"May I ask, my child is 8 years old, will it be too late to learn the violin?"
"As long as you want to learn, parents and children have perseverance, and it is not too late to do so."
"My child used to learn guzheng, but recently he has been making noise, and he is not willing to learn it anyway. Asked if she wanted to learn the violin to try, she said yes, and I thought about asking you. ”
"It turned out... So what about before that? ”
"I also studied backgammon, piano..."
It was a real conversation between me and my parents, and when the mom typed out the last paragraph, she seemed a little hesitant.
Now I want to learn violin only because I don't want to learn guzheng; before guzheng, there were many "hobbies" that were abandoned halfway.
"It's not a hobby, I hope my daughter can have a skill, and can rely on this skill to have better development in the future."
After I said "interest is not three minutes of heat," the mom explained.
This is not the first time I have encountered such a situation, many parents are full of thoughts about letting their children learn a skill early; at the same time, they are worried that their children will not be happy in the process of learning, and they will not be able to take enough time to accompany and supervise, which will lead to constantly changing tracks and even losing their way.
The dilemma of parents
The above conclusion does not mean that the problem lies with the parents.
In fact, parents are quite difficult.
I have seen many cases of children getting tired of the violin, and parents do not want to let their children "suffer", so they agree to change their children to another hobby. But the fact is that the heat of children is often only three minutes, changing one track after another, or facing the end of three days of fishing and two days of drying nets; at the same time, children gradually grow up, seeing that the peers around them, or the children who learned the piano together at that time, have achieved achievements, and it is inevitable that there will be a gap.
"Why didn't you urge me to learn the violin well?" The child asked.
"Because you're too tired of studying, you say you don't want to learn anymore." Parents are helpless.
"That's because I'm just a kid!" I don't understand, don't you understand? Can't you hold on a little longer and push me to learn? ”
The pain at that time, but later, became the reason for being blamed. In the context of the inner volume, more parents try their best to let their children not lose at the starting line, spending a lot of financial resources and energy, whether to let the children start to work hard early, or to give the children a happy and free childhood? Is it to listen to the child, change the direction in time, or persevere to urge the child to persevere? It's too hard to decide.
How exactly?
Remember the TV series "Family with Children" that I watched before, there was such a dialogue:
Liu Xingma: "When I was a child, I reported you to this class and that class, I wanted you to learn, but you didn't learn it yourself!"
Liu Xing: "I don't want to learn, you won't let me learn!" At that time, I was still young, and I didn't understand things, so didn't you understand things? You should have cultivated me and educated me from an early age, and you forced me to learn from an early age..."
After Liu Xing finished speaking, her mother suddenly stopped talking.
15 years old feel that swimming is difficult, give up swimming, 18 years old met a person who likes you to swim, had to say I will not;
18-year-old felt that English was difficult, gave up English, 28-year-old appeared a great but to know English job, had to say I would not;
The more troublesome and lazy you are in the early stage of life, the more likely you are to miss the people and things that move you and miss the new scenery.
A study in the United States found that it is not IQ that determines the future of a child, but persistence.
"Art is not pressurized", with talent and art leaning on the body, not only can cultivate sentiments, improve artistic accomplishment, but also establish more confidence in future learning and life.
Children choose an interest class, but after studying for a while and do not want to learn, this is a problem that many parents will encounter. So how to cultivate the quality of children's persistence? Sticking with her may be the best demonstration, perhaps the best way.
Roman Roland once said that the most terrible enemy is the lack of strong faith. If parents don't help their children shape such beliefs from an early age, who can help them when they grow up?
So, when your child talks about not wanting to learn the violin for the 10,086th time, try to accompany him again, perhaps, there will be a time when the willow is dark.