Hello everyone, I am 55 years old and have been retired for a few years. Life after retirement is leisurely, but it is inevitable to encounter such and such annoyances, and occasionally be annoyed and angry by some small things. Recently, however, I discovered a secret to not getting angry, and it works very well, and I have gained great peace of mind and body.
Let's start with the dangers of anger. Everyone knows that getting angry is absolutely unacceptable and can bring great harm to the body. But I can't control it, and I get angry for a while at every turn. The moment I get angry, my blood pressure suddenly rises, my head jumps suddenly, and I feel hot and uncomfortable. After getting angry, it was difficult for me to calm down immediately, and I always felt tightness in my chest and shortness of breath.
What's even more terrifying is that after I get angry once, I will always think about the little thing that angers me, and then I will keep thinking about sulking all the time, and as a result, I can't eat and sleep well, and I have a black face to everyone. The son and daughter-in-law all said that when the mother was angry, it was like a different person, how could she still have a little kind and amiable appearance? I'm ashamed to hear it, but I just can't control it!
Later, I had a casual conversation with an old friend about it. She told me that there was an excellent secret to not getting angry, and I was a little skeptical when I heard it. She said that every time she finds herself angry, don't rush to get angry, but take a deep breath, then close your eyes and silently recite 6 words in your heart: "Let go of attachment, attachment harms yourself."
Sounds like there's some truth. When we get angry, it's often because we're too attached to something and want to do it our way. But how can real life be as good as it could be? In this way, they will get angry because they can't let go of the so-called "reason". In fact, getting angry will not solve the problem, but will cause you to suffer internal injuries. So letting go of attachment to something is good for yourself.
I tried doing this once and it worked really well. It was my son who drove the car into a puddle and destroyed the bottom of the car. As soon as I found out about this, I started yelling in a fit of anger and scolding my son. But after thinking about it, fortunately, the car was not so badly damaged, and his son repaired the car in time, and he also learned from it. I immediately closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and silently recited in my heart, "Let go of attachment, attachment to harm yourself."
Sure enough, through these words, I gradually calmed down my anger. Think about it, now that my son has grown up, he will occasionally make mistakes, and we, as parents, should be more tolerant and give them some room to make mistakes. And what is angry about what has happened? Being angry doesn't help, and it hurts yourself. As I recited this sentence in my heart, the more I thought about it, the more transparent it became, and my anger gradually calmed down.
Since then, every time I feel angry, I quickly close my eyes, take a breath, and recite those six words in my heart. The amazing thing is that through these 6 words, I can quickly calm myself down and not be overly attached and angry. Over time, I became less and less angry, and my temper became calm and old.
There are so many benefits to not being angry. First of all, my physical condition is significantly better, my blood pressure is not as high as before, and my sleep quality has improved. Secondly, my relationship with my family has also become much better, and I no longer get angry and insult them because of trivial things, and everyone gets along much more easily. Again, the troubles of life have never been so sad, I have learned to empathize, to treat everything with a peaceful mind, and the joy of life has gradually come to my senses.
In short, by meditating on the six words "let go of attachment and attachment to harm oneself," I truly felt the benefits of not being angry. When the temper comes up, it can quickly calm down, and the days will become more and more leisurely. Relatives and friends saw it in their eyes and said that it was a great thing not to be angry at this age. I think it's not difficult not to get angry, the key is to have a heart to let go. Only by maintaining a peaceful and gentle mind can you live the life you should have in your old age.
So friends, the next time you want to get angry, you might as well close your eyes, take a deep breath, and silently recite the six words "let go of attachment and harm yourself" in your heart. I believe that after a few exercises, you will definitely reap the fun and benefits of not getting angry. At this age, what is there to be angry and persistent? It's better to learn to let go and live a leisurely old age.