Some people say that after half a year of love, the feelings will become weaker, you think too much, I tell you, do not need half a year, three months of feelings will become weaker! This is a conclusion I came up with some of my male friends around me.
In fact, when you first fell in love, the thinking of boys and girls was completely different. At the beginning, boys chase girls, will use very enthusiasm and sincerity, at that time their IQ and emotional intelligence are completely online, you can circle around girls every day, as long as you are happy, I go to the moon for nine days, catch turtles in the next five oceans, I can even take more than thirty hours by train to see you.
And when the girl first started to fall in love, she only moved three points of affection, and could not stand the boy's poor pursuit and fierce beating, so she agreed to be together. After being together, even if you feel that this man is different from what you imagined, you will still convince yourself to find the advantages of boys.
In this way, after spending three months of honeymoon together, the boy feels that the feelings are stable, and he can divide five points of energy to put on his work, or have a good relationship with the brothers around him, and leave five points for the girl, but this time will often appear, for example, the girl will say a few times, and the boy always can't remember such a situation.
Boys in love he is a minus system, and girls in love is a plus point system, this is the difference between men and women's thinking.
The longer the girls are together, the more dependent they are on their lovers, they will slowly increase from the initial three points to five points, and the experience of girls giving boys increases. For example, going out shopping, seeing clothes suitable for their boyfriends, will buy them for their boyfriends, and slowly begin to complain with their girlfriends around them, seeing that their boyfriends don't care much about themselves.
At this time, the boy is paying five points of true affection, and the girl is also five points, which seems to be equal, but in fact, it is not, in fact, the balance of love has begun to tilt.
Because the boy is ten at the beginning, reduced to five points, the girl is three points to increase to five points, so the girl will feel that the boy is not so attentive at the beginning, when the girl began to think whether the boy has changed his heart, the girl's heart has unconsciously slowly increased the proportion of the boy in their own heart, that is to say, the girl values this relationship more.
After a year, the girl's feelings for the boy rose to eight points, the boy, may still be five points, or even less, only two or three points, this time the girl is becoming more and more sensitive, more and more suspicious, it will become more and more unlovable, and the boy, it will be more and more disliked, and this subtle change will be captured by the girl, and the girl's heart is also more convinced of her inner thoughts, that is, to feel that the boy has changed.
If this development continues, then the girl's world will slowly be filled by this boy, that is to say, the girl's world is this boy, this strong sense of oppression will make the boy feel very uncomfortable, will make the boy want to escape, followed by the quarrel between the two people escalation, if the two people do not have a very strong ability, then this relationship is difficult to maintain. And those lovers who can go on for a long time, it is obvious that they have passed through those pits, or that they have avoided those pits.
Before a girl complained to me, saying that her husband in the beginning of the chase her, every day to send her to and from work, every day said the way, after catching up with the hand rarely along the way, sometimes even people can not see, ask him to say to work overtime, said very busy.
Before she casually said a small thing, this boy will remember, and now, a thing nagged three or four times is not remembered, then in the end the boy changed, or the girl changed, or their feelings have changed, in fact, in my opinion, two people have changed, but the two people have changed in different directions.
In love, girls can easily lose themselves. Many girls feel that they can't rely too much on their boyfriends and want to be independent, but often when they are very independent, boyfriends will question them, why are you so independent, why don't you bother me with anything? Is a girl who is too independent not to love herself, and why is there something that bothers her friends and does not want to trouble him?
It is under such inducement that girls begin to slowly rely on boys, but the degree of dependence is difficult to grasp, you don't know when it is just right, when it is over.
So I have the best advice for girls, that is, in the relationship, at the beginning, you don't love too much, you don't over-commit, don't be moved by the commitment of the other party, love is not as romantic and noble as most of us think, if you have very much love, please love yourself with seven points first. Do you understand?
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C