-01-
Perhaps, in love, the most terrible thing is to change a person.
Once you, you lost everything and did everything for three minutes of heat, but only when facing this person, you suddenly became affectionate and remembered all his details very clearly.
However, in this case, when loving someone, it will be a kind of sweetness, and after separation, it will be a different kind of bleakness.
Can't put it down, can't forget, so always fall into the memory, always can't control itself want to think of all the joys that have been together, or the sad past, one by one.
On the phone are still the chat records of the person, the photos of the people going out together, the refrigerator, and the leftover milk of the person, on the desk, and the sticky notes left by the person...
Perhaps, when you meet again, you will laugh and giggle and say hello to each other, but when you turn around, you can't help but laugh at yourself.
In the lonely night, a dense line of words was typed with the thumb, but the send button was never pressed; after getting drunk, he could not help but miss it, plucked up the courage, and called the other party, but after connecting, he did not dare to say a word.
Man, some people, once they meet, are a thousand years at a glance; but once they are separated, it is difficult to take back the water.
-02-
Perhaps, when people are in love, there will always be some stupidity, always thinking that two people will be together for a long time, but they did not expect that they only had it.
A man's love is actually very simple. He doesn't love you, he's indifferent to you; he loves you, he just can't let go of you.
Even if you are separated, if he is still deeply nostalgic for you, let you feel his inner attachment and entanglement.
Most men, in fact, for love, are from ignorance, gradually understand how their hearts are thinking, only because, between couples, experience some things together, experience some pain together, he will really mature, but also know who is the most important in their hearts.
Unfortunately, this process of understanding will be a little heavier or less.
There are always women, after separation, still want to save, but do not understand whether the other party still has ideas about themselves. In fact, when he still loves you, he will act on you.
However, if he has already ignored you, it is likely that he really does not want to have anything to do with you, and you should not hope much.
Below, to judge whether you still have the possibility of reconciliation, see if the man has given you "these two words". If he still has these signs, then don't be confused, he is actually still in love with you, can't let go.
"Change" becomes what you like
In fact, the ability of two people to walk together comes from an attraction.
That is to say, there is something in you that makes him obsessed, and even after you break up, he will never forget "this kind of thing".
I remember a reader backstage who told me her story.
She and her ex-boyfriend met during college, but after graduation, because they faced different choices, the man had to temporarily go to their respective cities for the sake of career and the woman for the sake of his family.
Originally a long-distance relationship, you can still insist on a period of time, but because the man has been urging the woman to leave the family to go to his city, the woman has to propose to break up, and the girl has counted a bunch of men's shortcomings when breaking up.
Six months after the breakup, the man went on a business trip to her city, and the two of them met each other.
After meeting, the woman's biggest feeling is that he has changed, become thinner, but more energetic.
In the past, he loved to smoke, but now he quit; once upon a time, he had to drink several cups of coffee a day, and now he has become a love of tea; in the past, he always played games until late at night, and now he must sleep before twelve o'clock at the latest; he used to sit all day, but now he has begun to work out regularly...
All of this is just a look that girls like.
He said that he always looked at her circle of friends and wondered if she was doing well now, and he said that he always remembered the words of the girl who had complained about him, and always remembered the way she looked when she counted his shortcomings one by one.
When the man offered to give him another chance, she immediately agreed.
To love to the point of abandonment, it is probably always to remember the bits and pieces of the past, because you want to reconcile again, so you try to become the way the other party likes.
In fact, in this world, true love will always exist.
It's just that some people love with their hearts; some people are playing life.
"Worrying", the thought of you is still undiminished
The human heart will always change.
But once you meet someone you like, you will change some of the so-called "changes" into habits.
There are always people who are constantly searching. Because, in his heart, he will feel that when he meets the right person, he should have a feeling of soul mate with the other party. So, when the person next to him is different from the person he imagined at the beginning, he will want to continue to look outside.
And it turns out that this kind of search, no matter when and where, is difficult to find the person you want.
In fact, when you have a concern for a person in your heart, your feelings for her have changed, but your heart is still not satisfied.
Just as a man heard his girlfriend say that he must set her photos to mobile phones and computer desktops, the man was very happy to set them up immediately and carefully save the chat records.
And when they broke up, men still retain this habit, and they don't want to replace the woman's photo for a long time, just because, subconsciously, he still feels that the two people have not broken up, and he can't get out of this worried mentality.
Even, he will silently inquire about your dynamics, whether you have made a new boyfriend, he will not know when, secretly look at your circle of friends, and even "slide" to give you a thumbs up, and, for some reason, in the places you often go, will "meet" with you...
This concerned heart is self-evident.
Perhaps, there are many reasons for breaking up, but if a man is so worried about you, you must seriously consider whether to respond to him.
After all, in the fast food era, it is not easy to meet a man with long-term affection.
"Worrying" will always worry about you inexplicably
Remember Yishu once said: If you like someone, you will think that she is the stupidest person under the heavens, and you need people to worry about everything.
Love, in fact, is just to meet a person who can "take you seriously", if this person, for everything about you, shows an attitude of indifference, then most likely, he does not love you so much.
Therefore, when two people are separated, if a man still can't help but worry about you and can't help but care, then in his heart, he must still be in love with you.
I still remember seeing someone post on Weibo, writing:
On the thirty-fifth day of separation from her, I don't know, whether she is still the same as before, always thirsty to the extreme before to think of drinking water; always talking but not brains, talking to others without scruples to offend people; always chasing drama until midnight without sleep; always eating spicy diarrhea, but still continue to eat...
It can be seen that if a person still has you in his heart, he will feel that you have left him, "No." He will be as worried about everything about you as before.
But if he completely lets go of you, you will find that you are extremely independent in his eyes, and no matter what, if you ask him for anything, he will find you a bunch of reasons to prevaricate.
Therefore, if a man, as before, is always worried about you and cares about you, he must still be in love with you.
And if he gives you only indifference and coldness, then don't contact again, after the breakup, do not "drop the price" in the other party's heart, you should let go, just let go, there is no need to entangle.
-03-
The fate between couples, whether it is a shallow love affair or a happy marriage, in fact, often lies in the thoughts of two people.
Those who can persist in love to the end are mostly two people, truly understanding each other, accommodating to each other, and cherishing each other.
Therefore, many seemingly imperfect loves at the beginning, but can two people walk hand in hand to the end of life, often because they know how to cherish, know how to operate, and more importantly, they do not want to let go of each other's hands no matter when and where.
This kind of love is the most praiseworthy.
We all know that once the fate is missed, it is actually a lifelong sigh.
So, if a man comes up with his heart that he is in love with:
Change for you, try to become what you like, he must still be deeply attached to you in his heart;
Worried about you, always can still be attracted to you, he must still have a strong affection for you;
Worrying about you, always worrying that you will be fine, he never thought about leaving you.
Then, life is long, don't let the deep love be shallow, become a pool of spring water left regrets, if you still have a little "reluctance" for him, then you may as well give each other a chance.
After all, a love, passed away, is lost forever; a love, turned around, is a lifetime of sadness.
Finally, may all lovers be able to raise their smiling faces toward happiness and hold the warmth in their hands.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!