Buffett once said:
When someone forces you to break through yourself, be grateful to him. He is the noble man in your life, and perhaps you will change and transform as a result.
The reason why a child is a child is that he is not self-conscious, and you cannot really establish his self-realization.
The child is like a small animal, a sensual, emotional being, without reason and willpower.
Behind every outstanding child, there stands a pair of powerful parents.
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Parents with vision, both with a little desperate feelings
A professor asked this question before: I really can't figure out, how can education become happy? There must be an element of pain in education, and it is self-evident. But the main idea of our education is to constantly give in to children, to give children more happiness, more play time. Where is there such education under the heavens?
Yes, in recent years, "happy education" has become an educational method pursued by many parents:
"The child is still young, if you don't want to learn, you don't want to learn, don't force him."
"It doesn't matter if the child is not successful, as long as he is happy, let the child grow freely."
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But as a parent, you must be responsible for your child's future! It is not to indulge the child to follow instincts, and it may not require him to achieve much success, but at least he has the ability to support himself and can live with dignity.
This society is very realistic, we can pursue an idealized education, but we cannot guarantee an ideal future for our children. Parents cannot live in fairy tales, let alone create fairy tales for their children.
The world is unfair but unusually fair! How hard a person works, how good he is! How good a man is, the world will return him how much freedom and respect!
Therefore, visionary parents are a little desperate.
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The more liberal the education, the more the child suffers
I'm 35 years old and have been a toll collector at a highway toll booth for ten years.
I was very shocked when I received the notice of the layoff, and although I usually made psychological preparations, when this unfortunate thing suddenly came, there was still heavy sadness and loss.
I'm 35 years old, at this age, what can I do again? My heart was confused. I dedicate the best decade to the high-speed toll booth.
Today's society is a competitive society, and if the strength is not enough and the ability is insufficient, it will be eliminated. As Ma Yun said in his speech at the Wuzhen Internet Conference: This is an era that destroys you, but has nothing to do with you.
This is a society where you can compete for a place, and your competitiveness is your strength.
Imagine that other people's children are desperately learning and trying to make themselves excellent.
But you let the child take it slowly and give the child a loose education.
In this society where even robots can compete with people, how do you let your children stand in the future?
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Only if you are good enough can you live freely in the future
Before chatting with parents, he said an interesting concept: "The law of conservation of suffering".
Suffering is the basic characteristic of life, and the total amount of suffering that everyone suffers in a lifetime is constant.
It neither disappears out of thin air nor arises for no reason, it only moves from one stage to another, or from one form to another.
The hardships that should be suffered in life will not be less at all, and children will not suffer when they are young, and the future will be very bitter!
The more patterned parents are, the more they can be "cruel" to their children, because they know that if their children suffer today, they will be qualified to choose the way they want to live in the future.
The world is indeed like this, how good a person is, the world will return to you how much freedom and respect.
Therefore, if you want your child to grow up to be decent, have choices, and live freely, then you must be willing to force your child to become excellent when you are a child.
Even if the child will suffer and suffer in the process, it is better than being forced by life for decades to be free.
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You are now forcing the child,
He will be grateful to you for the rest of your life
In the previous fire variety show "Longing for Life", violinist Lu Siqing and Liu Xianhua, who graduated from the Berklee College of Music, played a violin in ensemble.
It aroused the envy of everyone and recalled that he had learned talent when he was a child. Everyone's experience is very similar, when I was a child, I was forced to learn a lot of talents, but I didn't stick to it.
It can be seen that they now regret their abandonment, and even hope that their parents can force themselves more at that time, and maybe they can achieve something now.
Liu Xianhua, the only one who persevered, said: I am very grateful to my parents for their harsh persecution and making him a better self.
Oh, yes! Children do not understand when they are young, and only after adulthood do they feel that they are inferior to others and regret that they did not study well.
When other children perform their talents, he can only be a background board.
When other children picked up the admission notice of the elite school, he was eliminated.
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There is a saying that parental discipline is the foundation, children's self-discipline is the goal, the foundation is firm, and the mountain is shaken without fear.
On the road of education, never only expect children to be self-conscious and self-disciplined, parents still have to play a role in supervision!
For the sake of the child, parents must make the right decisions for the child, and when it is "fierce", it must be fierce.
Only in this way can children improve and become more excellent.
When you grow up, they will surely appreciate all the "desperate feelings" you once had.
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