Hello everyone, I'm Star Man.
Recently, a baby's parent contacted our teacher and said that his baby has now become a "nest horizontal" and does not know how to deal with it.
Obviously in kindergarten, he is obedient and well-behaved, and will take the initiative to help teachers and other children, but he will not help at home, but he will always make trouble, and even a little domineering, and will never share.
In fact, I believe that this parent is not the only one who has such a distress.
Many children are eloquent and lively at home, but when they get to kindergarten or school, they become taciturn and well-behaved.
So how do you bring your child home with a good performance in kindergarten?
Parents also need to be their children's "teachers"
This is certainly not for parents to learn how to be like professional preschool teachers, but to be like teachers – to learn to encourage.
So why encourage children at home, but children only do well in school?
The reason is simple, every word of encouragement from the teacher has his friends watching from the side, and the child will not only get the sense of accomplishment after the praise, but also satisfy their little vanity.
Therefore, parents may wish to leave more praise when there are many people, such as going out to play and visiting at home.
Over time, the child's mind gradually matures, and he will slowly realize that as long as he helps others, actively answers questions, and understands politeness, he will be recognized by others.
Guide your child to "take the initiative"
At the same time, in childcare institutions and kindergartens, each teacher needs to bring several children, so the focus will not be on one child, and children will naturally hope to be able to "compete for favors" in front of teachers and get more attention and recognition.
Therefore, as a parent, even if you love your child, please grasp the "degree" and do not focus all your eyes on your child.
Especially those big families, there are grandparents, grandparents and children loved by parents, naturally do not need children to "show".
Try to adjust your child's status downwards.
Parents can guide their children in this way by announcing in front of the whole family:
There are chicken legs that children love to eat, and today Dad helped cook and performed very well, so he was rewarded to Dad;
WatchING TV at night, today my mother has worked hard to do housework, so watch movies or TV series that my mother likes;
Grandparents have been helping with baby care lately, so get a weekend out on a trip.
In short, we must let the child have a little "sense of competition", so that the child can use his excellent qualities to win the love of the whole family.
When a family cares for each other equally, the child will not think of himself as the only one in the family.
The so-called "emotional intelligence" of children is actually "social quotient".
Not only externally, but also to their own families, in the world of most children, parents always love themselves unconditionally, so all their needs will be met.
In fact, no matter how old the child is, he is an independent individual, do not use authoritarian means to ask the child to obey, but guide him to be independent, so that he can learn how to love and how to respect.
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