I saw a sentence on Weibo: "When others delete you, the system will never tell you, because you are afraid that you will be sad; when you delete others, the system will remind you to delete it, because you are afraid that you will regret it." In fact, what really makes you sad is not the result of others deleting you, but that others have deleted you from the friends list, but you are completely unaware, when you stupidly send a message to see that it is a cold sentence "you are not the other party's friend", the kind of indescribable embarrassment that is indescribable for a while is the real sad feeling. At that moment, I knew that our lives were always filled with many quiet and silent farewells, some people came, some people left, but we never really said goodbye, so we came unexpectedly, quietly left, and the friendship boat overturned at any time, which is often the norm of our lives.
The passion of the joy at first sight is lingering, and in the end, it cannot withstand the long-term companionship. People-to-people interaction is always caused by fate, at the beginning, never thought that one day will become more than strangers to exist, but never thought that does not mean that they will not be strangers again, do not want to part but there will always be people scattered, later, gradually understand that people between people from nothing to say nothing, from each other to forget each other in the jianghu. You see, life is actually very fair, someone leaves, someone will come, there are some people who never need to deliberately think about it, and they don't have to deliberately operate. It is so easy for a person to drown in the endless river of years, and before you know it, that person will say goodbye to your life and never see you again.
In fact, many things we only see the ending, but rarely see the layers of preparation in a long time. It's as if it's hard to know how many times a person has gone through a chill and disappointment in between, from nothing to say. Friendship is so, so is love, as Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "A man's harm to a woman is not necessarily that he is in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations." "A person, from nothing to say to you, from nothing to say, from serious to indifferent, and finally resolutely decided to delete you, I don't know how many indescribable disappointments were separated. In fact, behind every disappointment, there is a heart that slowly becomes cold, and some of them are just accumulating to see through, look down on and see open. In real life, each of us has also experienced such a thing, and we have wholeheartedly paid for a person, but unfortunately you did not get the response she deserved, nor did you get a little sincerity, until finally, you are tired and tired, and your heart will slowly not make the slightest wave for her.
In this world, all the sudden tempers are grievances that have been saved for too long. All the relationships that have been decided to be quietly deleted have experienced a chaotic struggle. Do you think, a person with a gentle personality, suddenly throws a tantrum, strange? Not surprising at all. "Frozen three feet, not a day's cold", sudden hysteria, is not a grievance on one thing. As everyone knows, a person's tolerance and thoughtfulness again and again should not be taken for granted as a good temper. No one is born with a good temper and is willing to accommodate, really because of love. If this love cannot be cherished, it is not too much to send a small temper to express emotional appeals. As one passage responds: "If you do something wrong, I can let you go; if you deceive me, I can let you ride a horse; if you hurt my heart, I can still let you go." But you have to remember: I have a temper, not a horse. However, people in real life always backfire, often one party for love, when the anger in the heart is forced, the other party does not have the right understanding, but instead of making more and more difficult progress.
Knowing you, from full of joy to disappointment, every heart is slowly getting colder. As the saying goes, "mourning is greater than heart death", two people together, not afraid of quarreling, afraid of nothing to say. If the person you love is still willing to argue with you, then congratulations, it shows that the other party still cares about you. Getting along with your lover, it is inevitable that there will be friction, mixing mouths with each other, or posing your face, which is to give both parties the opportunity to speak their hearts and understand each other. Moreover, sometimes a few complaints, once the small temper passes, the heart will be light, and those things will not become the straw that weighs on the bottom of the heart. After all, because of deep love, you will care; because you care, you will be calculated. People, once they really don't care about anything, can naturally be calm and silent, don't care, and naturally can always maintain a good temper. As Wilde said, "For those of us who are indifferent, we can always be gentle." "What is really scary in the relationship is that the other party does not care about the indifference after the silence and understanding, which is actually to mean that there is no longer the other party in the heart." Don't wait for a person to save enough disappointment and quietly leave before thinking of cherishing it. Because by then, it is often too late. Feelings are mutual, whether it is love, affection, or friendship, they need to be managed with heart, and they are inseparable from the mutual perfection and tolerance of both sides. You can lose your temper, I can occasionally be willful and ignorant; you can occasionally make unreasonable trouble, I can occasionally be decadent; but the premise must be that you appreciate my personality, and I have to accept your imperfections.
Perhaps, some experiences are inherently a very painful thing, some people are destined to teach you to grow, in this process, you may not necessarily gain something, but you will definitely lose something. Whether your appearance is not beautiful or the personality is good or bad, please learn to accept yourself first, there is no such thing as an outlier in this world, only imperfect people. Moreover, a person with a little temper can live more like himself, a little willful, in order to become less concerned about anything, to believe that in a certain corner there must be someone willing to understand your shortcomings, appreciate your quirks, and even be very similar to you. Life is your own, live your favorite look, do not blindly change, do not have to please anyone, you are you, nothing bad. Life is short, the grass and trees are autumn, the time is gone and it will no longer flow backwards, and regret is more sad than regret. To be the best version of yourself, you can be more qualified to be picky about life, to love the person you really deserve to love, in order to live up to all the encounters in this life. If you don't care, it doesn't matter, for the rest of your life, may you not be disturbed by the past, and you will not be hurt by people who don't care about you. I believe that the future can be expected, and there will be someone who can use all her enthusiasm to warm you again.