Cousin Kitabuchi is introverted, stupid and shy. I have been graduating from college for a few years, I have never had a girlfriend, and the elders in the family are very anxious.
Every time I asked him about the progress of his feelings, he replied, "I don't know if people like me or not, once I don't have that meaning to me, isn't it boring to pursue others?!" ”
One day last year, Beiyuan came to me and said that he was very fond of a girl in the unit, but he was still as unsure of the other party's attitude towards himself as before, so he hesitated and did not know how to do it.
I couldn't help but laugh at the look of distress on the big boy's face, so I gave him the four-word secret book: "Invite her to dinner."
Two weeks later, Kitabuchi excitedly called me to announce that the girl liked him too, and the two were ready to have a deep relationship.
Two days ago, Kitabuchi brought his girlfriend to play with me, and the two of them were kind and loving, and I heard that they had begun to prepare for the second half of the year.
There are many men like Beiyuan in life who are not sure about women's attitudes towards themselves, and are blocked outside the first threshold of interpersonal communication.
Then I have to recommend my cheats to these male friends: to find out if a woman is interested in you, the easiest and most effective way is to invite her to a meal.
How can you tell if she's interested in you by inviting her to dinner? The following points you should remember clearly.
01.
Whether to accept the offer:
There are many well-established rules in interpersonal communication that even if no one specifically says them, mature adults will tacitly follow them.
For example, two people eat alone, especially the opposite sex.
Eating is a relatively private matter, and people at the dinner table will unconsciously expose a lot of their personal privacy. Therefore, eating alone is actually a privilege that allows each other to be close to themselves and share privacy.
Then, if the man sends out an invitation to dinner and the woman is not interested in it, he will not hesitate to refuse the invitation and clearly tell the man that he has no expectations of him being close, that is, he does not want to develop deeply with him.
Refusing to eat means that the woman has no interest in men, and vice versa, accepting the invitation also means that the woman is interested in men to continue to understand, at least she does not hate you.
Whether you are picky about the environment:
Inviting women to dinner is generally determined by the man when he makes an invitation, so a woman's attitude towards the environment during the meal is also her initial view of men.
If you choose a very high-end, exquisite, expensive restaurant, women will generally like it. If you eat in a small, simple or even cheap restaurant, the woman's attitude should be carefully distinguished.
Drinking water with people you like can be full, in the same way, and people you don't like to eat a big meal is not happy, let alone eat in an unsatisfactory environment?
Therefore, if the woman you invite has a lot of pickiness and dissatisfaction with the eating environment, then even if she is interested in you, it is estimated that there is not much left after eating this meal, and you don't have to bother anymore.
On the contrary, if a woman can even eat with you happily at a roadside stall after being invited by you, then you must believe that as long as she does not take you as a brother, then she must like you very much.
02.
Whether to seek the other party's opinion:
Eating is indispensable to order, and ordering is definitely a big problem to test the relationship between men and women.
For women and men who eat together for the first time, you can see the weight in each other's hearts from the order.
Colleague Yun Bing was quite satisfied with all aspects of the girl's conditions when he went on a blind date, and the two ate together, hoping to deepen their feelings.
When ordering, the girl only picked expensive seafood and ordered a lot, and the amount of dishes completely exceeded the needs of the two people. And because she is from Sichuan and has a spicy taste, she asks the chef to spice it all up when making it.
The problem is that the girls are completely self-made in the entire ordering process, and they have not consulted Yun Bing's opinion at all.
That meal Yun Bing ate very little, he was from Suzhou, and the table was so red that he couldn't get off his chopsticks.
After the meal, Yun Bing never took the initiative to contact the girl again.
Whether or not you can consider the taste of the other party when ordering is a small matter, it is enough to see whether the woman cares about you.
If a woman not only asks for your opinion, but also orders according to your taste, then you can be confident and bold to pursue her.
Whether to take care of each other:
"A meal can show a person's tutoring and cultivation."
Whether a man has a gentlemanly demeanor and whether a woman has a ladylike temperament can be seen through a meal.
A meal, full of tests of detail.
For example, taking the initiative to pour water for each other, taking tissues, and carefully reminding each other that tea is hot and drinking ice, these details hide the other party's attention to you.
If a woman not only does not refuse you to give her a dish during the meal, but also reminds you to be careful of the fish when eating fish and remember to take a coat when leaving, then congratulations, this must be a good woman who is considerate and attentive to you.
03.
Active interaction:
The opposite sex eats alone, definitely not just "eating", the so-called drunkard does not mean wine. In fact, it is to take the opportunity to eat and get close to each other in order to get to know each other better.
If you want to get to know each other, communication at the dinner table is essential.
The kung fu of a meal, if two people talk very happily, talk more than the dish, or the woman does not talk too much but always responds, then this is the other party's interest in you and hope for further development.
On the contrary, if a woman basically does not speak at the dinner table, or even if the response is very perfunctory, then her heart is estimated to have no idea about you, and you will retreat after eating.
If a woman has pulled out her phone and started playing games, chatting, or even following the news while you are talking incessantly, then you should save your effort and eat and leave as quickly as possible.
Whether to check out voluntarily:
According to the custom, men invite women to dinner, and the last person to check out should naturally be boys. However, the small details at checkout are like a magnifying glass, which can make people clearly see the relationship between the two.
Men and women who enter the stage of intimate relationships are generally financially integrated, men try to save trouble, and most of them are managed by women. So when I go out to check out, it's mostly women who pay.
In contrast, men and women who have not yet entered the intimate stage are in the stage of financial independence, and it is said who pays the bill.
If a woman is interested in the man who invites him to dinner and wants to continue to develop a relationship with him in the future, then generally the woman will not pay for the first meal because she thinks "we will have it later".
In another case, a woman who is not interested in the man who invites to dinner, who does not have hope for the future of the two, what would a woman who wants to maintain the image of an independent woman do? How to make men understand their attitudes?
Of course, rushing to check out, this is not polite, but really paying.
Because only in this way can women make men clearly realize: "I am not interested in you, I don't even want to have anything to do with you for a meal." ”
Men don't have to worry about not being able to read the woman's mind, because the easiest way to solve your problem.
Take the initiative to invite the woman you like to have a meal, if she accepts the invitation, is happy to go with you, will be considerate of your tastes and needs during the meal, and interact with you verbally, and smile after eating to see you go to the checkout.
So what are you hesitant about? The woman you like has you in her heart, and she is waiting for you to pursue it!
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