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After the opening of the third child, the cousin of the uncle's family responded to the policy and asked for three children, and he would often persuade the relatives around him to say: Since you can have three children, you will have another one, and no one in the family can't do it.
There is no problem with having such an idea, provided that there is a certain economic foundation to be able to support children.
And this is only basic, the survival of people to see how to "save", give birth to children, can not provide basic education for children, can not squeeze out enough time to guide children, let children become a qualified person, it is better not to exist, because the existence of such people can only increase unlimited troubles, anxiety and pressure.
"Saving money is not as good as saving people", the child fights for his father, the father is proud, and the ending is over
He Hong, from a remote mountain village in Sichuan, with poor family living conditions, went to Shanghai to work in order to make a living, and when he left, he had great ambitions and hoped to honor his ancestors through his own efforts.
After arriving in Shanghai, he found a job at a construction site, where he met Zhang Xingzi, who cooked for the workers, and the two of them hit it off and were able to find comfort from each other.
Zhang Xingzi, persuaded by He Hong, returned to his hometown in Sichuan with him, and the two of them married without even holding a decent wedding.
He Hong firmly believes that it is better to save money than to save people, and he is determined to have more children, and if there are more children, there will be a way out.
After the two people got married, at the request of He Hong, they began to have children continuously, and had 11 children in 16 years.
Zhang Xingzi claimed to suffer from intermittent mental disorders, and constantly giving birth to children made the already poor family more stretched, even if she was pregnant, she did not have time to rest, when she gave birth to her first child, she carried dozens of pounds of grass home before childbirth.
There are more and more children, and the two people still have to run for life, and they are more and more powerless. Even the most basic material life can not guarantee the children, the children live in a dirty and messy environment, there is not enough to eat, without the villagers' help and government relief, the husband and wife can not support so many children.
He Hong relied on his stalking skills to run to the relevant departments at every turn to make a fool of himself, and only then did he solve the children's hukou problem.
In fact, when the husband and wife continue to have children, the relevant departments have looked for He Hong, all to no avail, as soon as he mentioned that he should not have children again, he jumped to his feet and scolded the street.
Later, after giving birth to her 11th child, taking advantage of He Hong's absence, the relevant personnel found Zhang Xingzi and took her to the health center and underwent surgery.
It is really unable to support the basic living expenses of 11 children, and the youngest child is given away, which is also a relief.
The eldest son believed that he was born to suffer, and the eldest daughter, who was originally a gentle personality, later changed her personality and was finally admitted to a psychiatric hospital.
The other children's children's state is not much better, because there is a strange smell on their bodies, they have no friends at school, they are excluded everywhere they go, and they are always hungry, and the children's young minds are somewhat hurt.
What is even more ridiculous is that in order to take a sip of wine, He Hong fought with people in the same family, the children saw their father fighting with people, and immediately surrounded him, He Hong not only did not dissuade the children, control their emotions in time, but felt proud of it, he felt that he did not have so many children in vain, at least when fighting, his momentum was enough.
An eighty-year-old man, beaten and kicked by a group of children, was finally stabbed to death by He Hong, and He Hong also paid a heavy price for this and was sentenced to life.
Children who are already having a difficult life really don't know what the future holds.
"Saving money is not as good as saving people", the premise is to be able to provide children with a good education
Saving money is not as good as saving people, this word should be based on certain conditions, if the family has three children, each has been well educated, boys have the responsibility to take responsibility, the future has achieved a career, girls understand etiquette, culture, but also in their own field has achieved certain achievements, parents are of course happy, others only envy.
In this case, saving money is not as good as saving people, saving money, money is dead, saving people, people are alive, the future can create more value.
But the premise is that you have to save well, save money, put money in the account on the line, save people, you have to pay money, pay time and energy, raise a child, but it is not so easy.
If several children raised end up becoming inferior to their own people, the "survivors" at this time are equivalent to "bad debts", parents are unhappy, and children themselves are also guilty of living.
Whether or not to have children, whether to have children, from the actual situation
After the three-child policy, should we "swarm" to give birth to a third child?
Have money, energy, of course, you can have children, if you don't have money and no time, don't go to the fun.
A family with an annual income of 200,000 can of course have three children, and it is more than enough to support three children, but if you want to provide children with good educational resources, such a family obviously cannot afford to raise three children.
If parents can invest great energy in raising children, then the educational resources enjoyed by children are not necessarily more real, or to the actual situation of personal family income, the best state of raising children is that the family has no pressure, do not because after raising children, adults are reluctant to eat, reluctant to drink, to rely on food and clothing to raise children.
Parents shrink their clothes and food, trying to teach their children a good material life and educational resources, is a way of education with endless troubles, which is not a good start.
When is the best state: after having children in the family, parents and children eat the same food, wear the same level of clothing, the children are not specialized, the family is not a dirty mess because of the arrival of the child, the emotions of adults are not destroyed because of the arrival of the child, and the home is more often full of laughter.