Hello everyone, I'm Maco.
Today I will tell you the story of Zu Chongzhi, a famous mathematician and astronomer in ancient China.
Zu Chongzhi's father, Zu Shuozhi, like most parents now, hopes that Jackie Chan is eager and leads the young Zu Chongzhi to recite the classics every day.
Once, he asked Zu Chongzhi to recite the Analects, and a month had passed, and Zu Chongzhi could only recite ten lines, and then he couldn't recite anything, and his father was so angry that he shouted:
"I can't memorize it for so long, why are you so stupid?"
Zu Chongzhi listened impatiently, and he frowned and said, "I don't want to read this scripture!" ”
The father was trembling with anger and couldn't help but slap his son with his hands, and Zu Chongzhi cried loudly.
At this time, Zu Chongzhi's grandfather came over, asked about the situation, and severely criticized his father:
"If he's really stupid, no matter how much you play, he won't get smarter, he'll just get dumber!" Educating children should not be done in the form of scolding. ”
The father was not convinced, and he asked, "Then, in your opinion, what should be done?" ”
"Since he can't memorize it now, you might as well put down the Analects first, let me take him to the countryside, and let him open his eyes, maybe there will be other gains."
Zu Chongzhi followed his grandfather to the countryside, saw a lot of new things, and learned a lot of interesting knowledge.
At night, Zu Chongzhi and his grandfather looked at the night sky together, and he pointed to the moon in the sky and asked, "Grandpa, why does the moon become round from one to fifteen every month?" ”
Grandpa explained: "Child, the moon has a circle and a lack, it has its own running rules, as long as you look closely, you will find it." ”
The more Zu Chongzhi listened, the more interested he became, and pestered his grandfather to ask.
So Grandpa said, "It seems that you are not interested in scriptures, but you are very interested in astronomy, so why don't I find a few books on astronomy and show them to you?" ”
Since then, Zu Chongzhi has devoted himself to the study of astronomical books every day. Later, he made outstanding contributions to Chinese astronomy and formulated the Great Ming Calendar.
Zu Chongzhi's story tells me that every child has their own interests and hobbies, and what parents should do is to help their children find things they love.
There is a classic line in "Galaxy Tuition Class" that runs through the whole process:
Life is like archery, dreams are like arrow targets, even arrow targets can not find where, what is the use of you pulling a bow every day.
This is also the reason why many excellent children now slowly become mediocre in the end.
Because they can't find what they really love, so they don't know which direction to work in, their lives are dull and tasteless, and often accompanied by a strong sense of loneliness and worthlessness.
The reason why children can't find their own love has a lot to do with the lack of guidance from their parents.
Jason Wu, a Chinese-American designer in New York, especially liked beautiful Barbie dolls as a child. As a result, he was ridiculed by many teachers and classmates.
After the mother knew, after careful observation and patient communication, she found that he liked the beautiful clothes of Barbie dolls. After discovering his hobby, his mother sent him to study fashion design.
After his success, he once sighed: "My mother knows me better than I do, and she accompanies me through the adolescent period of struggling and looking for identity." ”
I like what Bill Gates said:
"The only thing parents should do for their children is to find out where their children's passion lies, encourage them to go all out to pursue, and play to the fullest."
Therefore, in daily learning and life, parents try to give their children free time and support their children to do what they like.
At the same time, parents should pay attention to observing their children's interests and hobbies, and discover their children's strengths in time, perhaps they can let their children find what they love earlier.
At the Ninth Youth Sports Dance Elite Competition, Zhou Yanfei, who won the first place in the amateur Latin dance elite group under the age of 10, was interviewed and excitedly said:
"I'm very grateful to my parents for letting me learn Latin dance in the first place, and I found something I liked."
Believe that every child has something in their heart that they love, but they may be too young to recognize themselves for a while.
As a parent, helping children find what they like, letting children find a sense of achievement and belonging, and realizing self-worth is the best gift for children on the road to growth.