among primary school students, and parents find it very difficult to deal with

Now in addition to the form of comparison such as dress, there are other new ways that are gradually becoming popular among elementary school students, and it can be said that they compare between families from all directions. This comparison also makes many parents feel very difficult. So, what kind of comparison method do they use?

Some time ago, there was a primary school student who complained to his parents, the reason is because he feels that his parents ride electric vehicles to and from school every day, which makes him feel very humiliated, other parents are driving cars or driving off-road vehicles to pick up their children, and only their mothers ride small electric cars and are so confident, it can be said that people look very uncomfortable.

It can be said that primary school students still pay more attention to materials, and what kind of lifestyle they feel their parents adopt and what kind of living conditions they have have still a great impact on their status among their classmates. And they also very much hope that they can have a richer family, and the parents can not let him lose face.

It can be said that this kind of three-looking is still very scary, we should advocate the correct mode of thinking, if every primary school student has such a thought, it will only allow this generation to gradually form a comparison mentality, which is very unfavorable for the development of mainland talents in the future.

As a student, our family situation cannot have a particularly big impact on us, because this is not something we have gained by working hard with our own hands, and there is nothing to show off.

On the contrary, we should regard academic performance as the focus of our daily life, and we should be proud of our excellent results in learning, rather than making some unnecessary comparisons. In front of our classmates, we should show some humility, because this will make it easier for us to gain the love of others, so as to avoid us being jealous of others.

It can be said that it is very important to establish the correct values for primary school students, so that they recognize the disadvantages of comparison from an early age, so as to establish their correct sense of money, avoid the emergence of money worship, let them know that only by improving their academic level and improving their academic performance is the most valuable, and it is meaningless to carry out some unnecessary comparisons with parents.

As parents, we must pay special attention to our daily life words and deeds, do not let primary school students be too sensitive to our family situation, and try to avoid talking about money in front of primary school students. Even if our own families are very wealthy, we should not emphasize this to our children.

We need to let children think that their families are nothing special compared to others, so as to avoid some comparison mentality. And if our family is relatively poor, don't be inferior because of this, because if we are inferior because of this, it will bring a lot of bad influences to the child, so that the child cannot look up in front of his peers.

Therefore, the education of money is still very important, parents must establish a correct view of money for their children, so that children can correctly recognize the social phenomenon of the gap between rich and poor families, so as to accept their family situation calmly, neither compare nor feel inferior because their family situation is relatively poor.

Question 1: Comparison car

Parents who buy a mini-car to transport their baby to kindergarten often encounter such embarrassment: the child thinks that the car at home is not grand, and when he goes to the kindergarten, he is teased by his classmates and asks the family to change the car, "Or we will take a bus or taxi." "Is it necessary to buy a fancy car for a competitive loan for children?" Of course not!

"Dad, when will you be able to drive a BMW to pick me up?"

Solution 1

You can explain why you chose a small car in a language that your baby understands: "Look at our polo like a big frog?" How cute is the small car, the area is small, the parking is convenient, the drill alley is a good hand, do you remember the last time dad sent you, just stuck in traffic, the traffic police uncle let us take the slow lane, the big car can not go, only our car goes fast? ”

Solution 2

If your baby is over 5 years old, you can explain to him the significance of saving fuel, saving energy, reducing exhaust emissions and saving the planet in small cars.

For example, you can visualize: "Why is it getting hotter and hotter in the summer?" It is because the carbon dioxide gas emitted by the car is like putting on a large cotton jacket that is not breathable to the earth, the heat cannot be discharged, so the weather is hot and stuffy; the small car emits a lot less carbon dioxide than the big car, we are saving the mother of the earth! Let the child be full of pride rather than inferiority, he naturally will not insist on unrealistic car change requirements, but will suggest: "If the weather is good, if the baby can go to bed early and get up early, let's take the bus to kindergarten, and driving less can also make Mother Earth breathe a sigh of relief, right?" ”

Question 2: Comparison toys

There are also many babies who emphasize that their friends' fashionable toys were bought from the United States, "it is the latest version, it just appeared in the movie, I want this." "Do you want to entrust relatives and friends who have gone abroad to bring one back and satisfy your child's desire to compare at any cost?" Obviously, this is not necessary.

Parents should realize that if you indulge your child's desire to compete and make it swell endlessly, one day you will not be able to satisfy him, and the child who is accustomed to responding to his needs will then be annoyed and angry and say" "You are really incompetent!" You don't deserve to be my mom! Such hurtful words have caused the parent-child relationship to collapse.

In addition, in terms of toys, snacks, clothing, etc., try to satisfy the child's desires, the first time to satisfy his vanity, in a sense is also to deprive the child of happiness.

"He has Transformers (she has Barbie), and I have them too!"

solution

Experts in child education have always believed that "happiness is the wine that waits for and strives to make to achieve wishes." In order not to "treat" the child badly, the child will give what he wants, which is to deprive the child of the right to wait and hope, and also reduce the happiness after the toy is in hand.

The satisfaction that children get in terms of toys is not necessarily proportional to the price of the toy, but is directly proportional to the cuteness and novelty of the toy. When he asks for a Transformer you can give him a hand-wound jumping frog; when she asks for a Barbie doll you can give her a hand-sewn rag doll, or a "'egg-to-chicken' toy that Mom played with as a child."

Transforming his old toys with the child, looking for "fun toys that parents have played with when they were young" from the toy market, and playing with the child, which is not only conducive to the close relationship between parents and children, but also exercises the child's thinking ability and hands-on ability, and also wins the core position of the partner group for the child.

Question 3: Compare Mom

For mothers who work hard to raise their babies, there is no greater lethality than the phrase "lethality"! Some mothers are annoyed, angry and sad, and will be angry because of the baby's "excessive" requirements for his "child is even ugly". In fact, getting angry is useless, but it will overwhelm the baby - everyone has a heart for beauty, and the children on TV are not proud because their mothers have plastic surgery and are more beautiful, where am I wrong?

"Mom, you should go for a facelift to be beautiful!"

solution

The mother can crouch down and talk to the baby: "Do you think the mother is not good-looking?" "No Bin bin mama looks good!" Nor is Xiaoying's mother good-looking! "What do you think your mother has become for you to be satisfied?" "The nose is high, the eyes are big, and the skin is white." "Like a Barbie doll?" "Yes!" Moms can tell babies, "Mom doesn't want to be like Barbie."

In this world, everyone has everyone's beauty, and if tens of thousands of mothers look exactly the same, what a terrible thing! Moms don't like that kind of artificial, unnatural beauty, just like moms don't want babies to look exactly like Binbin and Xiaoying. ”

Mothers can also discuss with their babies how to become more beautiful: reading makes people beautiful, helping others makes people beautiful, loving people become beautiful, and smiling makes people beautiful. Moms can also suggest that teachers carry out "My Mom's Most Beautiful" painting contests and story contests in the class, so that young children can learn to understand their mothers and praise their mothers, rather than being picky about their mothers in appearance.

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N measures to resolve children's desire to compare

1. Arrange children to help the weak as much as possible, feel that they have a lot of possessions from this process, and harvest unprecedented happiness and satisfaction in the process of selflessly helping others.

2. Do not replace the giving of affection with material satisfaction. Teach your child that no matter what circumstances of life, as long as the family is together, they are very happy.

3. Cooperate with and support children to wear garden uniforms and school uniforms, so that they can experience the meaning of "everyone is born equal" in uniform dress.

4. Describe conservation-oriented environmental protection behavior as "fashion behavior", guide babies to adjust clothing, books and toys to each other, and oppose luxury waste.

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