I don't know if you have the following manifestations in your relationship:
Gain and loss. For example, you always like to base your joys and sorrows on each other, if he makes you happy, then you feel that he belongs to you, and once he makes you unhappy, you will be sad and wonder if he does not love you.
Strong sense of control. It is in the relationship that you urgently need a kind of control over the relationship, you hope that the other party is within your control, and it is best for the other party to follow your requirements, because only in this way can you get a sense of security.
Sensitive and irritable. You do not allow the other party to make a mistake, become very critical in the relationship, pay special attention to every detail and behavior of the other party, any place that makes you unhappy, you will continue to amplify, after enlarging, you will be extra angry, feel that the other party can not do anything well.
Lose yourself. It is that you invest time and energy on the other party and ask the other party to do the same, such as to return to you in seconds
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Paying attention to your emotions, taking care of everything about you, etc., losing your own life and being too attached to others.
If you have also exhibited the above behaviors in a relationship, then congratulations, you are the person I am going to talk about today with a serious "trust mentality", wondering why your relationship always fails? Today's video is good to listen to, be sure to collect it, believe me, you will definitely gain something!
Why do I say that people with serious trust mentalities often talk about a bad relationship?
First of all, the first point is that the entrustment mentality is serious, in fact, you put all your own pressure on the other party, naturally, the other party will also feel a lot of pressure.
If there is a person, he often magnifies some of your inadvertent actions, or some unintentional actions, and then proves your attitude towards him, and because of these angry people at any time, you are in a state of high pressure and anxiety for a long time.
For example, you may just say a word casually, the other party is suddenly unhappy, you don't even know why, you have to apologize, admit your mistakes, or you often quarrel because of some small things, and no matter how you say and do, you can't satisfy each other, then, over time, can you not have the question of "is it worth continuing" in this relationship?
Although I always say that it is inevitable to stumble in love, but modern workers are already so tired, every day back home to cope with your inexplicable feelings, who can always be willing to endure so much?
The second point is that the serious trust mentality will make you less attractive.
Why? Because the trust mentality will slowly weaken your strengths, and let some of the traits that you did not show in the past manifest.
For example, if you are originally a person who lives happily and sunnyly, then when you are entrusted with a heavy mentality, you will change from the original person to the person with those performances that I said above, become a person who loves to be angry and unhappy, and lose your charm in the early stage of love or when you are not in love.
And the entrustment mentality is serious, and there will be a bad result, that is, you will forget to manage yourself and improve yourself, and you will also ignore your feelings, so that your attractiveness will naturally decline.
As I said, two people can walk together because of attraction, not for poverty alleviation, not for the sake of helping the weak. When your attraction is not enough for the other party to maintain the relationship, the relationship is about to come to an end.
Finally, the third point is that the serious trust mentality will damage your self-worth.
Because when you hold a trust mentality to fall in love, you are prone to produce a "must not be each other" thoughts and behaviors, and once you feel that "must not be the other party", the behavior you show will increase the confidence of the other party, let the ta be too inflated, and too inflated will make the ta produce a feeling that you are not worthy, then at this time, the possibility of you being broken up will be very large.
Maybe your true value is still very high, but the behavior you show makes the other party can't see your true value, and he will only feel that you can't do without him and is of low value.
Remember, no one likes something of low value, not even your close partner, and if you compare your heart to heart, you won't like someone like that, will you?
So in summary, you have to give him confidence, pushing him to find a higher value, "worthy of him" people, and once this idea germinates and ferments, it is the beginning of your breakup, understand?
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C