The 10-year-old boy, for 10 days, spent $9800 and bought a bunch of Ultraman cards.
This happened to the son of Ms. Duan in Zhumadian, Henan, who angrily called a TV reporter to help go to the Chenguang stationery store that sells cards to ask for explanations.
Ms. Duan said that the cash placed at home was prepared for the elderly during the New Year, and when she took the money the day before the Chinese New Year's Eve, she found that it was less than 9800 yuan.
Ms. Duan's 10-year-old son admitted to taking the money, saying that he had planned to buy snacks and eat, but was fooled by the owner of the stationery store and bought these various Ultraman cards at different prices.
This made It difficult for Ms. Duan to accept, and asked the stationery store owner why he told his children that if parents asked, they should not say the cards bought in their own store.
However, after the reporter came to the stationery store with Ms. Duan, the boss admitted that the boy spent five or six thousand yuan to buy Ultraman cards at his house, and that he came into the store with the cards.
But the boss did not admit to fooling the boy, and was willing to confront the two sides, and asked Ms. Duan's own children could not see, why did they come to him for trouble?
At present, the local market supervision department has intervened in the investigation, and will make corresponding treatment in accordance with the procedures after the evidence is collected.
As soon as the news came out, the comment area was noisy, and many people pointed the finger at the merchant, believing that the merchant should not sell so many cards to the child, and that doing so was making black money.
But is the main responsibility for this really on the merchant? People open shops to make money in business, and isn't it the 10-year-old boy and his parents who are really responsible?
But if the parents can manage the cash in the family, the boy will not get so much money for ten consecutive days!
But if the boy can understand that it is not easy for his parents to earn money, he will not spend so much money and push the responsibility to the merchant!
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Children spend less money, lie bigger, and shirk responsibility even more.
The boy in the news is 10 years old, should be in the fourth or fifth grade of elementary school, and quietly took nearly ten thousand yuan from the family to buy Ultraman cards for more than ten days in a row.
It was precisely because he knew that he should not do this, so after the East Window incident, the boy chose to lie, saying that he originally wanted to buy a snack.
But the boy forgot that the shop he went to was a stationery store, and it was not difficult to see from the video that the goods in the store were all stationery, where did the snacks come from?
With the first step of lying, the boy then shirked his responsibility, and he said: "The owner of the shop told me what to do to buy food, it is better to buy cards, these cards can still be sold for money." ”
The reporter asked him why he bought so many cards? The boy said: "Originally I wanted to buy one or two pieces, but the boss said that these cards were not good, so I wanted to buy more than three hundred expensive ones." ”
You see, buying cards is the boss fooling him, buying so many so expensive cards, or the boss fooling him, this boy thinks that he is not wrong at all, the responsibility is in the business!
Not to mention whether the boss really fooled him, even if he did, the 10-year-old boy should have the determination to refuse to buy, rather than looking innocent now.
I recall a quote by the English novelist Maugham: "It is most effective to make a man reveal his essence and to make him take on a responsibility." ”
No parent wants to raise a child who does not know how to take responsibility, but not all parents can realize that their children are shirking their responsibilities when their children make mistakes!
Today's children are super smart, they know that they have made mistakes, parents will not easily spare, want to make themselves less punished, will do everything possible to excuse themselves.
Lying and shirking responsibility are the usual tricks of these children, but many parents are not aware of their children's routines, or know and are unwilling to admit it, after all, it is to admit the failure of their own education.
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It's okay to trust your child, but parents can't be indiscriminate.
As a middle-aged mother with a 12-year-old boy, I deeply believe that my child is a good child, but it does not mean that I will believe everything he says, but that I know how to discern rationally and make correct judgments.
Because teenage children are really not ignorant, but have a certain sense of self and autonomy, the instinct to seek advantage and avoid harm will prompt them to make behavioral choices that are beneficial to themselves.
The reason why Ms. Duan in the news sought out a TV reporter with great fanfare was that she dared to go to the stationery shop owner to discuss it because she believed what her son said.
In response to the boy's set of words, the boss directly said: "I didn't say this, you can confront ah!" "It's clear that the boss, as an adult, doesn't have to lie at this point.
The boss also said that the Ultraman card is inherently good and bad, and after the boy buys the card and opens it, he may only take the one he wants, and the rest of the cards will be gone.
This also explains Ms. Duan's previous doubts, that is, why she spent nearly ten thousand yuan and did not have so many cards in her son's hand.
But it is obvious that Ms. Duan, who is in a state of anger, just blindly believes her son's words and cannot listen to the boss's explanation at all, that is, she wants to return the money her son spent.
Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky said: "Trust in children, figuratively speaking, is caressed, warm wings, and the air on which to fly." ”
We all know that parents should trust their children, but it does not mean that they believe every word their children say indiscriminately, that is not love but harm.
Parents who truly understand the art of education will objectively analyze the words and deeds of their children according to the situation at that time, and then take corresponding educational measures.
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Distinguishing responsibilities and rewarding and punishing clearly is the cornerstone of education.
In fact, there is a comment under this news that has received more than two thousand likes, which is very pertinent: "In the final analysis, it is still the education of bear children." ”
I deeply believe that in the process of children's growth, the education of parents has always been a long way to go, and the following three points can be referred to:
First of all, understand money and know how to spend rationally.
During the New Year, my son received a total of more than 6,000 yuan of pressure money, and whoever gave him the red envelope, he would give it to me and instruct him: "My mother helped me save it." ”
The reason why he gave me the old money so happily for safekeeping is because I usually give him pocket money on a regular basis, and the small snacks and small toys he wants to buy can be satisfied as long as he reports to me.
Generally, after children go to primary school, parents should give their children 10 yuan or 20 yuan of pocket money every week or month, so that children can learn to manage and consume reasonably, and gradually cultivate their children's concept of money.
Parents must not give a penny to the child, such a discipline will make the child reach out to "take", not only easy for the child to develop the habit of petty theft, but also may lead the child to go to a crooked road.
Second, don't lie and learn to take responsibility.
The German poet Heine said: "Life cannot blossom brilliantly from lies." ”
Lying is a matter of a person's character, and when parents find out that their children are lying, they must not let their children be confused, but they must sternly tell him that lying is not the behavior of a good child.
In particular, in order to shirk responsibility, the lie can not be said, parents must not only point out the child's mistakes, but also tell the child how to correct, so that the child clearly knows what to do in the future.
Parents' three views must be correct, they can see where the child's problems are, and give corrections on the facts, and the punishment should not be soft, so that the child can remember and do it.
Third, we should always reflect and be vigilant about the responsibility of education.
Educationalist Cai Yuanpei said: "Educators, not for the past, not for the present, but for the future." ”
The growth of children is a dynamic process, which means that the parents' education methods cannot be set in stone; and the different personality characteristics of each child mean that parents must know how to teach according to their aptitudes.
Parents can use the way of recording the child's growth process, regularly review whether the education method needs to be improved, and summarize more practical ways to deal with various problems in the child.
Read more children's pedagogy and psychology books, study more about the growth characteristics of various types of children, parents must have a good idea, in order not to be held back by the child's performance.
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The Irish poet Yeats said, "Education is not about filling a bucket of water, but about lighting a fire." ”
Educating children is the responsibility of parents, and we look forward to all children being able to grow up healthy and happy and have a happier future under the correct education of their parents.