In the process of preparing for the wedding, the couple may have some conceptual differences with their parents, if they cannot be properly resolved, it will not only affect the mood of the couple but also delay the progress of the wedding. How to skillfully resolve differences requires us to master the method of tactful handling.
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Customs followed or not
Each place has its own specific wedding customs, if the bride and groom are people from different regions, which side of the customs should be followed? Is every custom strictly observed?
Solution: Customs should be flexible changes and trade-offs according to the arrangement of the wedding, for example, some places the bride eats tangyuan delegation reunion, some places the bride eats peanut lotus seeds, if it is in the hotel to do the wedding, it will have to make some changes. This is actually a very small detail, and the newcomer can decide for himself. Marriage is to be smooth, and thinking clearly about this many problems will be solved. Of course, some inferior and vicious customs must be strictly rejected.
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Chinese weddings or Western weddings
Some parents hope that the newlyweds will do a traditional Chinese wedding, and the big red foreign atmosphere has a good omen, calling all the relatives and friends to be both lively and facetious; and many couples hope to do Western-style weddings, only invite some close relatives and friends, and the beach wedding trip is also good.
Solution: A combination of Chinese and Western weddings, such as the bride wearing a xiuhe dress in the morning to receive tea without falling, wearing a wedding dress in the afternoon to exchange rings to read vows, and afterparty in the evening. If one of the couples is out of town, many relatives and friends cannot go to the wedding site, and after returning, the couple can hold a banquet to invite guests who have not been able to go, which is also very lively and very lively.
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Communication is necessary
When there is a problem with the parents in the arrangement of the wedding, the first thing to avoid is the direct conflict of language, the experience of the two generations and the culture of acceptance, it is normal to have a conflict of ideas. Although this situation is understandable, but blind obedience or escape can not really solve the problem, the best way is to communicate, the process of communication should follow three principles; listen carefully to the parents' views and considerations; firmly and accurately state their own considerations; and solve the problem from love.
The process of communication is actually a process of peace of mind and communication, do not stubbornly ask parents to accept their own ideas, do not stubbornly require parents to accept their own ideas in their entirety, and try to find a solution to the problem through equal communication.
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Cooperation
Parent Supervisor:
1. Select a date;
2. Hotel reservation and engagement banquet menu;
3. Customs of the day before the wedding (such as making the bed and pressing the bed, etc.) and the customs and procedures on the wedding day (such as where to pay tea, kissing route, etc.);
4. Arrange for people to welcome and entertain guests;
5. Arrange seats for guests;
6. Contact the witness of the main marriage;
7. Arrange a gift, etc.
Child Supervisor:
1. Set the wedding planning, wedding theme, style and on-site decoration;
2. Engagement dress and bridesmaid dress;
3. Makeup artist of the emcee of the fixed photography and videography;
4. Prepare souvenirs (for young guests);
5. Select invitations;
6. Order groomsmen and bridesmaids and purchase groomsmen and bridesmaid gifts;
7. Block the door game and purchase props;
8. Engagement car;
9. Customize the wedding logo and other wedding customization items;
10. Dessert table, sugar candy, sugar box;
11. Wedding games, wedding music, etc.
In fact, the above conflicts can be big or small, think clearly about what is going on in such a festive thing as marriage, and what cannot be reconciled? The consideration of the couple and parents is, in the final analysis, for the smooth completion of the wedding.
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