Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Brothers and sisters in this life must have accumulated countless fates in their past lives to promote the blood of this life that is thicker than water, and the bones and tendons of the bones are broken!
Once upon a time, if someone mentioned brothers and sisters, they would turn against each other, and I don't know how much insult or preaching would be attracted.
With the advent of the digital society, people once discovered:
Even between brothers and sisters, it is difficult to get along, let alone love each other! It turns out that the more brothers and sisters in relationship, the more the reality can be highlighted!
Reality comes from gains and losses, from interests, from the ugliness and unpredictability of human nature and human hearts!
Most of the deepest memories of adults between siblings are in childhood. Hide and seek together, pig grass together, climb mountains together, loach caught in a big river together...
When I was a child, people with many brothers and sisters in the family were generally rarely "bullied" by outsiders. Outsiders, I can't see if you are harmonious or not!
As adults, some people are bullied, often by their own siblings. Outsiders, never know you thoroughly.
What's so good about growing up?
It is nothing more than the people closest to him, who have calculated everything that should not be calculated and what should be tolerated.
Once upon a time, we all thought that brothers and sisters were thicker than water in this world with inseparable blood? In order to continue this relationship well, we would rather accept the fact that "we are not close to three generations".
Later, with the progress of society, the demagoguery of people's hearts and human nature in a warm and worry-free state, we found the greatest cruelty from reality:
Pro, not necessarily to the third generation. Only for a lifetime, it is difficult to "get to the head".
I don't know how many people are in tears in the face of such a reality!
When the brothers and sisters have not yet left home to live independently, even if the parents do something unbalanced, no one will dare to make too much mistakes.
People grow up, have their own ideas, parents are old, there is no way to do the family's fixed sea god needle!
In fact, every parent wants their children to be harmonious. But in fact, once the parents reach a certain age, or have grown old, the tree falls and the home is scattered!
After adulthood, brothers and sisters have their own independent lives and contact with their respective interpersonal circles, and even if there is no interest involved and conflicts of gain and loss between each other, the relationship will be estranged.
In fact, between brothers and sisters, the relationship can be vetoed and broken, and it has long been doomed:
First: The "unfairness" of parents' words
Some parents are willing to use what they think "should" to force their children to obey in educating their children.
Common phenomenon: boys are favored because boys are passed down from generation to generation; the big should let the small ones do everything, because they want to be role models.
Wait a minute......
Parents hope that their children will be well-behaved and sensible, but if they use the wrong way, they will fall short.
Children, that is, the branches that grow on the two big trees of their parents, if they are not properly pruned, they are easy to grow crooked!
In a family, the two kinds of people who are most likely to grow crooked, one is a person who has been repressed for a long time, and the other is a person who is over-spoiled.
These are the seeds of evil causes planted by parents themselves in the hearts of their children, so that their children can reap the evil fruits of mutual harm and hatred when they become adults.
Yes, many times parents do it fairly, but not letting their children understand the correct truth in time is also an evil cause that cannot be escaped!
In everything, there is a cause and effect. The reason for the parents' neglect of education is the cruel end of the child's inability to be harmonious and love each other.
Second: the gap between rich and poor is large, and sensitivity and vulnerability are combined
The nine sons of The Dragon are different. Born to the same parent, the trajectory of life is 80% different.
After all, human talents are difficult to unify!
Lovers of reading and literacy, partial to mischievous play, only know how to climb mountains and shoot birds... Such a difference, between brothers and sisters, is not surprising.
Some people grow up, but they are never willing to recognize what they used to look like, and will only make excuses for their inaction.
There are also brothers and sisters who are willing to work as farmers in order to fulfill others. Later, the brothers and sisters had a chance to come out, and they themselves had defiled the former grand duke's selfless moral kidnapping.
Why bother?
What kind of person you are, what kind of life you will harvest.
You didn't take advantage of the opportunity before, and then you have more regrets, it's more important than just doing good in the moment.
Unfortunately, some people are willing to stare at the glowing points of their brothers and sisters to say sour words, do acid things, full of complaints, and are not willing to change themselves to break through!
In the long run, because of the gap between the rich and the poor, whether poor or poor, it will lead to sensitivity and vulnerability. In this way, sensitivity and vulnerability naturally become tools for rupture between brothers and sisters.
Third: to survive in a different place, it is a last resort
In the early years, many rural children stepped on the auspicious cloud of culture and poured into the big cities. After completing their studies, they all stayed in big cities and developed.
Such a phenomenon also determines that with their hometown and even brothers and sisters, less and more away!
This is the case between people, as long as there is less contact with each other's reality, even if there is more air contact, the feelings will become weaker.
At first, there will be a topic to talk about, and after a long time, I don't know what to say! Being in different circles and cities with each other, empathy and information absorption have become the biggest problems.
When brothers and sisters, because the distance is reduced, the topic is less reduced, the interaction is reduced, and the feelings between each other are also faded because of the company of others.
Although I will occasionally miss it, I will not miss it so much because I am used to being accustomed to long-distance invisibility.
All relationships between people are established by exchanges. However, between brothers and sisters, when the lives of different spaces are not synchronized, their busyness and hearing are not synchronized, there will be timely air contact and only a brief greeting.
In this way, gradually only the person in life is clearly known, but it is almost not very interactive!
The more realistic the relationship between brothers and sisters, the closer the relationship, the more it can reflect the human heart and humanity. Without much real-life meeting and interaction, any relationship will end in stillness.
In the final analysis, if only man could have the ability to prejudge, so that there would be no parents who would have many children in vain, and then witness the sadness of their disharmony and intimacy.
Real life, after all, is helpless to accompany most of them.
Meet brothers and sisters who love each other, don't be blindly proud, be cautious and cherish.
Unfortunate and ungrateful or harsh people become brothers and sisters, and don't be too upset. After all, we have no choice.
It's just that brothers and sisters, if they can, must not become strange enemies.
A short life, even if it has nothing to do with please, the relationship is still a brother and sister! If brothers and sisters can let go of the so-called "grudge" to shake hands and make peace, it must be an irreplaceable love in any relationship in this world!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: Do you get along well with your brothers and sisters? Leave what you want to say in the comments section.