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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Some people say: "Feelings outside of marriage, seemingly beautiful, are actually full of calculations and will not last long." ”
Indeed, men and women in marriage, if they do not restrain their emotions and have an intimate relationship, often become inseparable quickly.
Because, any relationship, when it is not obtained, it is beautiful and romantic, once it is obtained, it will be tasteless and will no longer be nostalgic.
Moreover, for people who have a family, both sides are involved, and things that are not conducive to themselves will not be rushed into it.
When two people have slept, both sides will calculate in their hearts, you calculate me, I calculate you, and in the end you can only shoot twice.
Therefore, it is best for men and women not to entangle this kind of feeling, and the romantic and amorous expression is actually accompanied by pain and calculation, which is meaningless.
What both men and women must understand is that any unrecognized love will not reach the end. If you indulge in the joy of dew, you will only be hurt in the end, and even pay a painful price.
Therefore, when an extramarital affair occurs, there may be only these three endings, and it will not last long. This is also the cruel end of extramarital love: as long as you have slept, both parties will never have a future.
First, it is just play, not cherished
I remember reading a sentence: "In an extramarital affair, the betrayer cannot really be cherished by others." ”
Indeed, a person who is unfaithful to his feelings, but asks for sincere feelings, is simply impossible, and will not be cherished by others after all.
After all, adults are very realistic, when they enter into an extramarital affair, both parties will have some calculations, no matter what the reason, they are taking what they need, and no one will really talk to you about love.
Those expressions of affection and commitment are just masks in disguise, under the guise of a temporary dew love affair.
Perhaps, when two people meet, they will breed ambiguous feelings and feel a bit like love.
However, after really getting along, as long as both parties have slept, the feelings will go to a strange road, and eventually they will divide things.
In the face of a person who is originally unfaithful to feelings, both sides know that it is impossible to invest in true feelings, let alone cherish.
In fact, a person who betrays a marriage, with the first time, there will be a next time, and it is difficult for them to accept it.
Because they have tasted the sweetness and lost the bottom line, their mentality has changed at this time, and such people have no principles and do not care about being affected by public opinion. Especially when they have not been discovered, their boldness will grow.
If a person is not firm in their feelings and cannot be loyal and single-minded, no matter who they are with, they will become unstable, and the tenderness they use on you will also be used in others.
Moreover, even if someone persuades them, it will basically have no effect, because people who are originally emotionally flooded will not accept because of a few words from others.
Therefore, even if this kind of person encounters love, he cannot be cherished, because both sides are very clear that the person who has betrayed the marriage has long broken through the bottom line, and it is not worth delivering the true heart, everything is just a play.
Therefore, as long as both parties have slept, perhaps when the feelings collapse, both parties will not linger on this dewy love affair, and there will be no future.
Second, each takes what is needed, and both sides calculate the gains and losses of interests
Extramarital love is essentially to take what you need, and once together, both parties will calculate the benefits and losses.
As a result, the two people quarreled, contradictions occurred frequently, and feelings naturally fell apart.
This kind of feeling is simply impossible to last, and once the freshness is passed, both sides are faced with complex calculations of interests.
At the beginning of the relationship, men and women are selfish, either both sides see each other and feel fresh, or both sides want money, materials, and interests, which is very realistic.
You think you have found true love, maybe you are just a spare tire used in the eyes of the other party, where is the truth?
In itself, adults are very realistic, if not to take what they need, who will easily break through the bottom line to communicate. Wait until you have no value, that is, when the other party is desperate to leave.
A colleague, Mr. Wang, met a woman at work, and because she was very beautiful, she took the initiative to communicate.
After the two people met, they felt that they were very close to each other, and soon developed into confidants of the opposite sex.
During this period, Mr. Wang spent more than 100,000 yuan on the girls, and Mr. Wang also experienced the tenderness and happiness that he had never experienced before.
However, the good times did not last long, and the relationship between the two people eventually let Mr. Wang's wife know about it, and soon proposed a divorce with Mr. Wang.
As the wrong party, Mr. Wang went out of the house, but he did not think so, felt that there was nothing, at least there were girls around.
However, when he found the girl in frustration, the other party directly drew a line with him and said with absolute emotion: "You have nothing now, why should I be with you?" ”
At this time, Mr. Wang woke up, it turned out that this feeling was so calculated, she was just trying to make her own money, and there was no value when there was no money. Eventually, the two broke up after a big fight.
Therefore, there is not much truth to speak of outside of marriage, it is full of calculations, when you are valuable, maybe the other party will be with you, once you lose value, the end is a contradiction, cruel breakup.
Third, the feelings are exposed, completely broken, and will not be entangled anymore
If this feeling is not discovered, it may be able to last for a while, and once it is revealed, both sides will quickly retreat and will not be entangled.
At this time, both sides will become indifferent and ruthless, because they do not want to cause trouble to themselves, so they will not indulge, but do their best to maintain their own face.
Naturally, neither person cares about the other, just wants to escape, doesn't want to be pestered, and behaves particularly desperately.
Even if you hurt each other, you will not feel that there is anything wrong, in order to save yourself, who will take care of you, this is the cruel reality.
Especially some women, in the feelings of naïve thinking, think that they have found true love, and when they are hurt, they regret it, which is very sad.
In fact, both men and women, once they misjudge this feeling, they are prone to lose themselves.
They will constantly comfort themselves, not through the body, but through feelings, which is actually a cognitive error.
When the two people finally decide, they may understand that this kind of relationship is not true love at all, and it has always been a game to take what they need.
When things are not revealed, both parties think that it is true love, or for the benefit of the other, which may last for a period of time.
However, when the relationship is exposed and both parties want to protect themselves, it is when the relationship breaks down.
The so-called love in your eyes is actually a kind of excitement and freshness that the other party comes out to seek, and when the incident occurs, the other party will definitely abandon you at the first time, and there will be no pity.
Therefore, it is best for men and women to maintain a correct view of marriage and love, do not believe in those so-called romantic love, so as not to mispay feelings, but also to pay a tragic price.
Feelings outside of marriage have never stood the test, the more enthusiastic, the more they will disappear quickly, hoping that men and women will adhere to the bottom line of marriage, which is the embodiment of adult dignity and responsibility.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
All extramarital love is not recognized by the world, and it also breaks through the bottom line of marriage, which is a relationship that cannot be seen and will not last long.
To sum up, when an extramarital affair occurs, there may be only three outcomes:
It is just play, not cherished; each takes what is needed, and both sides calculate the gains and losses; the feelings are exposed, completely broken, and will not be entangled anymore.
No matter how the two sides maintain, as long as they have slept, there will be no more, this is the cruel end of extramarital love, I hope that men and women can have some awareness, do not try and make mistakes.
I hope that the real couple can stick to the bottom line in the marriage, and only by working hard to manage their marriage can they get real happiness.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.