Between people, there is as much interaction as there is love.
I remember someone saying that "emotional life is like a long-term dialogue, and people who can always have something to say can really go to the end." ”
Indeed, the two people who can always have something to say have interacted with each other, and this emotional relationship is more stable. After all, the breakdown of feelings often begins with nothing to say.
Therefore, good feelings are never that the other party can understand more, but that they can always maintain interaction with each other, and only by maintaining such interaction can the feelings be more long-lasting.
It's like once reading a passage like this: "You ask me if I have eaten today, I can say that I have not eaten, or I can say that I have eaten." It can also be a bowl of delicious noodles, and the owner of this bowl of noodles gave me more meat, and it was delicious. ”
In fact, it doesn't matter what you eat today. The important thing is that when you ask me, I will interact with you and will want to share it with you. Who met today, what meals were eaten, what happened. And these seemingly boring little things are the best expression of feelings in life.
Just as when two people are not together, they always want to say something to each other, which is to interact with the relationship. You know, when the interaction in the relationship is less, or even no, then the relationship is basically coming to an end.
Although, the quality of feelings is not proved by connection alone. But behind the interaction is caring, understanding, expressing and identifying.
I have seen such a short video.
The story begins like this, the wife is cooking, this time the husband returns home from work, and at this time the house is a mess. Bottles, toys, diapers for children, thrown everywhere.
She also cooks and watches the children. After eating, she still had to clean up, and when they finished cleaning up together, she was so tired that she didn't want to say a word.
And what about the husband at this time? When I got home, I didn't want to help, but as soon as I got home, I took off my slippers, hid in the sofa, and kept holding my mobile phone and kept watching there, sometimes I called vigorously, and I said that there was laughter.
Finally, one day, the wife's emotions collapsed, looking at the cries of the children and the housework that could not be done, she collapsed and snatched her husband's mobile phone and fell to the ground fiercely. Then he said, "Do you want to live this day?" ”
The husband was also angered by his behavior and replied: "Whatever you want." ”
Then the wife said, "Then get a divorce." ”
And the husband also replied: "Divorce is divorce." "Just like that, the two people broke up without joy.
In fact, the reason why the wife has such a big temper is because the emotions that have been suppressed are stimulated. And the husband is not really playing with the phone, but dealing with work.
In fact, both people are working hard for this family, but the results are not satisfactory. So why do they have such a reason?
It boils down to two people not interacting, one doesn't say, one doesn't ask. One thinks that the other party can understand, and the other endures not to say, so the contradiction is intensified. That's a lot of problems.
It is true that in our lives, there are also many people who are "reporting good news and not reporting bad news." "But between intimate relationships, everything is not about efficiency, but about the exchange and exchange of life."
As someone once said, "By accepting, loving, appreciating, listening, and supporting each other, feelings can be more positive and vibrant." ”
Like the couple mentioned above, if he was willing to share things he encountered at work with him and tell him he wasn't playing with his phone, I think the wife would understand. And he comes home from work to do what he can, then his wife will also feel that the effort is worth it, and she will be very happy.
After all, feelings are two-way, and it is necessary for two people to interact. Instead of being silent. Presumably you must have experienced such a situation, when you sent a large string of words, the other party only replied with a "um" and "Oh". You can clearly feel that this is a perfunctory. Then for a long time you are not reducing interactions yourself until finally there is no interaction.
What we need to admit is that sometimes the intimacy of one person's relationship with another person stems from the interaction between two people. The more interactions you have in life, the better the relationships.
Therefore, a good relationship is never how sensible you are in this relationship, but in this relationship, you have enough interaction.
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