When we meet a little girl in her twenties, we will praise her youth and beauty; when we meet a woman in her thirties, we will praise her temperament; when we meet a married woman in her forties, we will praise her charm.
So, what about meeting a woman in her sixties? I think most people will praise her for looking really young, no matter how bad, they will say that she has temperament and charm, but few people will directly praise her beauty.
Indeed, for women in their sixties, it is past the age when they can praise beauty, not that women of this age are not worthy of beauty, but that they are simply beautiful, look frivolous, and not respectful enough.
But some women, they are proud of others praising their beauty, good words and bad words can not be heard, all day long heavy makeup, makeup that is not appropriate, wearing age-inappropriate clothes, doing things that do not meet the age.
For example, Uncle Lin met a sixty-year-old woman on a blind date.
Uncle Lin is 62 years old this year, his wife died five years ago, and at the strong request of his children, he finally agreed to find another wife and listen to his children's words to go on a blind date.
Under his daughter's arrangement, Uncle Lin chose to meet with Aunt Xu, 60 years old. The first time they met, Uncle Lin was a little frightened inside, only to see Aunt Xu painted with big red lips, thick and black eyebrows, looking like new lines, and eyeliner, like tattooed for a long time, lost color, and a little smudge, the whole makeup looks out of place.
In addition to makeup, Aunt Xu's dress also made Uncle Lin frown. I saw the 60-year-old wearing tight pants, boots, and a trench coat. Looking at the quality is good, but this collocation, and then put on this face, how to see how awkward.
But for the sake of face, it is also because of the first meeting, Uncle Lin did not say anything, perhaps there is a kind and beautiful heart hidden under such a appearance. Therefore, Uncle Lin took the initiative to chat with Aunt Xu.
At the beginning, the chat was very smooth, the two people talked very happily, and Uncle Lin was more satisfied. Because of their age, the two people did not hide and began to talk about how to do two people.
Uncle Lin thought very simply, the two families got together to have a meal, at this age, there is no need to do a wedding, naturally there is no need for a dowry, then you can get a license.
Before Uncle Lin finished thinking, he listened to Aunt Xu say: "My first marriage did not have a wedding, and now I want to do a wedding, the natural bride price is also indispensable, as for the dowry, my daughter will look at it." ”
After Aunt Xu finished speaking, Uncle Lin frowned. This is too troublesome, and at such an old age, why bother to take the form of a dowry.
Uncle Lin did not speak for a long time, and Aunt Xu saw Uncle Lin's face and said: "I am 60 years old and some people praise me for being beautiful, is it not worth the 100,000 bride price."
Hearing this, Uncle Lin couldn't help but snort coldly in his heart, and his original good feelings were all defeated by this sentence. He directly countered: "I'm sorry, I can't appreciate your beauty, and I can't afford to pay the dowry of 100,000 yuan."
After saying this, it means that the two people have no relationship and ended the date very unhappily with each other.
On the way home, Uncle Lin was still thinking, all sixty-year-old people, still can't understand other people's words, thinking that others praise her beautiful is really beautiful, in fact, most of the others are against the heart.
Others look at her age and still wear makeup, only to say that, a really beautiful woman at this age, others will not directly praise the beauty, but will say that there is temperament and charm.
In my opinion, there is no one right or wrong in the matter between Uncle Lin and Aunt Xu, and I can only say that the concepts of the two people are different. Sixty years old is not impossible to wear makeup, but it must be in line with age and identity.
Speaking of the bride price, Aunt Xu wants marriage, wants a bride price, as a woman there is nothing wrong with it, Uncle Lin thinks that this age should be simple, in fact, there is no mistake, the wrong thing is that the two people's three views are inconsistent, and they can't go together.
Through the matter of Aunt Xu and Uncle Lin, we can get two enlightenments.
One: Appearance is just a plus for a person
Obviously, Aunt Xu attaches great importance to her appearance and likes others to praise her beautiful. But at this age, drifting is not beautiful in fact, in the second, mainly look at the personality and so on.
People who want to get married at this age, their hearts are nothing more than taking care of each other together, living together, and no one will care whether you wear makeup or not, how beautiful you are.
Moreover, no matter how old you are, you don't have to care too much about these external conditions and appearance. Appearance is only a person's plus, in fact, as long as people are clean, it is enough to look comfortable, there is no need to wear heavy makeup, so that people feel not solemn, unstable.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression on each other on a blind date, but it also depends on the actual situation. What you think is good, maybe others don't feel good, and they won't feel good.
People like Aunt Xu and Uncle Lin are actually three views that do not coincide, and the two people cannot achieve the same frequency. A good appearance, a look inside, is doomed not to go together.
Second: the bride price needs to be based on the actual situation, and it is necessary to avoid asking for a price
In the case of Aunt Xu and Uncle Lin, it also involves the dowry of 100,000 yuan. First of all, in my opinion, whether a person is beautiful or not is not directly related to the amount of the bride price, and Aunt Xu really should not have the courage to ask for a dowry of 100,000 yuan because others praise her beauty.
To put it bluntly, even if a young person gets married, the dowry of 100,000 is actually not a small amount, and people of this age do not need to go through these false gifts when they get married.
After all, the purpose of the elderly to talk about love is to take care of each other in the second half of life, which is a lot less of a feeling of love, and there is no need to do that wedding, not a bride price. What's more, the bride price needs to be based on the actual situation, and avoid asking for a price.
Two people's money is put together, old people support each other, understand each other how good, think too much but appear to be scheming.
Beauty is also divided into low and high, and no one can withstand the age-inducing knife of time. A woman, want to be in the age is not dominant, but also shine, let people see at a glance, the most important means is not makeup, nor how beautiful to dress up, but to see if there is connotation, whether there is temperament, excellent or not elegant, high or not advanced, can not self-discipline to maintain the figure.
The so-called beauty does not know itself, you are not beautiful, others have their own judgment in their hearts, just listen to others casually say so, it is too serious, often will suffer losses.
May all women have an age-appropriate aesthetic, and can sink their hearts, get along well, and work together to live together after meeting the other half they want.
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