As parents, how to choose the right track for children according to their situation and provide soil for them to take root is the homework we need to do all our lives.
Author | Coke Mom
Recently, I saw such a hot search:
"From May 1, the state will implement the Vocational Education Law to abolish the diversion of general jobs after graduating from junior high school."
However, click in and take a look to know:
In fact, the newly revised Vocational Education Law replaces the phrase "the state implements the diversion of education at different stages focusing on junior high schools according to the level of economic development and the degree of education popularization in different regions":
"At different stages after compulsory education, we should adapt to local conditions and coordinate the development of vocational education and general education."
That is to say, from the perspective of the enrollment environment, diversion still exists.
However, compared with the past, the positioning and prospects of vocational education will change, mainly reflected in:
1. Children in vocational and general education will have equal opportunities to further their education.
In the future, secondary vocational students can more smoothly participate in the college entrance examination, go to undergraduate, and go to college.
2. Establish more higher vocational schools with undergraduate education and above.
After graduation, secondary vocational students can also enter more emerging and high-tech fields.
3. It is clarified in legal form that vocational education is a type of education that has the same importance as general education.
The newly revised Vocational Education Law of the People's Republic of China aims to use the law to break the stereotypes of vocational education as "no education", "low income", and "discrimination".
However, even so, many people, especially parents, are still prejudiced against the middle job.
Behind these prejudices, it is often because there is little understanding of secondary vocational education.
"When a child goes to a middle school, will his life be ruined?"
If you don't "learn," what are your children doing in a school? ”
"Where will these children go after graduation?"
Before answering these questions, I would like to tell three true stories about secondary vocational students, hoping that their stories will give parents a more three-dimensional understanding of secondary vocational students.
The protagonist of the first story is named Zhang Huanteng.
He was born in a small mountain village in Henan Province, where his grandmother and mother were paralyzed in bed, and the family had to rely on his father to farm or occasionally go out to work.
Fortunately, from childhood to adulthood, Zhang Huanteng's results are not bad.
But who knows, in the year of the middle school entrance examination, he was not able to reach the score line of the local high school because of his dysfunctional performance.
Zhang Huanteng wanted to read.
But after consulting with relatives, my mother said to him:
"Then go to secondary school, learn a skill early and make money."
Although Zhang Huanteng was unwilling, he still nodded his head and accepted, he said to himself, no matter where you are, as long as you study well, you can go out.
To this end, he made unimaginable efforts for ordinary people in the three years of secondary school.
In the past three years, his English and computer scores have been outstanding, he has taken the first place in the grade, and has also won many financial aides and scholarships.
In 2017, with the support of his parents, Zhang Huanteng went to a nearby ordinary high school to borrow.
Half a year later, with a solid foundation and extraordinary self-discipline, Zhang Huanteng was admitted to Chongqing Medical College.
On the first day of entering the medical college, the counselor noticed the "light in the eyes" child.
And told him:
"Entering the medical college may be the time for you to change your destiny, so you must make full use of these three years and seize the opportunity."
So, for three years, Zhang Huanteng got up at 6 o'clock every day, went to bed at 10 o'clock at night, and soaked in the school library as soon as he had time.
I never took a single vacation, and I always sat in the first row of the classroom.
In the winter and summer vacations, he will go out to work, work as an assembly line worker, and also work as a waiter in a restaurant.
Until 2020, Zhang Huanteng was admitted to Chongqing Medical University through the college entrance examination.
It was also here that he made a wish to continue his studies: to go to graduate school.
Perhaps in the eyes of many people, a secondary school student who wants to enter China's top medical school is tantamount to a fool's dream, but Zhang Huanteng said:
Dreams still have to be had, what if they come true?
Sure enough, Starlight lived up to the passers-by.
Not long ago, Zhang Huanteng was admitted to Peking Union Medical College Hospital (Tsinghua University Medical College) as he wished.
The diversion of the middle school entrance examination is never the end of any child's life.
Because learning is not a temporary thing, but a lifetime thing.
When Zhang Huanteng tried her best to leave the secondary school, there was a girl in Shenzhen who took the initiative to choose vocational high school after the middle school entrance examination.
She is the protagonist of the second story, Gu Huijing.
Gu Huijing looked beautiful, slender, and looked quiet.
Looking at her appearance alone, it seemed difficult to associate her with car repair for a while.
However, Gu Huijing has loved the taste of gasoline since she was a child.
Whenever she saw the cool driving skills and car modifications on the movie screen, her heart longed for a little more:
"When you grow up, you can have your own car, modify it yourself, repair it yourself, how cool."
Therefore, as soon as she graduated from junior high school, she resolutely chose the auto repair major of Shenzhen Second Vocational and Technical School.
At first, her family did not understand her choice, and she was more worried that she would have a hard time as a girl.
But at her insistence, the family finally chose to support.
After entering the vocational high school, Gu Huijing found that she was about to face more difficulties than she imagined.
On the one hand, she is weak.
For boys in the same major, the things that can be done easily often require Gu Huijing to overdraft all her strength to do it.
On the other hand, as one of the few girls majoring in auto repair, she often faces a situation of being excluded.
Asked her classmates questions, but the other party threw her a sentence:
"What is a girl doing here, if you can't learn, don't learn."
The girls around her often mock her, learning this major is because there are many boys.
But even so, Gu Huijing never wanted to give up:
Poor physical strength, run and exercise every morning;
If you can't learn, you will spend more time and work overtime to practice.
Day after day of persistence finally made her usher in her own highlight moment:
In April last year, 17-year-old Gu Huijing won the first prize in the Automotive Mechanical and Electrical Maintenance Competition in the Guangdong Vocational College Students' Professional Skills Competition.
At the same time, she is also the first girl in Guangdong Province to participate in such an event and win the championship.
"I don't care what the outside says and what I think because it's my own choice."
In this era of inner volumes, how many parents force their children to run toward grades, toward elite schools, and in the direction where most people are.
But only forget, let the child follow the things they love most in their hearts and move forward slowly.
The protagonist of the last story is named Liang Zhibin.
Because of his poor academic performance, after graduating from junior high school, he entered the Guangzhou Construction Engineering Vocational School, specializing in construction.
He often laughed at himself, saying that reading this major, "I will all move bricks in the future."
At that time, he would never have thought:
A few years later, he will become a world champion because of "moving bricks".
On October 14, 2017, the 44th WorldSkills Competition was held in Abu Dhabi, UNITED Arab Emirates, the highest event in the skills category, equivalent to the Olympic Games in the world of sports.
At that time, more than 1,200 players competed in 51 events in 6 categories.
During the competition, Liang Zhibin used a pair of rough hands to combine boxy bricks into a variety of dexterous shapes and patterns:
From the lotus flower with buds waiting to be released, to the peacock with its wings spread and the screen open, to the swirling Canton Tower.
With his light and coherent movements and high degree of completion, 19-year-old Liang Zhibin won the first gold medal of the 2017 WorldSkills Competition for China.
Countless people were amazed at his speed.
But only the coach knows that for two years, his "stupid apprentice" has been building walls, tearing down, and re-building every day.
Even the hottest summer never stops.
During the exercise, in order to maintain his sensitivity to flatness, he never wore gloves.
The injured blood bubbles were worn out, so they put on a Band-Aid and continued to build.
Fortunately, every effort has not been disappointed.
After winning the championship, a number of construction companies issued invitations to him, and his alma mater also invited him to stay on campus to teach.
According to the experience of some gold medalists in the past, Liang Zhibin is likely to receive nearly one million yuan of rewards from governments at all levels, and even enjoy the treatment of professors and associate professors.
So in the end, Liang Zhibin chose to stay, he said:
"In the future, I want to continue to develop in the business of bricklaying."
A poor child who came out of a remote small county town, after a confused and painful time, finally lived into his favorite appearance.
Can earn money, but also have dreams. This is the best praise for hard work, for hard work, for perseverance.
After reading these three stories, it is not difficult to find:
Those children in vocational schools have long been completely different from our stereotypical images of "entering the factory assembly line", "ruining if you can't get into high school", and "unemployment after graduation".
As an ordinary parent with a middle school student and facing the middle school entrance examination, I would like to share with you three truths:
1. For children, going to high school is important, but it is far less important than life itself
As a parent, I always accidentally fall into one obsession or another:
"I must buy a school district house."
"My children must go to key secondary schools."
"My daughter will have to take the 985 exam in the future."
There is nothing wrong with wishing children a bright future.
But sometimes, if we are too attached to the result, it is easy to be ugly because of the sunk cost.
Even pulling the emotional trigger on the innocent people around us, especially our children.
I have an example like this around me:
The daughter's grades were not good, she could not go to high school, and when the mother gritted her teeth and paid a high school selection fee, the trust relationship sent her daughter to the school in the city.
To this end, the mother whispers in her daughter's ear every day:
"If you don't take the exam for a dozen minutes less, our family will not spend so much more money, you must fight for breath."
Eventually, the daughter was forced to suffer from depression.
As soon as I saw the test paper, I screamed loudly and burst into tears.
Therefore, if the child really can't go to high school, let him choose vocational high school, it is not necessarily a bad thing.
The end of life is never decided by an exam.
How to pass the middle school entrance examination and let those children who have fallen on their heads learn to stand up and find the meaning of life is the most important lesson for parents.
2. Having a skill that can make a living is the biggest card for children
For the matter of diverting the middle school entrance examination, Professor Yao Yang of Peking University has publicly expressed his opposition, saying:
"You can't use the means of middle school entrance examination diversion, first define 40% of the children, you will be a low-income person in the future..."
And this is also the concern of many parents.
They think that when a child enters a vocational school, he is destined to become a worker, work hard, and live a very undignified life.
But in fact, the rise of various emerging fields has upended this.
In the new occupational directory released by the Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security in 2021, there is a profession called "collation and storage division".
Some time ago, Jia Yan, a post-95 girl in Shanghai, with the online name "Naye", disclosed her income:
In the first month as a cashier, she earned more than 400,000 yuan, and now her hourly salary is as high as 1200 yuan.
Even after three months of waiting for her, there are still customers who are willing to wait for her.
These changes have provided a new way of thinking for the development of ordinary children like you and me:
Instead of leaving the child in an endless inner roll, all the enthusiasm and energy are overdrawn.
It is better to respect each child's talent and help the child hone his or her skills.
In this way, no matter where he goes, he can shine and live a broader life.
3. Academic qualifications cannot guarantee that children will have a worry-free life, and lifelong learning is the talisman for children
Nowadays, every once in a while, you can see news like this on the Internet:
Students who were admitted to prestigious schools were eventually dismissed by the school because they often missed classes and hung up a large number of subjects.
There are also many children, after entering the university, they completely give up studying, and the college entrance examination has become the only highlight moment in their lives.
This kind of phenomenon is reminding us again and again:
For a child, what is more important than academic qualifications is the ability to have lifelong learning.
Because of his insistence on studying, even if he was born in a secondary school, Zhang Huanteng could walk into the door of Peking Union Medical College step by step.
Academic qualifications may be a stepping stone to a job; but the concept and ability of lifelong learning can make a child continue to climb the slope and accumulate hair.
Wen Bo, the principal of Beijing Centennial Vocational School, said:
"We have always believed that children are pure in nature, do not put labels, the core of vocational education is to educate people, to become a full heart, happy ordinary people." 」
Compared with the general high school or the upper vocational high school, what is more worthy of parents' attention is actually how to help their children become better themselves.
The first is to let children maintain their inner love.
Whether on campus or outside the campus, remember to urge children to learn, think, realize, act, and practice.
The second is to learn to accept the child's truest appearance.
Only parents accept things that can't be changed, such as their children's grades, preferences, and talents.
And try to do what you can change, such as discovering your child's strengths, supporting your child's dreams, and helping your child plan your career and life.
Their own pain will be reduced by more than half, and the child's development will get better and better.
Click "like it", may we and our children continue to grow up and find the most suitable path for themselves.