Raising a daughter is like eating chocolate, which is a little bitter to eat, but the aftertaste is full of sweetness.
Having a daughter is enough in this life. Author | Lee walnut
What was it like to have two daughters?
Probably: others think you have two "little cotton jackets" and two "China Merchants Bank".
In the future, there will be two "construction banks" calling you mother-in-law, the proper "king of the daughter country".
What's more, my college roommate, the old mother of two sons, actually asked me if I wanted to change children with her.
The reason is that "raising a son is too tired, I want a daughter, dress her up beautifully, call her mother delicate, think about it and feel beautiful..."
Wake up, it's beautiful not to have children!
Raise a son, have enough energy to play with him.
Accompany him to chase and play a big horse, Ultraman vs Godzilla, take him to the construction site to see excavators, and stay at home to play cat and mouse games.
As for the daughters, I'm sorry, only physical strength is not worthy of them.
It also requires eyesight, ear power, mouth power, heart power, brain power, financial strength, concentration, affinity, combat effectiveness, imagination...
If raising a son is a manual job;
So raising a daughter often makes people tired of external injuries, internal injuries, and half-dead!
The girl's mother
The mouth should be stupid, the heart should be thin, and the guts should be fat
It is said that three women are a drama, I often think that I am the heroine, and the two daughters are female partners.
It's just that the female partners I met have all the skills to kill, and often "kill" me to collapse into an army.
When I got up in the morning, the 7-year-old said I would wear a skirt.
I said it was only 10° too cold today, she said she wasn't cold, and when she was done, she rummaged through the boxes and cabinets and took out a summer tulle skirt.
I talked a bunch of things before she reluctantly agreed to the kitted T-shirt inside the skirt, and then the new question came again:
"Doesn't this T-shirt match the color of the skirt?" I'm going to change into a T-shirt! ”
Again, I rummaged through the boxes and cabinets one by one, making a mess of the wardrobe.
After matching the T-shirt, but also with pants, socks, shoes, the whole process down, the old mother's patience has been reduced to a negative number.
Do you think that's the end of it?
No! It wasn't until I picked up the comb that she began to zoom in.
Tie the ponytail, she is too ordinary; tie the twist braid, she is afraid of the soil; tie the scorpion braid, she thinks it is too long.
It was hard to determine the hairstyle, and she felt that you combed her.
I just said, "You're in trouble," and she pouted, lengthened her face, and got angry.
It doesn't matter if you don't coax her, the more you coax her, the more aggrieved you are, and you even say that I yell at her, scold her, and don't love her.
I was eager to swear to show my love, but she said, "Forget it, I won't tell you..."
In fairy tales, the princess is always praised as beautiful, but never mentions that the princess is picky and loves to dress; always praises the princess as noble and generous, but never mentions that the princess is sensitive and squeamish.
So fairy tales are all deceitful, and the truth is:
Influenced by brain development and hormones, girls have more delicate minds, richer emotions, and more varied emotions.
The slightest inattention will stimulate their sensitive and delicate nerves.
So they: light temper tantrums, throwing faces, heavy crying and crying, coaxing is not good.
When you meet a girl with a personality, she also dares to scare you with a small mouth.
For example, our boss.
When the second brother was throwing a tantrum, she came to reprimand the second brother, and even made the second brother cry again!
I couldn't help but say to her, "Just take care of yourself!" ”
Her gun fire immediately turned to me:
"Mom, I'm disciplining her for you!" Why do you say the other way around me... hum! I see that she is spoiled, you didn't spoil me so much when I was a child, when I was a child, I..."
It is said that middle-aged women are tough, but the 40-year-old tigress may not win the 14-year-old daughter.
You reason with her, and if you win the reason, you will also lose the feelings.
You talk to her about feelings, and she says that adults are unreasonable and unfair.
Education experts often say that girls develop their language early and have stronger language skills, and every time they are intimidated by the boss, my understanding of this is deeper.
So over the years, I have summed up the secret of being a girl's mother, that is: the mouth should be stupid, the heart should be thin, and the guts should be fat.
The mouth should be a little stupid: when the daughter is afraid of the mother, don't be too real, talk less and listen more, it is really not possible to be soft, admit it, let them enjoy the talent of language "carry forward", and by the way, they can also close the distance between each other's hearts.
"Heart eyes" a little more: pay attention to their cool and painful points, and add more comfort and encouragement when they are vulnerable, timid, and sentimental.
Be bolder: When they want to dress up or other innocuous explorations, let them toss and turn, after all, the trial and error of childhood is a valuable learning experience.
In short, the girl's mother is not good!
They seem to be beautiful and flawless, but in fact, they are strange, making people tired, mouth tired, and body more tired.
You see the old mother's increasingly fat body, in fact, it is more and more "broad-minded" by grievances.
The girl's dad
Speak softly, do things hard, and be soft with iron men
When he learned that the second was a daughter again, the husband was proud at first, thinking that there would be a situation of "three women competing for one man" in the family.
At least literally, his dream came true.
Every time our whole family was tired of playing outside, the two daughters competed for him to carry, and the second even wanted to ride on his neck.
When we were staying at home on the weekend, the daughters took turns grabbing the remote control again, and he hadn't seen a football game in a long time.
What about usual?
If he hadn't gotten up earlier, the family wouldn't have even left him a men's restroom.
Whenever the second brother wants to play the family, he often gives him powder, eyebrows, lipstick, and lets him make a cameo appearance as some villains.
He made a cameo appearance as Snow White's stepmother and asked pretentiously, "Mirror mirror!" I'm the most beautiful woman in the world, right? ”
Also made a cameo appearance in the Tianzhu maiden Jade Rabbit Essence, and the second elder played Sun Wukong holding a clothes drying pole and chasing after him: "Goblin! Where to escape! ”
As he fled, he tiptoed around me in small steps, scratching his head and singing, "Who is it that sent you to me..."
Since becoming a father, my husband has become more and more talented.
In addition to going to the hall, I also got down to the kitchen, I could comb my hair, I could get my clothes, I could coax my children, and I was worthy of an example.
After the eldest went to junior high school, he even went to learn Sanda.
The reason was that the eldest junior high school had transferred to another school, and the new environment without friends was a bit timid, when a boy in the next class passed her a love letter, and still harassed her from time to time after being rejected.
After the husband learned about it, he personally picked up the boss for a period of time and gave a verbal warning to the boy, so that the matter could be stopped, and the boss slowly integrated into the new group.
But the husband is still not at ease:
"She will meet all kinds of people in this life, educated and uncultured, and I can't follow her 24 hours a day, so the key is to teach her to learn to protect herself and face herself."
So he reported sanda to the boss and taekwondo to the second boss.
In addition to sparring for the two daughters every day, the father and daughter often run, play ball and swim in the morning.
The two daughters who exercise regularly not only have good health and rarely get sick, but also have full vitality and look very bad.
But they do not easily cause trouble, because their husbands often "boil chicken soup" for them.
For a while, the boss got into a conflict with her friend, and no matter what kind of friend she did, she ignored her, and she was very sad.
Her husband advised her: "Those friends who make you sad can stay away, and real friends are reluctant to make you sad." ”
The eldest was relieved, and after that, as long as he encountered problems, he liked to find his father, and the father and daughter often said while eating at the night market, and the second brother sometimes followed to join in the fun.
The boss can't learn when he first touches geometry, and he breaks the jar a bit.
Her husband encouraged her: "When you feel difficult, it means that you are on the way, so don't give up easily..."
Looking at my husband, who is also a teacher and friend with his daughter, my feelings are somewhat complicated:
My daughter liked to cling to me when she was a child, but the more she grew up, the less she listened to me.
Especially the boss who is in adolescence, either thinks that I am nagging, or that I am too disciplined, but she does not reject her father.
So now our family's division of labor is like this: the eldest is under the management of the husband, and the second is under my control.
But I found that the second brother now likes to follow his father more and more.
Qingming Festival holiday, the husband said that he made an appointment with his buddies to play basketball, and the second brother actually said, "I will also go!" I'll play forward! ”
Her husband actually took her there!
Did the second boss play forward later?
On the way to the basketball court, there was a playground where the father and daughter played for an afternoon.
Halfway through, the second elder called me:
"Dad took me on a roller coaster ride, and I was happy and thought of my mom and sister, it was so much fun!" I also want you to feel it..."
The daughter is like this, sometimes making people angry with heart and liver pain, spleen and stomach pantothenic acid;
Sometimes it turns into a warm "little cotton jacket", delicately telling her love and care for you, which makes people's hearts warm.
The boss has not appeared for such a long time, what are he busy with?
When we answered the phone, we were making dumplings, she rolled the skin, I wrapped the stuffing, and it was just right.
While rolling out the skin, she talked to me about the so-and-so and so-and-so in their class, and the teacher and the teacher were getting engaged, anyway, it was very lively, and I listened to it with relish.
This is my family:
A mother who is often busy and occasionally relaxed;
A father who often fights with his children and is occasionally reliable;
A sister who often quarrels with us and occasionally understands things;
A sister who is often unreasonable and occasionally upset.
Although there are such and such unsatisfactory, the two daughters will always heal people again in a moment.
So when my college roommate repeatedly proposed to change a child with me, even though I knew it was a joke, I still refused mercilessly: I wanted to change my daughter, you want to be beautiful!
After all, when they grow up, I will wear the beautiful clothes of their sisters, use their cosmetics, and drink the afternoon tea they made for me.
We also have to go shopping arm in arm, watch movies, and buy and buy.
Such a life, think about it all feel beautiful.
If you also have a daughter, remember to tell her: with you, with you, this life is enough.
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