Every life is a miracle and fate, worthy of our respect and cherishing. A person's birth and death are normal natural laws, but there are also many accidents that make these children die before they are born.
According to WHO, the average number of abortions worldwide is as high as 5 million per year. Most of them had no names, and even years later, even their biological parents didn't remember them.
But there is a man who is willing to spend a great price and energy to fight for a better ending for these poor children, even if he is treated as a fool.
01 Poor miscarried baby, bury him with his own hands
In Vietnam, there is a farmer who lives a hard and uneventful life, and there is nothing outstanding about others. What makes him special is a pair of hands that have raised 100 children and buried 20,000 unborn babies.
Tong Fu Phuc, a villager in a small village in Nha Trang City, Vietnam, makes a living as a farmer. Tong Fufu is an authentic farmer who grew up in the village and has never even been to a big city. For Tong Fufu, the tallest house was the small building he built when he was working as a casual worker at the construction site.
In March 2001, Tong Fufu, who was in his thirties, added another son with his wife, which made the whole family very happy. After learning that his wife was pregnant, Tong Fufu took his wife to the hospital for examination.
In the waiting passage, Tong Fufu stared excitedly at the closed door, reluctant to look away. But suddenly, a low sob came into his ear, and Tong Fufu looked at the sound, and it turned out that a nearby room had opened the door and came out of a pale, depressed woman.
She walked very slowly, as if she had just recovered from a serious illness. But instead of curing the joy of the heart disease, it is full of sorrow. Tong Fufu just wanted to go forward and ask what was going on, and comforted her by the way, but the woman stepped up and ran.
After a while, Tong Fufu's wife came out, and the doctor said that the examination was in good condition and asked the mother to go back and pay more attention to her body. After a brief chat, Tong Fufu mentioned the woman he had just met.
The doctor said indifferently: that room is for abortion, and many women who have accidental pregnancies will choose to come here to get a fetus.
Tong Fufu suddenly realized, this is the case. Feeling sorry in his heart, he couldn't help but say: They are all poor people, how to deal with the children in the belly?
The doctor did not shy away from it, explaining: the fetus was not born, some were still unformed, some had been basically formed, but in the end they could not be treated as "people", so the hospital would immediately take them to be cremated.
Back at home, Tong Fufu tossed and turned, and it was difficult to sleep. He pitied these unborn fetuses, so he wanted to do something for them.
The next day, Tong Fufu came to the hospital again. He approached the director of obstetrics and gynecology and made a suggestion. He hopes to assist the hospital in disposing of these stifled fetuses and giving them a home.
Hospitals are very cautious about the handling of the fetus, and generally have someone to take it directly after the abortion is completed and cremated to avoid preservation. When Tong Fufu first put forward this opinion, the director felt very strange.
At first, the director of gynecology thought that Tong Fufu wanted to take the child to do illegal transactions, so he categorically refused.
But Tong Fufu said that he wanted to take them back for burial, name them and erect a monument so that everyone can remember them and know that there are still these children in this world.
The director of gynecology was touched by Tong Fufu's kindness, so he assisted Tong Fufu in contacting the hospital leaders and the local government, and finally obtained the qualification for the trial. Under the premise that the hospital sent special supervisors, Tong Fufu was allowed to try to bury the fetus after the abortion operation.
He carefully took the dead fetus from the doctor's hand, carefully wiped the blood with clean gauze, wrapped it up, and took it out.
There is a hill next to Nha Trang, and a vacant lot in front of the mountain is idle. The low-lying terrain, covered with cobblestones, is neither suitable for farming nor willing to open factories here.
Tong Fufu had already communicated with the government and bought the land. Although it is not a good plot, but the area is large, the price of the whole is not low, at least for Tong Fufu, it is basically equivalent to two or three years of income.
Tong Fufu came here with the wrapped fetus, put it into a small wooden box that had been prepared, buried it in the soil, piled it into a small grave, compacted the soil, and finally buried the tombstone and put a bouquet of flowers.
The tombstone, which he had asked a friend to customize, was inscribed with only the day of burial and a eulogy of rest. In order to commemorate the child, Tong Fufu flipped through the dictionary, picked a word with a better meaning, used it as the name of the fetus, and carved it together.
The whole process was not complicated, but it took Tong Fufu two or three hours to complete. Every step he took was careful, afraid that something would go wrong and he would lose this opportunity.
After the burial was completed, Tong Fufu breathed a long sigh of relief. Looking back, the doctor who followed him was already nodding his head movingly, and Tong Fufu was overjoyed, knowing that he could continue to do this thing.
After that, the hospital reached an agreement with Tong Fufu: every night after work, if there was a fetus after surgery on the same day, Tong Fufu would be notified to go to the burial. From time to time, the hospital will send people to supervise and observe to ensure that nothing goes wrong.
02 Tong Fufu's cemetery: the terminus full of love
Gradually, Tong Fufu buried more and more fetuses, expanding from a few to dozens, hundreds. The vast open space was actually stuffed in just two or three years, and Tong Fufu had to continue to buy land plots to resettle.
Over the past few years, Tong Fufu's family's savings have been spent. At first, he was looking for someone to customize the tombstone, but then he was shy, so he had to go up the mountain to find the right stone, did not sleep at night, and slowly polished it into a tombstone.
In order to have more time to bury the baby, Tong Fufu quit his job as a construction team, and even sometimes he was busy, and he couldn't even take care of the fields. His wife also became more and more opposed to his move, after all, the family was waiting for him.
The other villagers did not understand Tong Fufu and secretly joked that he was a "strange man". After all, those babies are not even wanted by their biological parents, and he is a stranger who is not related to him, can he afford to spend so much money?
Tong Fufu's family repeatedly advised him to give up, but Tong Fufu said "this is the last child" every time, but he was always willing to answer the call from the hospital, and finally even his family felt that he was hopeless.
Some of these buried babies, some of whom have kind parents, will give him a name before leaving, and many more are nameless and nameless, as if they have never visited this world.
In contrast, Tong Fufu seems to be their biological father, taking care of them, although they are all dead lives, but still received decent arrangements.
In the sixth year of Tong Fufu's burial of babies, thousands of tombstones were densely lined up in two mountains, and when looking at it, a unique desolation and warmth coexisted, which made people can't help but cry.
Many people learned of Tong Fufu's deeds and came to visit him, deeply touched by his kindness. So more and more people joined in, all of them provided their own help and contributed to Tong Fufu.
Enthusiasts would help Tong Fufu choose stones, make tombstones together, help him name the baby, and spontaneously organize commemorative activities with them with a large number of flowers and incense candles when they came to visit.
Tong Fufu's wife also gradually understood his good intentions, took the initiative to help him bury the baby, and shared more household chores so that Tong Fufu could handle it with peace of mind.
Tong Fufu's wife also had several children, and she pitied these children who died without seeing their biological parents. Many villagers did the same, standing in the distance looking at the tombstone bush, almost no one was able to remain calm.
03 Raising 100 children: Saving lives that would otherwise be erased
Time passed, and another year passed. On this day, Tong Fufu was cleaning the dust on the tombstone one by one when he suddenly saw a young woman hovering in front of the tombstone. Tong Fufu stepped forward, and the woman also looked up and saw Tong Fufu.
"Excuse me, are you Tong Fufu?" Did you help me bury my child? ”
The woman asked, her voice trembling slightly.
Tong Fufu shook his head: "I don't know who your child is and which day he left, so it doesn't have to be me." ”
But the woman then said the day of her miscarriage, looked along the tombstone for a while, and actually found it.
The woman crouched in front of the tombstone, caressed the tombstone with her slender white fingers, and sobbed alone, and she gently told Tong Fufu about her experience.
It turned out that when the woman was just in college, she and her boyfriend accidentally had this child, but the two had no money on them, and the family was unwilling, so they had to choose to fight it.
Later, the man graduated and went to work in other cities. The woman remains in school and has not yet graduated. The boyfriend has made some money and has already agreed to marry her. She was overjoyed, and she also remembered the child who had left.
Tong Fufu looked at the woman's sad face and couldn't help but think that he had not done well enough, if he could adopt some children who should have been killed, his parents would be able to take them back in the future.
Over the years of accumulation, Tong Fufu has seen too many such couples. The biggest reason why they choose to kill their children is that they don't have money to start a family and can't afford to raise them. If given a few years, the results could be very different.
Therefore, from this time on, Tong Fufu had time to stay at the door of the obstetrics and gynecology department, and once someone wanted to come to the fetus, he would take her to this tombstone to have a look and persuade her.
Some couples have broken down their feelings, and it is absolutely impossible for children to be born, and no matter how he says it, it is useless and useless.
However, there are also many people who really need help, listen to Tong Fufu's advice, give up the plan of miscarriage, and choose to give birth to the child.
After giving birth to a child, it was temporarily entrusted to Tong Fufu to raise, and after a few years, when the material conditions were sufficient, they made an appointment to come back and pick up the child. For Tong Fufu, saving one child is more comforting than burying a hundred children.
In order to prevent the parents who pick up the children from remembering the child's name, Tong Fufu took a practice: the boy was named "vinh", which means "glory", and the girl was named "tam", which means love. After this name, the name of the child's mother is picked up so that they can recognize the mother and son.
Many mothers who had originally chosen to give up their children were impressed by Tong Fufu and decided to stay. And after a few years, he came back to recognize the child and reunited the family.
But there are also many accidents, and many parents have never returned after leaving their children. These children could only grow up in Tong Fufu's home, and Were raised by Tong Fufu until adulthood.
In order to better take care of these children, Tong Fufu built a special hut for them, and he divided the children into small groups, each team living in a large house.
Tong Fufu also opened up a room for them to study, personally taught them literacy and numeracy, and taught them some basic knowledge and skills in order to survive in the future.
Tong Fufu did not treat these children as a temporary adopter, but as a father, a loving father and a strict father. He taught the children carefully, followed the good examples, and was also strict and fair, and deeply alert.
At first, there were so many children that even Tong Fufu couldn't recognize who was who, so he had to write names on their clothes. But this practice will not only make the children feel that they lack care, like a robot, Tong Fufu is also ashamed, often blaming himself for not paying more attention to them.
Therefore, since then, Tong Fufu, who did not know many words, learned to take notes, record each child's name, photos and life hobbies, temperament and temperament one by one, and verify and update them every day.
Tong Fufu's deeds soon spread throughout the nearby towns, and many people came to visit Tong Fufu and his children and support his act of kindness. They came from all directions, carrying a lot of food, books, clothing.
Some people once wanted to adopt some children from it, but they were all rejected by Tong Fufu. Tong Fufu hopes that one day, the child's personal equity can take away their flesh and bones, otherwise if the biological mother comes and can't find the child, it will not be sad.
The local government and some enterprises also took the initiative to lend a helping hand to Tong Fufu to help him repair the cemetery more neatly and raise his children healthier.
04 Life first: Don't let children bear the fault for adults
Nearly 20 years have passed since the decision to build a cemetery for aborted babies. There are three large cemeteries, nearly 20,000 tombstones, silently telling Tong Fufu's touching deeds and great love and righteousness.
In his house, there are 100 children who have been raised by Tong Fufu since childhood, some of whom are close to adulthood or some of whom have just learned to walk. He was the father of these hundred children, and for them, he gave up his original small family.
Today, this originally cold cemetery has changed a lot. As the construction of the cemetery progresses, it has been proposed that the site be publicly built as a tourist spot for everyone to visit and enjoy.
This proposal was quickly supported and responded to, and it took more than a month from establishment to implementation, and the construction and registration of tourist destinations was completed within half a year.
Designated as a public service tourism destination, the area is open all day and anyone can come in to visit the memorial. There are also donation boxes set up in specific places, and the donations are sorted out and allocated by special personnel, and some of them will be used for Tong Fufu to raise children and grow up, and the other part will be donated to charity.
Every weekend, many couples will choose to bring their children to visit together, and a hundred children raised by Tong Fufu also play with other children here to feel the meaning of life together.
Although children are young and ignorant, it is still very important to guide them to a correct outlook on life at this time. Cherish life, revere life, and stress it at any time.
There are also some young couples who also choose to use this place as a place to date, and by commemorating these miscarried babies, they will also be more responsible and responsible.
Many schools also use it as an excellent location for ideological and moral education, and teachers bring students to organize visits. This cemetery, where 20,000 lives are sleeping and took twenty years to build, is very educational.
The children grew up day by day, and Tong Fufu grew old day by day. Now that he is over sixty years old, he has lost the strength of that year. At the beginning, he climbed the mountain alone, carried dozens or even hundreds of pounds of large stones down the mountain, and made a tombstone overnight.
At this time, Tong Fufu has reached the age of "retirement", and he does not have to worry about no successor. Because a group of children he raised with his own hands have grown up, some have begun to break into society, and some have found jobs in the village and stayed by his side, these jobs are naturally not afraid of no one to do.
These hundred children are lucky, because while they enjoy Tong Fufu's careful care, there are still 20,000 lives sleeping forever. It is precisely for this reason that they cherish life doubly, and each one of them studies hard and works diligently, which makes Tong Fufu feel at ease.
Although he is old, Tong Fufu has no intention of completely retiring from the battle, and he still wants to continue to "work", sitting in the courtyard every day to carefully carve tombstones and give lectures to the children.
Tong Fufu said he wished he could have a "job loss" day, that is, no more babies needed to be buried here. On that day, he could also sit comfortably under the tree, listen to the sound of the wind, and sleep easily. At that time, even if he were to die, he would have no regrets.
Ordinary people, extraordinary things. Tong Fufu had nothing outstanding in his life, but his heart shone brightly and warmly like spring because of these 20,000 tombstones and a hundred children. Those who are alive let them grow up healthily; those who have passed away, let them bury themselves in dignity.
Tong Fufu used his 20 years to show everyone a truth: life is precious, children are innocent, before pregnancy, men and women must be fully prepared, otherwise they must be carefully controlled, do not let children bear the fault for adults.
Fear life, cherish life. This is all that Tong Fufu's boundless heart contains!
Reference sources
1, Vietnamese man Tong Fu Fu Fu, father of 100 children, personally buried more than 20,000 babies
2,54-year-old migrant worker became the "father" of 100 children, personally buried more than 20,000 babies, and the whole country thanked him Phoenix News